Hello everyone, I am a talent, today we come to talk about the recent PC incident of a certain Di, then after this incident occurred, the teacher also paid attention. Some people have also asked teachers: What do you think about this matter? From my point of view, in addition to saying that the law is sanctioned, the teacher is more concerned about how we deal with this problem when everyone has this problem? Relieve yourself of the damage.
Originally, I was not going to talk about this matter, after all, it has some negativity, and it may cause a negative psychological panic for everyone. But I found that after this incident happened, many female friends took the initiative to come to the teacher and asked some questions that everyone was more concerned about, and I summarized three. I will give you a unified reply to these questions in this episode of the show. Which three questions?
The first one is, teacher, do men do it?
The second is, why would men do this? Isn't the wife at home fragrant?
The third is, my husband has this situation, do I want to divorce?
It is nothing more than these three problems, so let's talk about them one by one.
Is the first to say that men are all? Not necessarily, and the answer doesn't really matter. From the perspective of a marriage counselor, the teacher is more concerned about the fact that from the time you start to doubt this matter, it may be a relatively big hurt to your feelings, why?
What's it like? When someone sees a violent incident on the Internet, they will feel that there is no good person around, and when someone glances at you, you will feel as if he is going to attack you. In fact, there is no need to be such a soldier, after all, this is only a minority event.
Because we liken this thing to a poisonous delicacy, that is, he is poisonous. Does this poisonous man know? He knows it too. For example, delicious food, when do you most want to eat it? It must be the hungriest time, so when do you not want to eat anything? When you're full.
The second question is, why do men behave this way? Either it's the fresh excitement that comes with it, and this is not much to explain. Or maybe some people are looking through this thing for that kind of self-confidence, humble self-confidence.
What is humble self-confidence? That is, he may be very inferior in some places in his life and cannot find self-confidence, so he will look for this sense of accomplishment through this matter. Why does this kind of thing look for a sense of accomplishment? Because the consumer will enjoy the sense of being served, of course, from the perspective of the psychological counselor, this behavior is psychologically immature, perhaps his psychology is flawed.
The third question, has a woman met to divorce? The answer to this question is not absolute, why? Divorce or not must not be decided by this alone. For example, if a couple finds out that their husband is out to play, they will divorce him immediately, which is also an immature and irrational behavior.
Why? Because although from a legal point of view, or from a moral point of view, this matter is definitely illegal, or immoral, it must be the fault of men, but from the perspective of this teacher, I still hope that everyone can live better. Because after his mistakes appear, if you divorce him and end up making yourself worse off, isn't that punishing yourself for his mistakes?
Therefore, the criterion for divorce must be that in the process of getting along with this person, you feel that the other party is not worthy of yourself, not that after the other party has made a mistake, you can't deal with it, you can only choose divorce to solve it, so that you seem to be better, but in fact, it hurts more.
So what do we do when we encounter this situation? The teacher suggested that everyone pay more attention to themselves to alleviate the harm caused by this matter. For example, some negativity, some lack of trust, and so on. After you've repaired yourself, decide whether to get a divorce or not.
For example, if I fix myself and I don't think this man is worth it at all, you choose the divorce teacher to support you and hope to help everyone's feelings.