Mentioning the old Ding played by Ren Shuai in "Parental Love", in order to highlight the image of Jiang Defu's tall and mighty shore, the director portrayed the old Ding as a male second relatively "obscene". In Wang Xiu'e's words, Lao Ding is eating in the bowl and looking at the pot, in jiang Defu's words, Lao Ding just can't eat grapes and say that the grapes are sour.
Lao Ding married Wang Xiu'e but did not give his wife the love of a husband, and Wang Xiu'e or later Jiang Dehua were from reality, marrying them has nothing to do with love, just because they are industrious and capable and can help Old Ding manage the family outside the home! Old Ding felt uneasy all his life, he envied Jiang Defu's marriage with Anjie, and when he had the opportunity to pursue the same marriage as Jiang Defu, in the face of Ge's origin, Old Ding retreated, so many friends said that Old Ding did not have the courage of Jiang Defu, and still wanted the happiness of others, dream about it! In short, Lao Ding gives people the feeling that this mountain looks at the mountain high, is not willing in marriage, gives him a chance and has no courage, and likes to give people such a somewhat unpretentious impression of being a bit sour.
So is Old Ding really as bad as many people think? In fact, Lao Ding wants to put it in real life, but he is a rare good man! When we watch the play, we are often unconsciously affected by the aura of the protagonist, and often unconsciously examine each character with the perspective of God. Can get rid of these, pull Lao Ding into the real environment, Lao Ding is indeed a rare good man.
After all, Jiang Defu is hard to find in real life! Like Jiang Defu, a man who has responsibilities, a small burden on his original family, and an emotional intelligence iq that is online, originally belongs to the best in reality, and can be fantasized in the novel and TV series, but in reality, even Lao Ding is a good man in the world.
Old Ding did not abandon the wife of the chaff. Although Lao Ding did not have love with Wang Xiu'e, he did not abandon the wife of the chaff, and it should be known that in that era, it was very common for many superiors to abandon the wife of the chaff and marry another wife, but Lao Ding did not do so. After he settled down in the artillery school, he took Wang Xiu'e's mother and son over, at least with him, than in the rural hometown, it was much better than living in the rural hometown, whether from the living environment or food, clothing, housing and travel, in the fifties and sixties of the last century, the rural life was still very bitter. In the eyes of most people, in fact, they are very envious of Wang Xiu'e, and finally stayed up and followed their husbands into the city to enjoy the blessings.
Old Ding has a great sense of responsibility for his family. The place where Lao Ding was criticized the most by everyone was that he and Teacher Ge, Lao Ding seemed particularly irresponsible, the marriage application was beaten back, Lao Ding directly gave up, and even did not fight for it. Let us see the cowardly and fearless old Ding, in fact, here is the embodiment of lao Ding's responsibility for his family, at this time, there are old and young people, the old man needs to be supported, there are four sons to be raised below, in the end, the actual conditions of Lao Ding's family do not allow him to be willful for love! He also wanted to ignore it like Jiang Defu, but could he? He can't! He has to raise so many people, the responsibility of family affection that he bears, so that he has no capital at all, and after weighing up, he gave up love, which may be a bit of scum for Teacher Ge, but for Lao Ding's family, it is very responsible!
Old Ding knew that Li Mingyi scrupulously abided by his duty. Lao Ding likes Anjie, and almost everyone on this earth knows that Lao Ding's two wives, Wang Xiu'e and Jiang Dehua, know it well, and even Jiang Defu knows that Lao Ding has unusual thoughts about Anjie. However, Lao Ding's two wives did not seriously discuss with Lao Ding, and when Jiang Defu went to his post, he still entrusted his wife to Lao Ding's care.
In fact, it is because Jiang Defu believes in Lao Ding's personality, and Lao Ding's two wives believe in Lao Ding's personality. Although Lao Ding has one kind or another problem, he is righteous, knows that Li Mingyi scrupulously abides by his duties, likes Anjie only to appreciate from a distance, and will not have any other crooked thoughts, so although Wang Xiu'e and Jiang Dehua eat taste, they are not really more true than Lao Ding. Although Jiang Defu knew Lao Ding's thoughts, he still entrusted Anjie to his care because Jiang Defu believed that Lao Ding was not the kind of person who came to hulai.
In real life, there are very few perfect men, so we often use "no one is perfect" to numb ourselves, in reality like Lao Ding, willing to be responsible can bring a sense of security to the family, and the character is still decent, such a man is a good man in the world, well, look at Lao Ding by ordinary standards, is it possible to find the valuable point of Lao Ding? Moreover, Lao Ding still has the status of an officer, but in terms of this social status, how many people can't meet the standard!