Ice Daddy Ice Mom, in the kingdom of ice hockey Canada is an admirable and highly respected group.
In the ice hockey season, they often have to brave the biting cold wind and snow to pick up their ice hockey teenagers to participate in training and various competitions; in the off-season, they sometimes have to brave the scorching sun and storm to pick up the ice hockey teenagers to participate in ice hockey summer camps and summer games.
The University of Alberta, Canada, summarizes a list of things parents should and shouldn't do for kids hockey (click to see the big picture).
In China, as far as I know, since 2000, as children's ice hockey training and competition have regained new life and developed rapidly in Beijing, ice hockey parents here have also paid a lot of time, energy and money for their hockey teenagers like Canada's ice hockey fathers and mothers.
Hockey parents have made great sacrifices and dedications to their children's ice hockey growth, which is why the first round of the NHL Draft is broadcast live every year, and the first time the selected players are interviewed, the first thing to thank is their parents and other relevant family members.
The video is of Canadian ice hockey rising star Cater Hart's mom and grandfather watching his first game in the NHL, which was the moment Cater Hart held the opponent's first shot. Cater Hart's family are excellent hockey parents, which has helped Cater Hart a lot in his success. Cater Hart was the goalkeeper of the 2017 Canadian U20 team winning the U20 World Championship. In the NHL, Carter Hart recently set a record for winning eight consecutive games as a goalkeeper under the age of 20.
Of course, behind the hardships and honors, there are also some hockey parents who create a lot of unpleasant things inside and outside the ice rink. Therefore, how to guide hockey parents to do better has become an important part of the development of children's ice hockey. Today, we will talk about this topic.
In general, there are five typical types of hockey parents, see illustration:
The fourth type of problem is more problematic - criticizing reprimanded hockey parents, whose words and deeds make it difficult for hockey teenagers to get pleasure from ice hockey, and even lose self-confidence;
The biggest problem is the fifth kind of hockey parents, the referee coach type of ice hockey parents, who point fingers at the work of coaches and referees, gossip, and make false comments, and they will also blame other ice hockey parents and ice hockey teenagers, which is a major cause of unpleasant things on and off the ice;
Even worse, there are critics of hockey parents who are both reprimanded and referee coaches.
The second and third types of ice hockey parents in the illustrations are usually fine, but what we should do is the first type of hockey parents – sitting sensibly in the stands and watching the child's training and playing, being a loyal spectator of the child, cheering for the child.
Let me tell you what problems hockey parents can have with overly criticizing and harshly reprimanding their children.
In January this year, I returned to Beijing for two weeks on a business trip, and in the evening I had free time to play ice hockey with my former teammates and golfers. One day in the locker room of an ice rink on Boda Road, A few golfers and I saw an ice hockey mother taking off her protective gear for a child who had just been on the ice, while loud and severely reprimanding and scaring her six-year-old ice hockey baby, if there was no one around.
The child was overwhelmed, pleading and crying. One of the reasons why Bing Mom repeatedly questioned the child was why the training was not serious; another reason was that the child's two technical problems: one was why the child did not pull the rod when he hit a hit, and the other was why the child hit the goalkeeper when he shot. I haven't seen the actual scene and can't comment on it (in the next issue I'll discuss some specific issues in children's ice hockey training and competition). Here, I just want to warn hockey parents that they can't simply blame their children and hurt their children's interest in learning to play hockey. Only when children like and love ice hockey from the bottom of their hearts, can they have the inner motivation to train seriously and diligently, and can they use the ice hockey skills and tactics they have learned creatively and imaginatively.
I think there are two main reasons why hockey parents blindly reprimand their children: unrealistic expectations of their children in hockey and unreasonable comparisons of their children with other hockey teenagers.
1) Why are there unrealistic expectations?
Many hockey parents are elite and successful people in their professions, and they also want to inherit their success in their field to their children on the hockey rink, so that their children become the elite on the hockey field. They attach great importance to the child's development and training progress in ice hockey, and invest considerable money, time and energy in this regard. In return on investment, they expect their children to start by becoming the little stars of their team and continue to grow into the best of their age hockey teenagers in the city and even in the country.
Jackie Chan is a traditional Chinese culture, and the key is that hockey parents understand that in the operation of hockey, the world's fastest collective ball, it is more difficult for children to achieve success than in other sports and other hobbies. There are many subjective and objective factors that determine the speed of progress and the competitive height that a child can achieve in hockey, some factors that are controllable by hockey parents and others that are uncontrollable. Ice hockey parents should support and motivate their children to work hard in training and competition, while calmly accepting their children's growth process and results on the road of ice hockey.
2) Why are there unreasonable comparisons?
There is no one objective scale that compares the abilities of two children on hockey, as each child is different from the others. Looking at the child's progress rate and evaluating the child's progress, the only objective way to compare is the child's own comparison with himself, so that it is easier to see that the child is constantly making progress.
Ice hockey parents should help their children to play with their own characteristics, build on their strengths and avoid weaknesses, and form a playing style that suits their own characteristics; encourage children to give full play to their own playing potential, rather than blindly imitating the strengths of other children in handan toddlers.
Ice hockey parents should not forget that the main purpose of letting children play ice hockey is to shape the child's personality through the platform of ice hockey, learn the skills of life, and give the child a lifestyle of fitness and entertainment and clubbing. Hockey parents should not satisfy their vanity or make their faces look better at the expense of the fun and tangible benefits of their children playing hockey.
Mikey Dipietro was the goalkeeper of canada's U20 team at the 2017 U20 World Championships, and it was her mother talking about her feelings as a goalkeeper mother – nerve-wrenching and in need of good self-regulation.
Second, let's talk about referee coaching hockey parents.
In Beijing, almost all hockey parents have no experience in ice hockey themselves, and even know nothing about ice hockey before their children participate in ice hockey. But often in the river station where there are not wet shoes, with the growth of their children's ice hockey age, some ice hockey parents have also been sick for a long time, gradually understand some game rules and some ice hockey technical and tactical knowledge, and slowly have their own views and views on the game and training. Unfortunately, this can also lead to some situations: one is dissatisfaction with some of the penalties of the game referee in the game; the other is to have a lot of criticism of the coach's training plan, method and on-the-spot command of the game; and the third is to personally become a coach and guide his children to train and play.
The first thing I want to emphasize is that hockey parents, especially those in senior leadership positions, should set an example for their hockey teenagers to respect the referee and respect the coach. If a problem with the referee and coach is found, it should be dealt with by the relevant management through the proper channels. Evaluating and blaming referees and coaches in public, both in person and behind their backs, is often useless and even leads to unnecessary conflicts. Ice hockey is a process that can easily be emotional, but hockey parents should still remember that when they see a child on the other team fouling or seriously fouling their own child, don't go directly to the parents of the other child's foul child to theorize, which is a major source of conflict between many hockey parents. If you have objections to the coach's on-site employment arrangement, that is, the coach gives his child's playing time, it is necessary to focus on the overall situation of the team's game and understand the coach's employment arrangement.
Hockey parents personally teach their children to play hockey more carefully. A long-term illness does not mean that you can prescribe the right medicine. If you are only talking on paper and have half-understanding, but you do not have any or a certain degree of experience in playing ice hockey and can teach children the practical experience of playing ice hockey, do not teach your children personally. It's just well-intentioned, but the result is counterproductive.
On March 29, 2018, before the Chicago Blackhawks played against the Winnipeg Jets, The Chicago Blackhawks' Brent Seabrook stood by his parents Susan and Gary, his wife Dana Marcellus, their children and his brother Keith to celebrate their 1,000th NHL pro game. Such ceremonies are common in the NHL because the honor of every hockey player is filled with the selfless support of family, especially parents. (Source: Visual China)
During the public skating hours in Beijing and in the Ottawa ice rink in Canada, I have seen some hockey parents standing on the edge of the ice rink or on the ice to guide their children to practice skating, and many times they are repeating the wrong movements for their children. This kind of training seems to save money and trouble, but in fact, it is not worth the loss. The child's practice method is not right, it can only be counterproductive, waste time, and may pay more investment in the future to change the bad sliding habits formed by mistraining. For ice hockey parents who have not received formal ice hockey training and have not participated in a certain level and number of regular ice hockey games, it is already dutiful to supervise their children to practice in the public skating rink according to the requirements of the coach, do not overstep the line, and easily become the child's coach.
In short, ice hockey parents take their children to participate in ice hockey, in line with the principle of ice hockey to accompany their children to thrive. Support and encourage children to try new things, cultivate children to take ice hockey as a lifelong hobby, and enjoy the fun brought by the sport of ice hockey. The emphasis is on the growth process of children's playing, not on the final result of playing; the emphasis is on the child's learning and mastery of the little progress of ice hockey skills and tactics, not on the excessive emphasis on achieving certain achievements and achievements.
I wish every hockey parent to share wonderful moments on the ice hockey road of working together with their children, cherish unforgettable experiences, leave good memories, and create eternal memories.