<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > introduction</h1>
The poet Xu Zhimo once said, "I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of people; "Romance is like Xu Zhimo, who has been searching for the only soul mate all his life, and as ordinary people, the soul mate is even more encounterable and unattainable."
The film I want to share with you today, "The World in Your Eyes", is a European and American fantasy love movie about "soul mates". The film tells the story of two strange men and women at the eastern and western ends of the continental United States, bound together by incredible forces, sharing their senses of sight, hearing, and smell. Although the two have never met, they have become each other's soul mates, giving each other understanding and warmth.
Poster of The World Through Your Eyes
It is worth mentioning that the film is written by Joss Whedon, who has participated in the screenwriting of "Toy Story", directed the superhero movie "The Avengers", and wrote and directed the TV series "Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.". This gold medal screenwriter, who almost made a big deal, did not expect to write such a fresh love story, which cannot help but be admired.
Joss Whedon and The Avengers
After watching this film, what touched me the most was: everyone aspires to have a "soul mate", so what kind of talent is suitable to become our "soul mate"? Today, I will talk about my views from the three aspects of "empathy", "discovering the true self", and "soul freedom", and take you to understand this fresh fantasy love movie together.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >, you may not have experienced my past, but you can empathize with my pain and pleasure</h1>
The male protagonist Dylan in the film lives in New Mexico, and the heroine Rebecca lives in New Hampshire, and the two people in the vast sea of people who were difficult to intersect opened their empathetic world in a ski accident when Rebecca was a child. As long as this state is turned on, they can share each other's sense of sight, hearing, and smell.
The first "encounter" between the male and female protagonists, filmed from the first point of view, makes the viewer feel immersed
The two have a tacit understanding not only physically, but also mentally. They always have endless topics to talk about, they will listen to their favorite music together, and they will do childish test questions. Rebecca can feel Dylan's kindness and warmth under his seemingly uninhibited appearance; Dylan can feel her sensitivity and uneasiness under the delicate appearance of Rebecca's life. They can empathize with each other's experiences and are closer to each other's souls.
The "reunion" of the male and female protagonists
One manifestation of empathy is that when I want to say it, you are willing to listen. In life, we always think of something interesting or sad and want to tell people around us, but if he says, "I'm sleepy, let's talk about it tomorrow." Or, "I'm busy, I don't have time right now." "We may lose interest immediately, and if we don't say anything at the moment, we don't want to mention it again, and our hearts will get farther and farther away."
"Spending a Long Time with Anthony" writes: "I always wanted to say something, but in the end I was silent." After all, some people are only suitable for meeting long-term companions. "If two people can't empathize with each other, then you won't care about what I think, and you won't have the patience to listen, and we won't be together for long." After all, life is so long, I have a lot to say to the person next to me.
People who know empathy in life are usually empathetic people, even if they have not experienced something, they can express their understanding and perception to those who have experienced it. He may not comment or give advice, but just listen quietly and feel comfortable.
There are many truths that we understand intellectually and know what to do best. But sometimes people just don't want to be rational, don't want to be directed by anyone, at that moment they just want someone who can listen to our boredom, he doesn't have to express his opinion, just listen quietly, and then give us a reassuring look. Life is a long time, so be sure to find someone who is willing to listen to us and can empathize with us.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, we find our true selves in each other's eyes and become better selves</h1>
The heroine Rebecca is married to Philip, a psychiatrist, but Philip has never understood Rebecca's inner pain for many years, and he has always forced her to do various things according to his own logic, not caring about her wishes.
Talking to the noblewoman at a banquet about boring right and wrong, even if she had no interest; laughing with the old man at a fundraising event, even if the man's eyes were full of obscenity; manipulating her most precious mother's photo album without permission, because he thought it would make her more nervous. Philip didn't care what Rebecca really wanted, always thinking that everything he did was for her good, in fact, he was pushing her further.
Fudan master Chen Guo once said: "In true love, there is no hatred of iron and steel." "Indeed, I love you as you are. If you love someone and you know that he is an iron, please love him as a piece of iron. Don't use your requirements to force him to be the one who meets your ideal standards, even if he does, it is not the original him.
Good feelings not only allow us to maintain our true selves, but also allow us to become a better version of ourselves. After Dylan and Rebecca met, they could see their true selves in each other's eyes, without the need to disguise and disobey their hearts. Dylan went from being sloppy and languish to being active in life; Rebecca also changed from her original "walking dead" state to being lively and sunny.
Compared to Philip, Dylan was not as rich as he was, nor did he have a high social status, he did not even have a serious job, and he was a "loser" by any means. But he is a person with a warm heart, he understands Rebecca's spiritual world, accepts her original appearance, including her fragility and sensitivity, and is willing to infect her with his own warmth.
Sometimes when we face love, we have the opportunity to choose a better life, but the price may be to give up on ourselves and have to forcibly change ourselves for someone, which is undoubtedly painful.
If it were me, I'd rather choose an ordinary life, maybe not as rich as i could, but I don't have to change myself. You can live around the people you like, live as you are, understand each other and encourage each other, see your true self in each other's eyes, and become a better version of yourself.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > third, love is not to make me a caged canary, but to make me a homebound bird</h1>
Philip treated Rebecca more like an appendage to him than as a wife. He took Rebecca with him as a sign, attended social occasions, ignored her rejection, treated her sensitivities and changes as mental illness, forcibly locked her in the hospital, and gave her various medications to control her mind and movements.
But even so, Rebecca did not leave Philip before being admitted to the psychiatric hospital, a phenomenon that we may find in psychologist Eric Fromm's masterpiece Escape from Freedom.
Rebecca was put in a psychiatric hospital by Philippe
"Escape from Freedom" asks: Why did the totalitarianism represented by Hitler be embraced by so many people, and why did people willingly submit to a violent authority? Fromm found that people often choose totalitarianism over humanism, because under humanism, people break away from the original bond with totalitarianism, it is easy to produce uneasiness and loneliness, in order to overcome loneliness, human beings want to escape freedom.
For Rebecca, Philip is his "totalitarianism", although she wants to have freedom, she also has a deep uneasiness and fear, so that she does not dare to break through the shackles, so she chooses to "escape freedom". If it weren't for Dylan's rescue, perhaps she would have been a bird with severed wings forever, imprisoned by Philip in a gold wire cage, making a "human specimen" and living without freedom.
Dylan and Rebecca run through the snow and forest
Freedom is to human beings as light is to the eyes, air to the heart, and love to the heart. If there is no freedom, love will not be love, but only a shackle that binds the soul and makes people anxious to escape. Luckily, Rebecca met Dylan, and Dylan never gave up on Rebecca, and he took her through the cage and ran to a freer world.
Cervantes once said, "Freedom is one of the greatest happiness that God has given mankind." "In love, we demand not only physical freedom, but also spiritual freedom. No one can imprison us in the name of love, neither physically nor mentally.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks</h1>
Released in 2014, the film's supernatural synesthesia concept is very attractive to the audience, although it is a small fresh love movie, it is not conventional at all, but full of romance and novelty.
A lot of people will compare this film to Her and Your Name, and I think "The World In Your Eyes" seems to show an "unreal romance" more than the other two films. Romance to the extreme will make people feel "unrealistic", but who can say that it must not exist?
Dylan and Rebecca embrace the sunshine that belongs to them
May we all find someone who will empathize with you, who will lead you to discover your true self, who will give you the freedom of your soul. He will become your soul mate and spend your life hand in hand with you.
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