Fathers love their children, sometimes just a subtle expression, when the children are successful, he will go over and gently pat them on the shoulder, or give a smile, these are all love for the child, heartache. If mother's love is great, I will say that father's love is simple, and if mother's love is like the sea, then I will say that father's love is like a mountain.
Today, when I looked at the book "Wasting My Life on Beautiful Things", I saw an article written by Teacher Wu Xiaobo to his daughter on December 12, 2014. Looking at it, a touched emotion rose up to the eye socket, and in the middle of a few thousand words, there was a father's love and expectation for his daughter. Share it with you...
"Wasting Life on Good Things"
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Waste your life on good things
In this world, not young people in every country, in every era, in every family have the right to pursue the future they like. So, if you're lucky, don't miss it.
Every father, when his daughter is 18 years old, has the urge to write a book for her. Now, it's my turn to do it.
You should remember that from a very young age, I began to ask you a question: What did you like to do when you grew up?
The first time I asked was on a Costa cruise to Japan, and you were in the first grade of elementary school. Your answer is: the cashier in the game room. Those days, you went crazy in the cruise room, and every three or five minutes, you ran to me to ask for change, and then ran to the cashier to exchange the game currency. In your opinion, if you become a cashier, how cool it would be.
Later, I asked the question again and again: What do you like to do when you grow up? You change your "ideals" again and again. Once I was a dolphin trainer, I watched Dai Jun's program and thought it must be particularly cool. Another time was a pet doctor, probably born after sending a circle to a pet store to take a bath. I also remember cultural creativity, songwriters, florists, housewives...
In the fall of 16, after graduating from junior high school, you went to Vancouver to study, because my visa and your mother's visa were in a bad situation, and you dragged two large boxes alone to the airport. Your mom burst into tears behind you. I told her that this child would be independent from now on and that she would have the right to choose the university, the job and the city she liked, and, of course, the boyfriend she liked.
In Vancouver, you have a good life, you will take care of yourself, have a girlfriend circle, travel alone for the first time, and personally make a sweatshirt with a hat for your mother, and your grades are also good, and you won the first prize in all-grade math at the end of the term. Our family has been discussing which university you'll study at, UBC (University of British Columbia), University of Toronto, or EQUEEN (Queens University).
After another year, I took you on a trip to Taipei, and on the campus of National Taiwan University, strolling along the long coconut grove avenue in the sunset, I asked you again: What do you like to do in the future? You suddenly say, I want to be a singer.
This time you seem to be serious, as if you have been waiting for me to ask you this question that you have asked for many years.
Then, you talked endlessly about your views on popular music, talked about dissatisfaction with China's current star-making model, talked about some innovations in Japanese and Korean companies, and talked about your own singer positioning and market space. You also pulled out your phone to show me the MV, I knew Bigbang for the first time, I knew Kwon Ji-yong. I watched their MV and felt like the same god as Beyond and Wong Ka-ju, which I liked back then, the same Asian elements, the same urban back streets, the same blue rebellion, and the same idealism like fireworks.
In your eyes, I see the light.
As a father who has been dealing with data for many years and relies on rational analysis to eat, I remind you that if you are admitted to the top 100 universities in the world in two years according to your current results, you are probably more than 70% sure, but pop singers are an uncertain industry that has too much to do with talent and luck, and the probability of you becoming a second-rate singer in the future is only about 10%, you have to think clearly.
Your gaze doesn't seem to wander, you say, I don't want to be famous, I just like it. I turned to your mother, who had been silent next to me, and said, This time it was true. In fact, I agree with your answer.
When I was a kid, no one ever asked me this question. From the first grade, the teacher assigned the essay "My Ideal", a PLA soldier defending the motherland, a scientist like Einstein, or an astronaut traveling through the universe. Now that I think about it, these are the kind of people that adults want us to become, but in fact, adults themselves can't become.
The consequences are terrible. I remember one year, when I went to Sichuan University to give a lecture, the female students stood up and asked me: "Teacher Wu, how should I choose a career?" "She is a PhD student in the Physics Department. I asked her, "Why did you study physics and get a Ph.D."?" She said, "My mom and dad made me read it." "So, what do you like?" She said, "I don't know. ”
Another time, in Jiangyin, Jiangsu Province, I met a businesswoman in her 30s who made a lot of money but said she was very unhappy. I asked her, "So, what do you like yourself?" When she heard the question, she suddenly froze, and then shed tears. She said, I never thought about it. From a very young age, she followed her relatives in business, from trafficking, setting up factories to speculating in real estate, what to make money and what to do, but she never thought about what she really liked.
Today's Post-90s in China are the first middle-class children of the peacetime middle-class family in the country in the past hundred years, and for the first time you have the right and ability to choose your favorite lifestyle and work - they can even be only related to interest and beauty, and have nothing to do with materials and rewards, and even more, they have little to do with the future, achievements, fame and fortune, as long as it is legitimate, as long as you like.
Like, is the premise of all giving. Only if you really like it, you will invest in it, and you will not complain about these investments, whether it is time, energy or feelings.
The next thing, in the eyes of others, is a special "oolong". You refunded your long-booked ticket to Vancouver and went through the withdrawal process online. I found for you a Japanese-run music school in Shanghai with 11 students and was enrolling for the first time.
For more than a year, you have been studying vocal music, dance, composition and instruments in that school, and it is said that it is quite hard, entering the piano room in the morning, coming out in the afternoon, and returning to the dormitory at night is like a scattered frame, and you finally know that it is not an easy task to turn "hobbies" into "careers". In fact, I still don't know how well you have learned and whether you have the potential to be a star, but one thing is certain, you are indeed happy, you have chosen the path you like to take.
"Life should be wasted on good things."
This is an advertising slogan for Taiwanese black pine soda, which I occasionally read in an advertising magazine about 12 years ago. Before I met this sentence, I had been driven by occupation and work, I did not know how big the radius of happiness in life really was, what was meaningful, what was ineffective, and I thought that this anxiety must have haunted all young people who tried to question the value of life. It was this advertising slogan that suddenly made me understand something, it turns out that life is a waste from beginning to end, and all you need to judge is whether this waste is "beautiful". Later, every time I do something, I ask myself, do you think it's beautiful? If yes, then do it. From here, we go to resist fate and enjoy life.
Now, I send this to my 18-year-old daughter.
It's December 12, 2014. I finished this text in the VIP room of the airport, you and your mother are next to you, one is watching the circle of friends, one is listening to music, not far away, the workers are laying out a two-person-tall Christmas tree, they hang the colorful gift boxes haphazardly. We'll take you to Beijing for a month of intensive training at the studio of Singaporean musician Hui Huanliang, and in mid-January of the following year, you'll be in Hong Kong for an interview at an American conservatory of music.
To be honest, my 18-year-old daughter, I don't know what your future holds, like the gift box on the Christmas tree, whether it's empty or if it really contains a chocolate.
After writing an article here and reading it, I don't know if you at this time are also like the description at the beginning of my article ~ looking at it, a touched emotion rises up, until the eye sockets...
Father Wu Xiaobo led the dance for his daughter Wu Shuran
Finally, let's give a thumbs up to Wu Xiaobo's father, who is like a teacher. Father's love, although not as tender as mother's love, is always tender. Warmth, but at the most imperceptible time, the arrangement unconsciously seeped into my heart.
Teacher Wu Xiaobo
Wu Xiaobo: Financial writer, native of Meixian County, Guangdong Province, born in 1968 in Ningbo, Zhejiang, graduated from the Department of Journalism of Fudan University, visiting scholar of Harvard University, publisher of "Blue Lion" financial books. He was a professor of EMBA programs at Shanghai Jiao Tong University and Jinan University, and has been engaged in company research for many years. The 2014 Baidu Moments Marketing Festival tops the list of the most brand-worthy financial writers.
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