Guard your own home

Text/Shi Jingyun

Since the reform and opening up, the phenomenon of primary three has emerged in an endless stream. In the past few decades, not only has it not converged, but it seems to be becoming more and more intense.

The harm of the small three phenomenon to society has the following four points: First, it affects social stability. In addition to sex and feelings, the function of marriage also includes reproduction, mutual assistance, and reducing the social pressure and psychological burden of both parties. Second, it undermines the equality of citizens' sexual rights. When a third party interferes in the marriage and family of others, it often occurs as adultery and adultery. Both adultery and concubinage refer to the illegal conduct of temporary, covert and secret gender relations between a man and a woman or both of whom have a spouse. Third, it undermines the institution of human marriage. It seriously undermines socialist monogamy, and fourth: the mutual fidelity of husband and wife is an important achievement and symbol of the progress of human relations between the sexes. Although the monogamous family model has economic reasons, it is also an important reason to ensure the innocence of children, prevent the marriage of close relatives, and avoid incest. The intervention of a third party leads to cohabitation outside of marriage and extramarital sex, which not only affects the stability of the relationship between husband and wife and family order, but also may cause blood chaos.

Today I don't want to carry out these harms of the third child, but as a woman, I just want to remind women in marriage how to protect their family property and emotional dignity. As the saying goes: "Flies don't sting seamless eggs". The emergence of a small three-year family, we must find the reason from ourselves. When you and your lover have a trivial incident, it can't be solved overnight. Don't give your lover any physical or mental opportunity excuses to "desert". Life cares for and cares, and asks for warmth. Do a good job in the work, plan and analyze the joint research.

What kind of family is easy to have a small three patronage? First of all, the man does not get warmth in the family. This is a common phenomenon in the family, after the marriage of women after giving birth to children, the eyes are full of babies, even if there is a husband's share, they put all the focus on the child, feelings need to be nourished, men can not get attention and warmth for a long time, if there is a suitable booing cold at this time, then the little three will take advantage of the void. There is also a special friendship with past lovers, why do you say that you can't be friends when you break up? In real life, after the couple breaks up, they are old and dead, and they are afraid of the resurgence of old feelings between old lovers. Derailment is sometimes the case.

Try to keep your lover away from friends who have cheated on you, and staying together for a long time will make men feel unfaithful is a very normal thing. His subconscious told himself that my friend was a good man, but he just happened to betray his wife: even the best men would inevitably cheat. Therefore, as a wife, let your husband go to bars, nightclubs, massage rooms and other places less. Less contact with people who have affairs, do more outdoor sports, make friends with people who have happy families and pay attention to husband and wife relationships, and create an environment that protects marriage.

I think marriage cheating is more like a love triangle, with a sentence can interpret the whole process, that is, your flesh is with your lover, your lover's heart is with Xiao San, to put it bluntly, is it an idiom? Same bed, different dreams! The division and union of marriage is a physical change, the ups and downs of emotions are chemical reactions, and people cannot control it, so since this is the case, it depends on whether his husband can manage his legs, manage his mouth, manage his own people, and manage everything "budding" in the cradle.

Men feel guilty when they first cheat, and it's not just shameless bastards who cheat. In fact, the cheating man never thought that he would be unfaithful to his lover's family, and even if the man swore that he would always be loyal, you should not easily believe it. The reminder reminds, the supervision supervises. Men are emotional animals who want to be appreciated by their wives. When the wife ignores this and other women appreciate him, he will feel like he has found a confidant. So always be considerate of your man, make him feel like you need her, care about him, care about him, and make him feel like you're spiritually compatible with him. Of course, physical satisfaction can not be less, after all, there are still men who say that desire dissatisfaction is the main reason for their infidelity.

Men in the workplace are usually cheating on women who admire him, respect him, and praise his efforts. So avoid having a good-natured man and woman eat together, even when discussing work, avoid having the two of them work together until late, avoid letting them go out alone for meetings and business trips, and ask him how he feels if you do these things with a male colleague? A man doesn't cheat to get better sex from a more beautiful woman, and most of the time he cheats just to fill the emotional void. He has the illusion of another woman, and sex ensues. So you should focus on making your emotions sweeter and closer, caring about whether each other is physically satisfied, which is an important way for a man to express his intimacy and love for you. Sex is also important in couples' lives.

In marriage, we often fall into such a misunderstanding, always thinking that if we are married, we should not distinguish between you and me. But in fact, the two people in the marriage are independent individuals who need to be respected. Too close a distance, always make people feel breathless, in fact, it is not love at all, it is control! True love is to accept, not change; to support, not to dominate. Husbands and wives should leave personal space for each other, rather than dominating everything about each other as their own possessions. And those couples who run their marriages very well know how to add a little space to intimacy. This space is "if you leave".

When people are middle-aged, when feelings are only a foundation, the chips of reality will become heavier and heavier. What is the nature of marriage? What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and the favored can have no fear. In fact, no matter how well matched the groom and woman look, there is also an invisible discord gap, because the essence of marriage is doomed to people's boredom and changeable. And those seemingly flawless marriages are just two people who are good at acting. So, instead of envying others, try to run yourself! Regardless of whether the marriage is happy or not, middle-aged and elderly women should not ignore the cultivation of their own charm. Maintaining a good appearance is not only to please your husband, but to leave room for yourself.

However, there are indeed some young girls in society who are willing to fill in the blanks of others, ignore that people already have wives and families, and take advantage of the ups and downs of marriage between husband and wife to do some things to steal chickens and dogs. Hide like a mouse in a dark corner, seeking spiritual comfort from other people's husbands. I really think that these girls are so cheap and worthless, how can they love to do these things that disrupt other people's lives and ruin other people's lives? I really hope that some young girls in the society now you don't understand things, you see if your ID card is over 18 years old, it is an adult don't do these ignorant children's tricks. What you talk about, what your spiritual comfort, your material needs should be borne by your boyfriend and your husband. Not someone else's boyfriend, someone else's husband. I hope that these girls will not exchange their youth for the sake of a momentary grotesqueness, for the sake of a momentary drunken gold fan, in exchange for this short-lived happiness. Don't wait for the burial of youth to finally get the evil consequences before you can wake up and understand that this is your blessing, if you are wrong again and again, it is your providence that is difficult to violate, and you should be unlucky!

Sugar cane has no two ends of sweetness, and no one's life is perfect. Wenger Jolie said in the "Law of Happy Marriage": "The most loving couple has 200 thoughts of divorce in their lives, and 50 times the urge to strangle each other." "A relationship, often the more intimate, the more likely it is to cause friction. Only by thinking about these problems, I can live a much more calm life.

In marriage, women must always be able to be sober and self-sustaining, and have a sense of calm control. As Master Nietzsche said, "A man who knows what he is living for can endure any kind of life." "Only two families divided their work, helped each other, trusted each other, and a solid polygonal family structure was built. Therefore, husband and wife must cultivate themselves well, everyone has his value, mutual benefit, home is like an iron barrel, impenetrable, Xiao San will retreat from difficulties, and your feelings will be long-lasting!