Two days ago, her sister wrote a drama that had recently caught fire, "Son-in-law".
The message area exploded.
Without him, because her sister "doesn't talk about drama."
Instead, it is extended from the drama that "Son-in-law" wants to harvest the dividends of gender issues, but does not think deeply.
In the end, he handed over a "four unlikes" work that women felt cheated on and men felt embarrassed.
So, some people are dissatisfied -
Watching so many ideas about the show, aren't you tired?
Can't it be seen as a comedy? All day long male feminism is really boring
It's a bit on the line
Come on
This kind of message, her sister will receive every time she writes about a similar topic.
To sum it up, it's nothing more than —
You're overly sensitive, you're fussy, you're on the line, you're punching...
Life has been so bitter, watch a TV series, movies, short videos, the picture is a relaxed and simple, why are you always so disappointed!
Her sister sometimes inevitably falls into doubt, is it really me "on the line" and "making a fuss"?
But I'm just saying what's wrong – pointing out the sexism, gender violence, and gender inequality that exist in our daily lives and in our literary and artistic creations...
But strangely enough, when we ask a question, we become the problem itself.
And the real problem remains.
A few days ago, Cui Jian sent such a Weibo that on the day of Women's Day, he received comments on the lyrics -
Menarche, blunt and indecent.
On Women's Day, menstruation is too straightforward and menarche is unsightly.
The combination of these words is somewhat ironic.
Even so, do we have to close our eyes and pretend that all problems don't exist?
If we close our eyes, what awaits us?
Her sister wants to borrow a high-scoring movie today to talk about this issue.
The story of this movie seems far away from us.
London, England, 1912.
But her sister believes that no woman can be calm in this story.
Because when the story unfolds, the film and reality are contrasted, we instantly understand -
This is not a movie.
This is the real plot that is happening to each of us.
Women In Politics
The Story of Women Suffragette takes place in London, England in 1912.
But at the beginning of the movie, her sister did not feel strange at all.
British women fighting for the right to vote in the elections (or suffrage).
And, the protagonist Maud (Kerry Mulligan), who only feels the noise and confusion of the scene.
The two contrast, like the dialogue her sister mentioned at the beginning?
You write articles, write articles, why on the line, unnecessary, boring, tired...
At first, Maud did feel that the scene had nothing to do with her, and she was not dissatisfied with her current situation.
She is a laundry lady who earns little but enough to make ends meet, plus she has a warm and cold husband and a lovely son.
Thus, in the clinic, I encountered a rally of the women's movement, and at the entrance of the factory, I saw the wife of the parliamentarian calling for the right to equal pay for women workers for equal work...
She is all a spectator gesture.
But, as her sister said at the beginning, there are some problems that don't exist without closing their eyes.
Maud's seemingly quiet life on the surface cannot withstand careful consideration and scrutiny.
At a false opportunity, she had to testify before Congress in place of her co-worker Violet. Instead of reading the speech Violet had prepared in advance, she told her life truthfully.
However, it is precisely the daily life that can most expose the problem.
What kind of life has she lived in these 24 years?
My mother began working in a laundromat at the age of 14, where she was born and raised.
When she was 4 years old, her mother was burned alive after the vat overturned, and she followed her mother's old path.
He started working part-time in a laundromat at the age of 7, full-time at the age of 12, became a laundry team leader at the age of 17, and became a foreman at the age of 20.
It sounds like a smooth road, but it's a livelihood that trades life for money.
The female workers working here are all wounded. Pain, coughing, crushed fingers, leg ulcers, burns, headaches...
The few dollars earned desperately, the right to dominate is not in their own hands, and women have no property rights.
Because she did the lowest level of work, she certainly did not receive any education, and women did not have the right to education.
Maud didn't think there was anything wrong with such a life, because all women come this way.
Until one day she bumped into a co-worker's 12-year-old daughter who was sexually assaulted by her employer...
She then recalled what she had been through in the past days.
Under the illusion of quiet years, there is pain, grievance, resignation, and dare to be angry.
The last straw that broke the camel was her husband's conversation with her.
When she woke up one morning, she asked: What kind of life would she live if she had a daughter in the future?
The husband doesn't hesitate: live like you.
If you give birth to a daughter, do you have to continue to live like yourself?
Extra-long working hours, ultra-low wages, not being treated equally, not being respected by men.
No right to vote, no right to property, right to education, right to child custody...
Even, there are no human rights.
There is a scene in the film where Maud is arrested for participating in a women's movement rally.
The police who arrested them did not send them to jail, but threw them in front of their homes —
Let their husbands handle them.
The policeman's trick worked.
Her husband, who "knows cold and warm", did not hesitate to sweep her out of the house.
Because in their eyes, women are not human beings, but just the possessions at the disposal of men.
Maud realized that -
Closing your eyes is not a good time.
There is no marginal darkness in sight.
It is an endless cycle of women from generation to generation.
Someone might ask —
What does more than 100 years ago have to do with us?
This is a thing of the past, this is someone else's business, and the status of women in China is already high enough!
Such a thought, her sister also repeatedly saw in the message area:
Now the status of Chinese women is very high, and Crooked Nuts do not understand the Chinese male kneeling keyboard.
Leaving aside the logic of this statement is completely wrong.
After all, these people never say, "The status of women in China is very high now, and the company's executives are all women!" ”
Even if these are in the past tense, should we turn the page?
Human rights are endowed, but the reality is that rights do not fall from the sky.
At the very least, we must know that today we are standing on the starting line of how our predecessors cast for us.
"Women In Politics" shows us the blood and tears along the way.
Initially, women did not fight for their rights through violence.
In Congress, Maud told the truth about the unfair treatment he had encountered in his 24 years of life.
Judge: We've all written it down, and we'll give you an answer soon.
But the peaceful way is exchanged for disappointment after disappointment.
They rallied, waiting for the police who were in the crowd to suppress and imprison them without mercy.
After being put in prison, they are more humiliated than beaten.
They identified themselves as political prisoners and could wear their own clothes, but were forcibly lined up in a stripped-out line.
They went on a hunger strike to protest, but the prison authorities were afraid that it would be detrimental to the government to cause trouble, "if some of them die, we will get into trouble, and they will have martyrs."
So they were forced in prison again and again and fed on their noses.
Milk poured down from the funnel and flowed down the tube from their noses into their stomachs, which quickly bulged and swelled into balloons...
Extremely humiliating and extremely painful.
And such a tragic plot is not a movie fiction, but a reality.
One of the female protesters, Emily Davidson, has been arrested 9 times and forced to snort 49 times.
Emmeline Pankhurst, a prominent advocate of women's suffrage, has also been jailed and fed several times.
In her memoirs, she wrote: "In my lifetime, I will never forget the pain caused by those screams echoing in my eardrums. ”
The government also passed The Cat and Mouse Act — pardoning hunger strikers when they were on the verge of starvation, waiting for them to recover, and then arresting them.
Again and again, the cycle repeats.
"Do you think anyone would listen to a woman like you?" Does anyone care? They don't care. You are nothing in this world. ”
They really didn't care, forcing them to resort to some violent means.
Smashing glass, cutting circuits, blowing up mailboxes, blowing up parliamentarians' villas...
"We smash windows, we burn things because war is the only language men can listen to."
And this kind of struggle, until they gave their lives, attracted the attention of the whole world -
Emily rushed to King George V's horse on a high-profile occasion with the "Votes for women" flag, was seriously injured on the spot, and died four days later.
In reality, Emily is real.
On June 4, 1913, cameras all over the world recorded the scene.
Peaceful means are exchanged only for ridicule, disregard and perfunctory.
The weak are beaten, humiliated, and trampled under the hooves of horses in exchange for a world eye,as well as a little progress and power.
What's more, all this has not completely passed.
The encounters of those women in the film, we can more or less see some shadows today.
A hundred years ago, low-level women like Maud worked more hours than men and paid much less than men.
Today, one hundred years later, women seem to have more job opportunities than ever before, but they still can't enjoy equal pay for equal work.
The 2019 China Workplace Gender Gap Report shows that the gap between the salaries of men and women in 2018 is large, and the salary of Chinese women is about 78.3% of that of men.
The same is true worldwide. The average earnings for women in the United States is 79 percent of that of men, 73 percent in Japan and 85 percent in Denmark.
More than a hundred years ago, female workers were sexually harassed by their bosses in the office, daring to be angry and dare not speak.
One hundred years later, naked workplace sexual harassment is still emerging.
Even if some women have the courage to speak up after experiencing sexual harassment in the workplace, the serial effect since then is mostly paid for by the harassed women.
More than a hundred years ago, low-level women were abused by their husbands to the point of scars, and there was still no way to divorce.
A hundred years later, today—"
Li Yang also brazenly defended on the show after domestic violence: the mistake of hitting people is not a serious mistake.
Ram died after being called to the police several times for domestic violence when he was set on fire by her ex-husband.
The director of "Women in Politics" is also a woman.
When she talked about the film, she mentioned —
Globally, 62 million girls are still unable to access education because of gender discrimination; only 22% of UK MPs are women; there is unequal pay for equal work in most industries; and one-third of UK women suffer from various forms of sexual violence.
And that's not all.
Maud returned home after speaking before Congress, and her husband asked: Are you a feminist now? One of those pigs?
You see, even in this small detail, it seems to be the same today as it was a hundred years ago.
More than a hundred years ago, women who fought for their rights were called "pigs."
More than a hundred years later?
Even if many people who speak for women are eager to print the words "equal rights, not male rights and women's rights" on their heads.
But it is still inevitable that some people indiscriminately call them similar titles - boxer, feminist, feminist dog...
Even more ironic is the reaction of some male viewers after the film aired.
Some male netizens commented: Emily broke into the racecourse and was trampled by a horse and died, I don't know what happened to the horse?
More than a hundred years ago, women who tried to peacefully fight for women's suffrage were ridiculed, abused and ignored.
More than a hundred years later, women are showing those bloody histories and sad realities through the form of films.
What you get is still ridicule and disregard.
Is the story of "Women Suffragette" a thing of the past?
not necessarily.
Today, when women seem to have more freedom, some dilemmas still exist.
Some dilemmas, even without further investigation, are clearly placed on the table.
We seem to have improved a lot.
But if you look closely, it seems that you are stepping in the same place and have not moved.
This situation is like the end of "Women in Politics" -
The women organized a massive funeral for Emily, who lost her life in the fight.
Each of them took a bouquet of flowers and gradually joined a team.
Women still do not have the same rights as men.
It may just be the beginning.
Italy once did a simple social experiment -
The experiment arranged for six men and six women to race and run together.
Before the match began, the referee asked everyone the following questions:
If there is no degree of disability of the disease, take a step forward;
If you have ever enjoyed the right to free access to education, take a step forward;
If you can take care of yourself in life, take a step forward;
If you are not living in poverty, take a step forward;
If you drive yourself, take a step forward;
If someone has joked and discriminated against your driving skills because of gender, take a step back;
If your boss is the same gender as you, take a step forward;
If you speak, other people's eyes do not just follow your eyes, take a step back;
If you feel the pressure to do housework, take a step back;
If you have been harassed in public, take a step back;
If, during the interview, you are not often asked if you want to have children, take a step forward;
If you haven't heard obscene words while walking, take a step forward;
If you feel safe coming home alone at night, take a step forward;
These questions are not deliberately targeted at male strengths.
But after a series of problems, even without considering the difference in natural physical strength, men still have the advantage of winning .
Leaving women far behind.
According to the World Economic Forum, gender equality will take at least a hundred years.
That said, we may not see a day of gender equality in our lifetimes. Even our next generation is unlikely to see it.
After all, to be inattentive is to go backwards —
There is so much news in front of us today that even makes people wonder what year we live in today.
Last year, the Polish courts banned all abortions in the New Abortion Act;
This year, the Afghan government banned female students over the age of 12 from singing in public with men;
31 girls' high schools in Seoul, South Korea, restrict the color of students' underwear.
And what about us?
Once we had a program called "Half the Sky", with the purpose of paying attention to gender and listening to women's expressions, we visited excellent women from all walks of life.
Nowadays, marriage and love programs are blooming everywhere, but they always give people a sense of staleness of changing soup without changing medicine.
Her sister did not want to lament the situation of women.
Rather, I want to say that we should at least be clear —
Women go from having nothing to having the right to education, property, voting... What the price was paid.
And, that's far from the end.
As long as women are still lagging behind men, even if it is only one step, it cannot be said that men and women are equal.
Writing this, I think I can give an answer to the question at the beginning of the article -
Is it really me going on the line and making a big fuss?
I would say, no.
It's not that we're making a fuss.
It is the person who says this sentence who "makes a big fuss" or even "doesn't do it".
All we are asking for is the same as in The Women in Politics —
Fight for an era.
An era when every little girl is born into this world and will have equal opportunities.
That's all.
And, thank you to every one of your peers.