Anchor Hou Peichen's mainland reality show debut was dedicated to the variety show "Mother-in-law and Mother".
Always maintain a sweet "mask anchor", a "little three" mother who frequently interferes in the marriage of girlfriends, an executive husband who knows and gets married in a few months...
Each family member is full of "explosive points", such a guest and the theme of the program of the "son-in-law" / "mother-in-law" relationship that is always in question is integrated, and it is difficult to think of no topic.
It is such a reality SHOW that completely tore through the "mask" that Hou Patzen had worn for a long time.
Completely different from the previous sweet and considerate feeling of making people feel like a spring breeze, Hou Peichen in this variety show is really "suffocating".
From the beginning of the pilot film, Hou Patzen has shown a completely different side from her previous screen image.
After getting up in the morning, her husband Huang Bojun wanted to have a conference call, and the conference call of less than ten minutes was interrupted four times by Hou Peichen.
"Do you want to eat?"
"Thick slices of toast or eggs?"
"Eggs, do you want poached eggs or scrambled eggs?"
"Then do you want to add honey?" Still is? ”
Opening an unnecessary "life-threatening serial question" to a lover who is in a working state, is this still the "high emotional intelligence" Hou Patzen in the impression?
Unlike the vast majority of netizens who lost the "high emotional intelligence" filter for Hou Patzen because of this variety show, I feel that marriage has torn off the "fake face" that Hou Patzen has worn for many years, which shows that she is married to the right person.
Who is Hou Patzen?
Well-known "masquerade anchor", recognized in the circle as "straight male chop".
Sweet-looking but not aggressive, a trademark smiley face hangs on the face forever. Emotional intelligence is notoriously high, and everything is based on the emotions and feelings of others, even a second before getting drunk, it is a cheerful look, and at that time, they are still taking care of other people's feelings.
Knowing how to be spoiled and showing weakness is the degree to which Chen Daoming will also raise the corners of his mouth madly when he sees it.
Always know what kind of praise others need most, the first time I see the Xiao S family, I have exaggerated inside and out, and the attitude is so good that Xiao S, who rolls his eyes when he sees a "dummy", is obedient to her.
For a long time, the real Hou Patzen has almost been eaten by the "fake" side that she showed in front of her.
Many netizens mocked Hou Patzen as a "two-faced person", in fact, it is not, she almost only has that side left, that is, the side she faked.
Hou Patzen's "high emotional intelligence" when she gets along with people and her growing environment are more or less related.
Hou Patzen grew up in a family that was not ordinary.
Her mother did not marry once in her 70-year life, and gave birth to Hou Patzen as a little third to Hou Patzen's biological father, and later gave Hou Patzen's adoptive father a small third to support Hou Patzen.
In such an environment, the life of the mother and daughter is probably not too casual, after all, only by making "papa" happy can they always ensure the rich life of their mother and daughter.
Regarding Hou Peichen, there has always been a story in the jianghu. It was said that one night Hou Patzen's mother wanted to drink milk, and went to the living room to find Hou Patzen still sitting on the sofa watching TV, so she asked: Why haven't you slept yet?
Hou Patzen asked: Haven't you slept either?
Her mother's face changed, and a whole glass of milk was spilled on her face, and she angrily asked: How do you resist?
In such a growth environment, Hou Patzen is best at two things, one is to observe the color of speech, and the other is to fake enthusiasm.
All of Hou Patzen's "high emotional intelligence" began with these two abilities cultivated since childhood, which became her best weapon and protection in the entertainment industry later.
Words like "thinking of you" and "loving you" are almost hanging on the lips of Hou Peichen.
Even in the face of the person she saw for the first time, she could speak with peace of mind.
Before Lu Yu went to Taipei to interview her, she said that she said, "I like to die you."
This time recording "Mother-in-law and Mother", because of the epidemic situation, she could not go to the studio in Changsha, so she used video form to maintain the same frequency with other female stars participating in the program recording.
As soon as the link to the video was successful, several female stars in the studio received Hou Patzen's "flying kiss attack" and a passionate "I miss you".
Obviously, everyone should not have even seen each other before.
It is such a Hou Patzen, when she is with her husband, all the high emotional intelligence disappears.
After a few episodes of the program, it is very obvious to perceive that Hou Patzen has committed the biggest "taboos" in the communication between husband and wife in getting along with her husband.
The most obvious and common mistake is that Patzen has been using "suggestive speech" when communicating with her husband.
On the first day her mother came to live at home, Patrick Hou had been asking her mother if she was cold from the moment she entered the door.
In fact, she was calling her husband a code, suggesting that he was "Mommy is very cold, go pour a cup of hot water or hot tea." ”
But his husband didn't understand what she meant, forcing her to finally say it in front of her mother.
For example, her mother helped her husband gua sha, and hou Peichen kept throwing questions at her husband in the process.
"Aren't you a lot of spirits now?" "Is the whole shoulder relaxed?"
In fact, she is distressed that her 70-year-old mother is still helping her son-in-law gua sha, hoping that he can say a few nice words to affirm what her mother-in-law has done and make the old man happy.
But her husband was a muted man who was almost inflexible, and for the first time he had tried gua sha, he could hardly feel anything other than pain and heat.
In the end, I had to sneak into the bedroom when my mother was not paying attention and convey my clear meaning to my husband.
In a relationship, this "suggestive speech" will invisibly increase the pressure on the other party.
Conversely, straight-ball conversations will greatly reduce the stress and irritability, and even friction between each other.
In marriage, Hou Patzen's communication method of "suggesting that the other party is considerate" can be said to be harmful and useless.
Two people can never get stuck on a point, and both sides are tired.
As Hou Patzen's mother complained in the show: "You two are always chicken and duck." ”
How could a smart and sleek man like Hou Peichen not know the basic principles of this kind of marriage?
In the past ten years of being active on the screen, no matter what the situation of "Shuluo Field", Hou Peichen has hardly lost his words or attitude in front of the camera.
The only time her perfect and sweet screen image cracked was when she first appeared in a media interview after breaking up with Jay Chou.
In addition to that, she is a decent robot at all times, smiling in front of the camera and saying things that make everyone happy and comfortable.
The more reasonable explanation is probably that this marriage and this man allowed Hou Patzen to finally take off the "mask", walk off the altar of high emotional intelligence, and be a normal, emotional person again.
She may not look at the timing and the look in her eyes, will complain and complain, will not be so perfect. But she finally had a vivid expression, not just a smiling face.
In fact, Hou Patzen and her husband Huang Bojun are flash married, and the whole process of love does not have any idol drama-like plot.
Very cheesy.
She met Huang Bojun when she attended xuejie's wedding, and Huang Bojun was introduced to her by a friend.
Miraculously, five friends came to Hou Patzen and said that there should be a very good person to introduce her to, and the "very good people" in these five people were all Huang Bojun.
Hou Patzen chose to marry Huang Bojun, in part because her mother thought Huang Bojun was good.
Her mother had been an outer chamber for people all her life, and she had seen all kinds of men, and she could feel the preciousness of a man like Huang Bojun.
Hou Patzen herself used the word 'real' to describe Huang Bojun, and she herself knew that she was a person who cared a lot about the evaluation of herself by the outside world, but Huang Bojun was a very simple person who did not care about the evaluation and opinion of the outside world.
In the day-to-day relationship, Huang Bojun's relaxed and indifferent attitude finally infected Hou Patzen, giving her tense nerves for more than thirty years a chance to stretch.
Before marrying Huang Bojun, Hou Peichen's conditions could indeed find people who were better in all aspects. But the emotional value and spiritual stretch that Huang Bojun can provide for Hou Peichen is really not something that everyone can do.
In feelings or marriage, Taiwanese girls are a very magical existence.
The vast majority of them, in their feelings and marriages, will choose to "break their teeth and swallow blood". No matter what grievances and heartaches are carried by themselves, what they show to the outside world is always a happy appearance.
Before Zhou Yangqing tore Luo Zhixiang with his hand, they were greatly shocked.
They are also humiliated to show their less perfect side in front of their other half.
Big S said on the show before that he would never let his other half hear or see him go to the toilet in love.
When I can't help it, I will excuse myself as "I want to throw up" and then go to the bathroom.
After so many years of marriage, Ariel Lin has not even farted in front of her husband.
But in a marriage, two people are to face time together and life and death.
In the long process of getting along, you will see each other's various embarrassing moments.
Hou Patzen said on the show that the first time she had a strong idea of "this person is the person I have supported each other throughout my life", it was after the first production was completed.
At that time, she had almost no way to complete the action independently. Walking requires support, and even going to the bathroom needs to be accompanied and assisted.
During that time, her husband assisted her to complete these basic things, and she herself was very grateful to Huang Bojun, but Huang Bojun was puzzled.
He felt that Hou Patzen's birth of the baby was very great and hard, and he only did some very small things that should be done, and there was really nothing to be grateful for.
Of course, Huang Bojun is definitely not perfect.
Hou Patzen has always been obsessed with the sunny, sporty and atmospheric boys.
Among all the characteristics that Hou Patzen loves, Huang Bojun probably only accounts for the "love of sports" item.
Hou Patzen's mother called Huang Bojun "Brother Lang"—a boy who likes to surf.
In getting along, Huang Bojun is also very "straight" and inconsiderate many times.
Because she did not like to eat skin eggs, she never bought Hou Patzen eggs that she liked to eat in the years after marriage.
Because the recording program bought once, the happy Hou Patzen shouted "Who are you!" You actually helped me order dried egg tofu! ”
I don't do much housework, so much so that I don't know how to wash the little tomatoes.
Even ordering takeaway is not very skilled, and after ordering it, I found that the address was filled in incorrectly.
When making a mistake, he will only smile at Hou Peichen.
Hou Patzen ate this set, and every time he smiled, the originally serious Hou Patzen also laughed.
On the fifth anniversary of the marriage, Hou Peichen sent a photo with Huang Bojun with the text: Thank you for marrying me.
This is a confession that belongs exclusively to Hou Patzen.
Did you watch "Mother-in-Law and Mother"? What is your impression of the Hou Patzen family?
Optimistic about her marriage to her husband?