The first documentary reality show "Summer of the Eaves" was launched on Station B. Three seniors living alone in Shanghai started a 21-day cohabitation life under the same roof as N Shanghai drifter youths. The program has aroused the empathy of many netizens not only because the 62-year-old "Qiong Yao Girl" has become an elderly person living alone, but also because the "young and old living together" presents the exploration of cultural inheritance and intergenerational harmony under the aging society.
Liu Xuehua, a 62-year-old "Qiong Yao girl", has lived alone for ten years, and the life of the elderly living alone has aroused concern
In the reality show part of the show, the seniors provide shelter for the youth, and the young people need to set aside a certain amount of time and energy to accompany and take care of the seniors. When the 62-year-old actor Liu Xuehua appeared as one of the elderly people living alone, many people lamented the ruthlessness of the years. Liu Xuehua mentioned in the show that many young people do not know themselves, and she has not even revealed her actor identity to the young girls who live with her, who think that she is an ordinary housewife. In fact, Liu Xuehua became famous in Hong Kong in 1983 for starring in the TV series "Maiden Cixi", and in 1986, at the invitation of female writer Qiong Yao, he starred in the TV series "Several Degrees of Sunset Red", and became a hit in Taiwan, and later became one of the royal heroines of Qiong Yao drama, and later became active in "Gong Suo Xin Yu", "Zhen Huan Biography", "Splendid Wei Yang" and became a "professional household of the empress dowager".
But in life, Liu Xuehua is already an old man who has lived alone for nearly a decade. It is reported that Liu Xuehua and her husband Deng Yukun married in 1999, and the marriage lasted for about 12 years, but the man fell to his death in his shanghai home in 2011. Liu Xuehua also mentioned in the show, "After my husband left, many people were very worried, afraid that I would be autistic." Because I am a very boring person, I don't go out, I can't play games on the Internet, and I am out of touch with modern people's lives. Indeed, Liu Xuehua's life seems to be the same, feeding dogs, watching TV, playing mobile mahjong, and talking to her sister on the phone.
She also worries, "My life is too bland, who will watch this show?" "I didn't expect that no one paid attention to it, and this show just started broadcasting an issue that attracted the attention of netizens." The loneliness of the elderly living alone shown in the program also made netizens sigh endlessly, Liu Xuehua did not turn off the TV at night, and wanted to turn on the TV to sleep. Another solitary Grandpa Zhu in the show said, "I am afraid of the dark. Liu Xuehua also mentioned, "Living alone, others are not terrible, that is, if one day you fall, others do not know." A little worried about this, so I have an aunt who has a driver. In another ten years I will go to the nursing home, at least there are medical and other services. I didn't think about it before, but when I get older, I notice these problems. "It sounds sad to netizens.
Problems encountered by the elderly are also inevitable among the elderly living alone abroad. In the program, the Italian boy Are mentioned that his grandmother has emotional problems, because she feels that she is too old to go out, coupled with the epidemic in Italy, it will be more melancholy.
In fact, the elderly are curious about the lives of young people and hope to be close to them, like Liu Xuehua is worried, "They play with me, I don't understand what I talk about, there is a generation gap." Living alone for a long time, I will not take care of people. It's hard to be friends with young people at my age. In the show, Liu Xuehua went out with two dogs for the first time, and she did not know how to cook, she began to prepare meals for young people, and it seemed that many "firsts" were opening.
The scenes of young people's social fear and social death also evoke the intimacy of experiencing generational rearing
Living with strange elderly people, the first problems that young people encounter are social problems. Station B up main LaHongsang said that he has social phobia, is afraid of meeting strangers, even in the face of Liu Xuehua, such an easy to get along, gentle elderly, there is also embarrassment. On my first day, I locked myself in my room and felt anxious about not being able to find a suitable way to communicate.
For Are, an Italian boy who Chinese and is familiar with Chinese culture, communication seems to be not difficult. The gift tea was also delivered to the old man's favorite point. But I didn't expect the blunt old man to ask Alai how much money he spent, and also opened it to identify the quality of the tea, so that Alai directly faced the scene of "social death". When eating hot pot, Grandpa named Alay to sing, which made many people think of the embarrassing scene of returning home for the New Year and being urged by the elders to perform their talents in public.
Overall, honesty and straightforward communication remain the basis for resolving the generation gap. Flight guest Ayunga also said that he had rented a house for the elderly, and would consciously follow their schedules, because there were elderly people in the other family who were not in good health, and after returning late, they were afraid of making noise and noisy to the elderly, so they went directly to sleep and bathed again the next day. In the follow-up program, Are also decided to learn more about the elderly and realize their unfulfilled wishes for the elderly.
It is a very obvious fact that many post-90s and post-00s young people in the show mention that they were brought up by the elderly in the family, and they have experienced generations of raising them, and they have a sense of closeness to the elderly. Ye Jiawen, who studied music, recalled the experience of knowing Grandpa Zhu: when eating at the restaurant, Grandpa had a tone of voice that evoked his memories of his grandparents, so he stepped forward to chat. "I was brought up by my grandparents, and when I met Grandpa Zhu in Shanghai, I felt very kind." In this way, she became the "granddaughter" of her grandfather, and recommended Grandpa Zhu to this show.
This warm review made Zhang Yijun, an emotional intelligence research expert, feel the same way, saying that he met an elderly man who was trembling and walking on the road and was willing to take the initiative to help. "Because I think of my dad's bad legs and feet, if we all reach out to the old people around us, maybe when my dad walks on the road like this, someone will help him." She said that the significance of living together is another form of companionship, so that everyone cherishes the opportunity to live under the same roof.
Aging has become a world trend, and intergenerational harmonious coexistence is expected to be tried more
Overall, the program brings together the elderly living alone in the city and the youth in the city, two groups that also need care but rarely intersect in daily life. In this process, the collision of the elderly and young people in terms of lifestyle, communication habits, behavior, values and other aspects of the collision, the differences between modern times, but also to promote the intergenerational integration of the two generations, mutual help and mutual assistance. The topic opened by the program is very meaningful, and I also look forward to a more in-depth display and thinking about cross-generational communication in the future.
According to the data of the Seventh National Population Census, the number of people aged 60 and over has exceeded 264 million, accounting for 18.70% of the total population. Population aging is an objective trend in social development.
Hu Zhan, a professor at the Institute of Aging at Fudan University, said that according to the internationally accepted algorithm, China entered the aging society about 2000 and has been more than 20 years. France was the first to enter the geriatric society at the junction of the 19th and 20th centuries, and in the following 100 years, almost all developed countries have entered old age, and it is expected that by 2050, the vast majority of countries in the world will enter aging, so this is a world trend.
"Many people think that aging is the problem of the elderly, or even just a single problem of the elderly, in fact, aging is not a quantitative concept, but a structure, proportion concept, aging is not good or bad, it is an inevitable result of the population reproduction model." Because the number of births has become smaller, and the life expectancy of people has become longer, and the life expectancy in the general sense has become longer, it is a very difficult thing, it is a kind of social progress. ”
People of all ages will live in an aging society, which brings up a larger topic: how to live in harmony between generations, how to develop equitably? Such topics have also become the focus of discussion in film and television and literary and artistic works. Hu Zhan believes, "Of course, China has a good cultural tradition in intergenerational harmony, but how to survive and innovate under today's era conditions is a good attempt to socialize the cohabitation of young and old people in this film." ”
Yangtze Evening News/Purple Cow News reporter Zhang Nan
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