People's temperaments are varied. Some people pay attention to details, do everything and pay attention to it, and there is a norm for words and deeds, etiquette, clothing, and interactions. Some people are informal, grinning and casual in many ways. People who pay attention to detail have their own reasons, and informal people have their own reasons. If you are the former, there are some informal people in your colleagues, they often want to interact with you, if you do not want to hurt each other's feelings, but also want to reduce some trouble, then, how do you deal with it?
1. Advance reminder
Some people's informality is cultivated at home, and when they go to the unit, they are like their own home, without scruples. For such a person, you can remind him in advance to know that this place is not the other place. Advance reminders avoid embarrassment and reduce hassle. When reminding, the attitude should be as kind as possible, do not use commanding, sometimes, you can use actions to show, not necessarily with words.
2. Behavior demonstration
Some behaviors cannot be reminded in advance, and some occasions are not suitable for verbal expression. In this regard, you may wish to adopt the method of action demonstration, make a model of your own behavior to show him, and show him what you approve of and dislike. Behavior demonstration, in fact, is to lead by example, if the pertinence is strong, the general effect is good.
3. Euphemistic persuasion
Some informal people are of high rank, old qualifications, or hold certain leadership positions, and when they meet such people, they can use the method of euphemism to make him understand that you do not appreciate his behavior habits or attitude and style. Here's an example:
4. Speak up
Informal people generally have a stronger speech endurance, so sometimes it doesn't matter if you say a few words to him. In due course, you can speak up and make it clear to him that you don't appreciate his behavior and hope that something like this will not happen again in the future. Ponies are usually more casual and don't pay much attention to their own things. Once, he borrowed a professional book from his colleague Xiao Zhang, and a few days later, he gave it back to Xiao Zhang. Xiao Zhang looked at it, the cover was wrinkled, and then turned over, and there were many annotations and graffiti drawings inside. Xiao Zhang was very unhappy in his heart, and he said bluntly: "Xiao Ma, how do you scribble on my book, and what annotations you have written, you should know, this is my book, only I have the right to write on it, I have to pay attention to it in the future."
Speaking bluntly, of course, is not suitable for everyone, at the same time, we must also pay attention to the occasion, and in the case of others, we must be more cautious to take care of each other's face.
5. Subtly refuse
Some people like to become addicted, you hint, remind, or bluntly tell, it does not work for him, he still goes his own way, and often disturbs you and affects you. In this way, you only manage to dodge, or deliberately cold, or subtly refuse. You can dodge according to the other party's time, such as the other party usually visits the door around seven o'clock in the evening, then you go out some time before this time to avoid being entangled by him. If you can't dodge, for those regular customers who have nothing to say and sit for half a day without words, you can not make tea, do not hand over cigarettes, to show deliberate coldness, or a strong yawn, doze to show him, such as saying that you are unwell, want to sleep, or want to go out to do something, is not to choose a time to talk later, and so on. Rejection is embarrassing, but as long as the method is clever and the wording is appropriate, it will not necessarily hurt each other's feelings.
Informal people tend to be careless about others, but you can't follow him without thinking, lest he be more casual and more indulgent. Therefore, we must try our best to deal with informal things as well as possible, and at the same time, we must try to avoid becoming informal!!!