Two questions were asked online, and the following are the answers of several netizens:
Question: Under what circumstances would a person hide that he has a lover?
Netizen @ Xiao Huaxi: The relationship has just been established, it is not stable enough, and there is no confidence in this relationship.
Netizen @ Liu Xiaofang: Knowing that this kind of love relationship will not be blessed, and even will be opposed, out of fear, I dare not disclose it.
Netizen @ Zhang Xi: I don't recognize each other in my heart, I think the other party will humiliate myself, I don't play seriously with my feelings, in short, I don't love each other enough, I don't think of the other party as someone who wants to go far, ride a donkey to find a horse, and hope to find something better.
Netizen @ core: the protection of their own privacy, do not want to be discussed and interfered with by others.
Netizen @ stubborn Xiaoqiang: Although there are lovers, they hope to maintain ambiguity or friendship with other members of the opposite sex from being affected by love.
Netizen @ Li Sidani: The other party is not serious about love, and does not pass on a sense of security to himself.
Netizen @ little fat cat: pedal two boats.
Question: If you are lover like this, can you accept it?
Netizen @ little fat cat: No! Because it will be uneasy, insecure, will think wildly, will not trust him, will doubt this feeling!
Netizen @ stubborn Xiaoqiang: If you explain the reason in advance and feel reasonable, you may understand it, but you will still be sad.
Netizen @ Zhang Xi: I can accept this kind of concealment, I always firmly believe that it is that I can never go, not that I can't keep it with all my efforts!
Question: Would you hide your lover?
For the answer to this question, I found that many people are, when things happen to others, they will not ask for the reason of the harsh condemnation, when things happen to themselves, they will think of many possible reasons to excuse themselves, so that this behavior has a certain rationality, that is, many people are saying: if in some cases maybe!
Dare to say firmly that once the relationship is established, it will not be hidden under any circumstances, there are really few!
The reason why I ask this question is because I know that a friend hides that he has a girlfriend, and suddenly there is some congestion, of course, it is not that I have any thoughts about this person, but at that time, I felt that a person who is bright and upright should not deliberately conceal the fact that he has a lover, and he can not show his love, but when others ask about it, he takes the initiative to lie This is a kind of dishonesty.
However, after reading everyone's answers, I was relieved a lot, and perhaps others also have some reasons that we did not expect to be understood.
I remembered that when my girlfriend was in love with her husband, she also hid some people, including family, colleagues and some irrelevant classmates, she was really not satisfied with her boyfriend, afraid that her family would not look up, nor did she want colleagues to discuss, others introduced her to other boys She would not refuse, she looked forward to finding a better one, but all this she would tell her boyfriend.
A reader once asked me to discuss the topic of spare tires, and I said, if one is willing to fight a wish, then is there any need to discuss it? Like this situation of my girlfriend, she clearly told her husband her thoughts, but people are willing to prepare the fetus silently, because for him, there are only two choices: One is to give up the person he has loved for many years.
He couldn't do this, at least there was a chance to be a spare tire, and there was no chance to give up; the second was to let her go free (all kinds of blind dates, being chased by others), waiting for the day when she fell in love with herself wholeheartedly and willingly made herself public, well, fortunately, he waited for two years and finally waited.
A classmate in college also hid that he had a girlfriend, because that girlfriend was his roommate's ex-girlfriend, everyone looked up and did not look down, and there were many friends in common, he was afraid of embarrassment, and he was afraid of being criticized by other friends.
However, even if some reasons can be understood or even accepted, concealing the relationship is ultimately an abnormal state, unless the two people reach a consensus, otherwise, unilateral concealment will make people feel that it is disrespectful to their other half, but also the unsteadiness of this feeling!
Some people say that it is because they don't know what the future holds, they don't dare to promise anything, and they are afraid that they will be laughed at by others after they are open now, but since they dare to determine the relationship, why don't they dare to treat this feeling with the confidence of "will always go on"?
In my eyes, feelings are never a child's play, I will not easily start a relationship, but as long as I determine the relationship is what I hope to seriously and really go on, only if I recognize this feeling, I will get the blessing of others!
Yes, I dare not hesitate to say that in the future, if I am in love, I will never hide it, I may not show affection, I will not announce it to the world in a high profile, but if others ask, I will definitely not hesitate to confess. No matter how unsatisfactory the lover is, no matter what others think, since I have chosen, I will admit it!
Yesterday I saw a sentence in the magazine: Only if you show your intentions to the universe, everything will come, you must release your energy!
Only if you yourself are not humble and unassuming, and are serious and unswerving in this feeling, will it develop in the direction you hope! A little more confidence in your feelings, a little more tenacity! You recognize it, and it will truly belong to you!
Finally, may everyone's love affair walk in the sun with dignity, and may all love be blessed by the whole world!