I graduated from the Department of Drama at National Taiwan University of the Arts, majoring in acting, and I love acting very much. Some people define us as stars, some people define us as actors, or because I've made records, written songs, called me singers, and so on, but I define myself as a performer, and I think of it as work.
Why am I standing here? I think because of the relationship between work, there are many opportunities to play different roles, to experience different lives, to feel different lives. Through this kind of relationship, I have a lot of experience, a lot of understanding of life, an attitude towards life, which I can share with you.
What am I going to share with you? - The right to choose happiness.
<h1> What is happiness? </h1>
I don't know if you like it or not, whether you want to pursue happiness or not, and what definition of happiness you have? I think at the beginning, I still want to start with a clear meaning, to understand what happiness is, these two words are very simple to write, but happiness is difficult to say.
Different identities will have different senses of happiness. If you are the boss, give employees a monthly salary of 4,000 yuan, I think it is great, but the company employees feel that if the salary can reach 8,000 yuan, then how happy, can 10,000 is more happy, right?
Different incomes, different assets, different happiness.
You said Ouyang Nini, took out the pants that the family had not worn for a long time, turned over the pocket, found 200 Taiwan dollars, very happy, Facebook sunburned happiness, many people said good. But don't say 200 Taiwan dollars, even if 200 yuan falls on the ground, you ask Bill Gates to pick it up, will he be happy when he picks it up? He took a few seconds to pick up 200 yuan, if he accidentally flashed his waist, is it worth it? Will he be happy?
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Happiness Find your own happiness</h1>
Everyone feels different about happiness. The same is a glass of beer, when we were under 18 years old, everyone felt that we could secretly drink some wine, my parents didn't know, the feeling of fainting hi hi, so cool, so happy, so happy, right? Then, when you become an adult, open a company, become a boss, drink for social and performance, go to fight wine, you will feel tired and hard.
The same is the birth of children, big S, small S feel that having children is perfect in life, she has a sense of happiness, the happiness she wants to pursue is like this, they would rather risk their lives to give birth to children and enjoy a sense of happiness. But from another point of view, young men and women have just opened their love sinuses, for a moment of happiness, accidentally conceived a child, what to do? They have no sense of happiness. So the same thing, happening in different people, will have different senses of happiness.
Children want to say that they feel the feeling of happiness and happiness, the teacher said that as long as you live well and healthily, and then do a good deed every day, as long as you can do a good thing, you will succeed today, and you will feel happy. But for the elderly, as long as the things on the body do not fall off, as long as the things remembered do not forget is happiness, right?
A small child saw an old lady on the street, the wallet fell on the ground, bent over, waist pain could not be picked up, a look at the opportunity to do good deeds a day came, respect for the elderly and help the children, the children rushed over, pressed the old lady down, picked up the wallet, turned back to write a diary, "Today a day of good, an old lady can not find the wallet, I helped her pick up, the old lady dropped the wallet back into her arms, she was moved to tears." "The children feel very happy, but the old lady lies on the ground for half an hour and is hospitalized for half a month, so everyone feels different about happiness."
How to define happiness? It varies from person to person, place to place, time to time, right? Therefore, some people say that happiness is like a naughty and playful child, uncertain, if it is left, if there is nothing. Today you feel that you have earned 5 million happiness, and when you have 30 million assets one day, you feel that you need two hundred million to be happy, and people's happiness will change with different environments.
So, what is happiness? What are you after in life? I think it's actually very simple, two words - "balance", can achieve balance.
How does happiness strike a balance?
Financial balance. We don't owe too much money, and we don't have to spend too much time and our lives to make money.
Balance of energy. Mentally and physically balanced, we have a healthy body.
Psychological balance. We don't have too much jealousy, we don't have much jealousy, we can live happily.
Interpersonal balance. There are many friends, relatives, and old companions.
Achieve these four balances in a lifetime, basically life will not be too much of a problem, you will enjoy the feeling of happiness you want.
<h1> The "four steps and one no" of life</h1>
Bravely chase dreams, play with your life, today our theme is called life is really fun, dreams are all your happiness. Everyone wants to chase dreams, they all want to be happy, and they are brave enough to chase, because playing with your life has the opportunity to find a sense of happiness in life.
Why play around? Because of these four sentences:
Mom and Dad helped you buy a one-way ticket for life and came to this world, and you can't turn back. You must know that you and I have come to this world after defeating opponents ranging from two or three hundred million, which is not easy, and it is very wonderful that various fates have contributed to us in this world, please cherish.
Sometimes we encounter a pass that can't go, encounter something that is not happy, can't get over with someone, are all suffering, frying to the end of the frying who? Fry it yourself. Life is so short, don't suffer anymore.
If you can't go, you can put it down, turn around and go, see different things, use different eyes, change your mood and you will get different answers and get different ways to solve problems.
How short is life, how short is it? I call it "four steps and one no", which four steps? According to research, the average life expectancy of men and women in Taiwan is about 80 years old, if 20 years is a step, 80 years old is four steps, 1234 steps are completed. One without what is not? Nothing is gone, nothing is gone.
0-20 years old I call it "enjoyment".
0-6 years old is a child, great to have been to kindergarten, and then what will do? Crying, making noise, arguing, eating, sleeping, no, will only enjoy, will only bring disaster to parents.
What do you do when you are 6-12 years old in elementary school? Still reading, your parents will ask you to be safe and happy, and you can do it.
12-18 years old, whether it's junior high school or high school what are you doing? Adolescence, rebellious period, began to quarrel with parents, began to want to fall in love, is not it? As a result, I was admitted to a university, I have not yet graduated from college, I am over 20 years old, and you have all passed the first step in your life and are finished.
20-40 years old life 20-40 years old is a "diligent beast".
What to say? Beastly, he has done a lot of things related to beasts in these 20 years. Emotionally, it's a beast that wants to fall in love, start a family, have kids. Work is a hard-working beast, overtime, part-time, field work is no problem, dispatch abroad can also be, are very desperate, in the career map of everything want to grasp, want to be their own boss, very hard and serious. This is the most energetic and combative 20 years of life.
40-60 years old bear.
What do you start to endure at the age of 40-60? There are old and young, and their own condition is not very good, do you think about it?
This is not good, that is not good, the company, the family is not easy to do. Finished, I don't know what to do at this time!
Facing a mid-life crisis, menopause has arrived, what to do?
Mr. Sandwich, up and down, good pain, what to do?
In this way, the third step of life is completed.
60-80 years old The last step is to "live".
Asking for longevity, did you like to go to nightclubs before? Now ask him if he wants to go to a new nightclub tomorrow? No, tomorrow at 5 o'clock in the morning, I will go to the park to dance the Yuanji Dance, and I feel that if I don't dance the Yuanji Dance one day, I will die. At the beginning, everything requires longevity, do not drink ice water, do not eat fried, start to maintain health, start exercising, like to make some old friends, and live a normal and regular life.
Is there anything 80-100? Yes, now there are advances in medical technology, 80 to 100 is "phlegm cough". At the beginning, some of them were in the hospital, some were lying in the hospital bed, and some of them were ready to give first aid at every turn, and they coughed.
Is there any after 100? After 100 is the "Goblin Monster". Now it's rare, but there are still a hundred years old, and it's not that hard. I have a friend whose grandmother has a big birthday and invites everyone to his house, and there is a singer who goes to sing, and after singing the song, he toasts, saying that grandma wishes you a long life and a hundred years of happiness every day. His grandmother put the wine glass down, the mood is immediately bad, the old woman is 99 this year, you wish me to live to a hundred years old, next year will die, right? As soon as the old man's wine glass was put down, he was angry, his blood pressure was high, and he walked back to the room and never came out again.
Shen Yulin, who was sitting in the audience
I don't know how many steps in life, but I just analyzed it, do you suddenly feel that we are still very young, but my life has completed a step. I'm in the second step now, I'm about to start the third step, and two more steps are gone. What if we know that the average life expectancy is 80 and life is over quickly? How do I find the happiness I want in this short life?
<h1> How to have a choice of happiness? </h1>
Do you have the right to choose happiness? Folks, in your life experience, do you feel that you have the right to choose happiness? I don't know, but the choice of happiness should be in your own hands. Sometimes how people choose happiness has to do with how you define happiness, with your environment, and with the point in time you are in.
When we were children, we heard that Snow White was woken up by Prince Charming, and we thought this story was particularly romantic and happy, right? Now to tell you again, you said that ghosts believe. As soon as I grew up, my childlike heart was gone. Happiness is gone.
As you get older, the feelings of happiness, the requirements of happiness, and the definition of happiness will be different, so do you really have the right to choose happiness? How do you make yourself feel happy?
Summarizing my experience in show business and life over the past few decades, there are some tips to share with you, that is, we can't change the outside environment, but we can change our own inner state of mind. If you can change your state of mind, it is possible that the environment that would otherwise make you feel unhappy becomes happy.
Choose Find the right path for you
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Who is this person? Jin Chengwu, you may not know, he shot an advertisement for EVA Air in Taiwan, what did he do? Just ride a bicycle to the bottom of this big tree, put the bicycle down, pour a cup of tea on the side of the road, drink it, point to the sky and say "I see you, EVA Air of EVA Air". Do you know how much to take? Evergreen gave him NT$30 million.
I asked my agent to call EVA Air and said, we can also make up Jin Chengwu, we imitate him, I see you, we only need 300,000 Taiwan dollars, can we? The EVA Air PR hung up the phone, he said follow you, go busy with yours, just like that, the phone is set to be a call rejection.
Why can he be so simple, a sentence "I see yo", 30 million, I said I only need 300,000, people don't want it, we look so much different... We really have that much difference in appearance, right?
What is the happiness I want? I hope to stand here easily and everyone will see the idol, but I am not this material.
Jincheng Wu has plastic surgery, who rectified it? Parents are whole, in the womb is organized like this, the original factory materials are very good, born out of this look, all neat.
Guys, I have to get my own happiness, my position in show business, my achievements in show business, how do I get it? Is it to do Jincheng Wu? Wrong. Can be Jin Chengwu, who wants to be two hundred and five? Right? But if you insist on saying that I want to be Jin Chengwu, it is not OK, the direction and definition and level of happiness are wrong.
Find the stage, you are Jin Chengwu
A friend once said that I was acting in a stage play at a certain moment like Takeshi Kaneshiro. He was one of our companions in the stage play, he was on the side stage, I was a male one, playing a snitch, I finally made a move, jumped out of a small window of the train in handcuffs, landed on the ground, rolled in a circle, closed the curtain with everyone, and the whole audience applauded.
But that action was very dangerous, as soon as my handcuffs were pulled open, my feet were turned, or as soon as my head hit the top of the carriage above, the top of the window, it was finished, and my head must be broken. But at that moment, there was thunderous applause from the audience, and he said that I was exactly the same as Jin Chengwu. I said do I really have such a handsome? Say yes.
Guys, I found out later that I realized a truth, what is it? If you define happiness as something you can't do, something that doesn't fit your life, something that doesn't fit in with your state, you won't get it, and you won't be happy. So I found that if you find the right stage, you are Jin Chengwu.
Find yourself What is the right stage for you?
When is your stage? It's not that you're handsome, it's not that you're handsome, it's not that you're going to make yourself look like an idol anywhere, it's that you can do your part well.
The character I played is a snitch, I will obediently be a snitch, we are funny artists, just tell jokes here to make everyone happy, but if you insist on staring at idol artists, it will be over, you will live a very hard life.
So if you can find your stage, you are a good mother at home, you are a good wife, you are your family's Lin Chiling. If you do a good job in the company, you are a good employee, and you are your company's Jin Chengwu.
In addition, in life, in the work position, we must gather positive energy and learn positive thinking, because life is not always in a good situation, there will always be some adversity. In a bad environment, you can also imagine in a good way.
I have a friend who, since he was a child, aspired to drive a sports car in the future, what were his conditions? If you want double doors, you want an open top, the two-seater seat can only sit in two positions, and there is an accelerated push back feeling when the throttle is stepped. Later his first job (hotel parking clerk) fulfilled his dream.
There was also a young friend who said that his dream in the future was to live in a luxurious mansion, with a garden, a swimming pool, a gym, and a famous car in and out, and he was a well-known figure in the whole community, and everyone had to listen to him, saying one is one, saying two is two, and then he completed his dream. After he retired from the army, he worked as a bodyguard in a top mansion, then as a guard, and as a security guard at the door of the property, and he also fulfilled his dream.
This is not false, if you are a security guard can also imagine your life like this, you will live a very happy life, you will be different from the average security guard, you will have a different sense of happiness than the average person.
In addition, it is rare for us to see a person in life who says, I have not suffered in my life, I have been very happy and happy in my life, should not be? There will always be suffering, there will always be low tides and setbacks, right? This is called life. How do you find happiness in suffering, in sorrow, in frustration, and find your own sense of happiness? How to make pleasure in suffering, how to make pleasure in suffering? Because happiness and pain are compared.
<h1> Happiness and pain are compared</h1>
Let me give you a few examples, such as watermelon with salt is sweeter. We sometimes go to eat a wedding feast, and finally send a plate of fruit, watermelon to pick up to eat, the boss watermelon is not sweet, take it back to the top of a layer of salt, and then serve it, you eat again, this watermelon is sweet, the same piece of watermelon will be sweet to eat, why? Because our tongue has just been deceived by the salt, so you deceive yourself with the salt, and the watermelon will become sweeter.
A long goodbye reunion will be more joyful. Husband and wife look at each other, the more they look at it, the more annoying it is, right? Every day we meet and work at the same company, and when we get home, we are under the same roof. But half a year did not see, a business trip back, very much missed, xiao Bei sheng newly married, two people are very happy, right?
Cold winter showers will be warmer. The weather is very cold, the cold current is coming, you take a hot bath, wash and dry your body, go back to the room, you will be afraid of the cold, right? You try to take a trip to cold water after taking a shower, two seconds is fine, dry your body, once you come out and wear shorts, it won't be cold, you can also go out shopping, 20 minutes won't be afraid of the cold, and you won't catch a cold.
It will be more refreshing to hold urine to liberate. I don't know if you feel this way, I once had a trip from Tainan to Taipei, it was the last day of the Qingming Festival holiday, I encountered a big traffic jam on the highway of more than 300 kilometers, originally about three and a half hours of road, I drove for 17 hours.
I went up from the first communication channel, by 3:30 p.m. I couldn't hold back, the people in our car were talking about the smell of urine, the urine felt full to this (brain), if something happened, the police came to the autopsy, should die of cerebral hemorrhage? Then we saw the Xiluo rest station for two kilometers, which was great, and after two kilometers you could pee.
Then after an hour, we saw the one-kilometer sign of the Xiluo rest station, and after another hour, we entered the rest station, and it took another half an hour before we entered the toilet of the rest station. It was only two kilometers, but it took us two and a half hours.
As soon as you get out of the car, the door opens to flush to the toilet, you can't flush, and it explodes when you flush. Walk slowly, go to the toilet and think you can finally pee, right? But the problem is that there are four people in front of each urinal, and each of them has been peeing for a long time... Go one ahead, go ahead, and finally it's up to you, and it doesn't stop for two minutes. But there is a murderous spirit behind it, because there are also a bunch of people lined up behind it, and it is good to be faster.
After sprinkling a soak of urine and going out, watching the sunset, it was already four o'clock in the afternoon, our car had only driven more than a hundred kilometers, I didn't know how to go on the road ahead, thinking about feeling that the sky suddenly rained, wasn't it the big sun? At first glance, it turned out to be tears falling from my eyes.
Guys, that's how I went all the way down for 17 hours, and it was the most impressive soak of urine in my life.
So what do we say about Bibi? Without a cold bone, the plum blossoms are fragrant, less than the top, more than the bottom, than what is found in the end? The real thing is to compare ourselves, and our opponent is ourselves. Let's say when we're unhappy and we see someone who's in a worse condition than I am, I feel much better. Do you know what I mean? You're out of love, your boyfriend breaks up with you, who are you looking for someone to talk to? Looking for a newly divorced person, talk to him, I am divorced, how my husband is, you will feel much better.
I once performed a song and dance drama, as soon as I went out, stood on the knees of two people and flipped over, turned over, hit my head on the ground, slammed into the ground, got up and continued to perform, didn't remember the lines, didn't remember the lyrics, what to do? After the performance, I was sent to the hospital emergency room after the performance, and when I arrived at the emergency room, I sat down with the doctor. The doctor said, what is wrong with you? I said I had just performed, flipped over from the height of two people, fell on my head, and now I felt like my cerebellum was shaking like a tofu brain.
Later I heard an ambulance bring a patient, the bed white sheets, with a pool of red blood on it, a uncle in his 50s with a broken head, right next to me, the curtain was pulled up, and I heard the person next to me say that this person fell from the balcony on the fifth floor and hit the flower bed. When I heard that it was down from the fifth floor, I was only two people high, and I immediately felt much better.
The doctor asked, how are you doing? I said it was much better. The doctor asked again, do you have any holes or cracks in anything now? No, my back swelled up, as if a little tissue fluid was flowing out, wet. The doctor said this to be examined, and I felt very dizzy. But the emergency bed next to me was already starting to shave his head with a razor, and said that he wanted to add anesthesia, use a few number of needles to sew a few lines, I heard it was terrible, I had not yet broken the hole, much better.
The doctor asked me to take a CT of the brain again, and after taking the ct, I got up for ten minutes and was a little dizzy. What's wrong? Do you want to help you, I looked at the end of the corridor in front of me, a wheelchair pushed over a mummy, all wrapped up. I said this is? Just the gentleman who fell from the fifth floor, he also had to take a CT of the brain. The doctor said, otherwise, we push him to take a picture, and this wheelchair is taken and pushed you back. I said, no, I'm much better, I can go on my own.
Guys, I didn't take my medication that night, I didn't have treatment, I signed it and was discharged from the hospital. I thought about it later, and it seemed that it was not a doctor or a nurse who healed me, but the gentleman who had fallen from the fifth floor. It's wonderful, when I feel pain, I see him, I get better; when I feel bitter, I see him, I'm much better.
<h1>Happiness is about being true to one's own choices</h1>
Folks, life is like this. What about happiness? It's up to you to pursue, but you can't blindly define it. A lot of people say what I want, I want a sports car, I want to drive a Ferrari. But when I actually sat on the Ferrari for the first time, I felt really uncomfortable, why do you know? The door was wide, and as soon as it was opened, I sat down, so low, very bad.
In fact, sports cars are not necessarily good, do you want to run a sports car? After buying it, I found that it did not meet your wishes, so why did you buy it? Because others like sports cars, you are defining your happiness according to other people's standards, that is wrong, so there is no need to compare, life is compared to the final discovery of the opponent to compare? It's yourself. If you are a little better than yesterday, you feel a little more happy.
Tomorrow you are better than today, tomorrow you feel a little more happy. Happiness is to be true to your own choices, what choices you make, whether you have a choice or not, but you can decide, you can define what is called happiness. When you define it, you continue to pursue this dream with your heart, and you can find your own happiness in the process.
Albert Einstein once said that not everything that can be calculated has meaning, and not everything that is meaningful can be calculated. You define this as happiness, which may not be done, but in the process of running in, constantly adjusting, you will change your definition and standard of happiness.
In this process of constantly reconciling, running in, and changing, you will find your own happiness, and then define the next happiness, so that you can continue to improve, continue to feel, create your happy life, and at the same time have your happiness choice. The choice of happiness is in your hands.
Finally, I would like to give you four words:
It's up to you. In life, no matter what you do, you must rely on your faith, rely on your ideas, rely on your principles, and rely on your profession.
Love what you love, cherish. Cherish the love that is worth cherishing, the love that is worth cherishing, and love it with good heart.
Hi you hi. If you don't like the job today, don't come, go home quickly, don't come here to work. You have to come, work hard, enjoy your work.
In your place, there is. Because you are willing to exist in this place, because you exist at this point in time, you gain the value of real existence and the meaning of existence, because such meaning can create your happy life, and at the same time you have your choice of happiness, okay?
Thank you for sharing today's speech.
Editor: Fang Fang
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