The day before yesterday, I accidentally saw a very hot topic on Weibo: "What does the Internet distort love into?" Click on the comments of various netizens:
Netizen @ Xiao A: "Now often brush short videos can always see some boys can only eat strawberry farts, egg tart side, every time I see this video, the heart is speechless, I really can't see where this behavior reflects the pain of the girlfriend." "A pot of strawberries, you one for me, isn't that good?" You have to take a bite and give the rest to your boyfriend like a puppy. ”
Netizen @ Xiao B: "For example, the first lipstick derived from the first cup of milk tea in autumn, the first bag, the first red packet." For example, the bubble machine that was very hot before, that thing, is really the merchant to clear the inventory, in addition to the concave shape, other places that are usually not useful at all. Now I found a business opportunity, that is, to buy those old things that can't be bought, find a few Internet celebrities to take a video with goods, as long as it is on fire, it will definitely be sold out. After all, as long as your boyfriend doesn't buy it for you, they don't love you in their eyes. If someone comes to love with you according to the concept of love on TikTok, then this person is either playing with you, or it is childish and ridiculous, and they don't know how to fall in love at all, only know how to follow the trend. Everyone is an adult in their twenties, and some things must have a little judgment of their own. ”
Originally, I had already agreed with the so-called correct concept of love of netizens, but suddenly I thought about it, is all the ritual sense of love a trap of business consumerism? If we attack such a follow-up form to the extreme, perhaps either concept is the commentator's own correct view of love. Maybe some Internet celebrities don't always let their boyfriends eat strawberry farts, but just want to take a video once in a while to prove the way they get along with their boyfriends, because in the eyes of such people, this kind of love is what she wants, is there anything wrong? What is wrong is actually us who watch the video, because we envy the way couples get along in the video, so we ignore the way we get along with ourselves and the other half, and we also ignore the way the other party loves ourselves, blindly using the love concept of others to deal with our own love. Maybe someone else's boyfriend just likes to prove that he loves his girlfriend by eating strawberry farts, which I don't think is wrong in itself. But if you want to follow suit, you have to let your boyfriend do the same, and also think, "You don't love me." "To carry out a denial of your love, I think this is the error, this is the incorrect view of love.
What is distorted by the Internet is not all kinds of weird ways of proving love each other that seem childish, because everyone gets along differently. But obviously not the same model, we have to use the same standard to measure our love.
Some people, pay attention to the sense of ceremony. I will take the initiative to eat strawberry farts, egg tarts on the side, I think, I want to express the meaning is that I want to give you the sweetest part I can get. Will give the initiative to "order" a cup of autumn milk tea, because he does not want others to have you do not. You can think of this way as sweet, or you can think of this way as childish and boring, all depending on your own judgment. However, I don't want us to casually say, "If you don't do this, you don't love me." "Such brainless words. Because, he will love you in his own way, in fact, whether he loves a person or not, you will feel it yourself.
A few days ago, the first day of autumn. The circle of friends blew a wind of "the first cup of milk tea in autumn", so I also wanted to naughtily test my classmate Peng. I hinted a little, and Classmate Peng immediately sent me a red envelope. In fact, whether this red envelope is enough to buy a cup of milk tea, or enough to buy a few cups of milk tea, when he didn't say two words, and didn't think I was so childish and bored to cooperate with me, I had achieved my goal. Therefore, I also sent a red envelope to my classmate Peng. "Honey, you also accept it, and your boyfriend also wants the first cup of milk tea in the fall." I guess that's the sense of ritual that belongs between the two of us. Every time he sends it to me, I will prepare it for him the same way, and my boyfriend will be pampered. Moreover, even if Mr. Peng did not do that, I would still not doubt and question his liking and love for me. After all, he likes me, and I feel it more than anyone. His kindness to me is not only reflected in a cup of milk tea.
I am reminded of a passage that Fu Seoul once said in "Strange Story": "What is love?" It's you who write a lot of criteria for mate selection on paper: he has to be good and learned and rich, but suddenly one day you meet a person, and you find that he has nothing to do with all the standards you write, but you are moved. Love is to forget your so-called standard, that is, you did not hesitate to tear the paper. You don't know where he is good, but you know that no one can replace him.
Love is spending a lot of time together and doing boring things, love is appreciating each other, love is not forcing you to change yourself for the life I want, no one is perfect, and so is a partner. I also remembered the comment of a netizen at the bottom of this hot search: "Don't blame the network for distorting love, and don't blame the era of consuming love." No matter in which time and space, there will be hypocrisy and lies. If the information age can have more and faster choices, it will not stand the test. Then the responsibility absolutely does not lie in the environment and the times, but in the judgment of people themselves. Love is never shallow, there will be fulfillment, there will be patience, there will be pay, there is waiting, love is the first time to meet the heartbeat, is a thousand times still hanging on, is still around when the upheaval is displaced, love is a promise, but also a feast. Love is the greatest test of human nature. Being able to focus on the goals they have set and being able to protect them for a long time, such a confident person is actually the happiest in himself. Because happiness never lies in the other party's efforts for themselves, not in how much they take, happiness only comes from the deepest investment and the most courageous responsibility. In the end, I want to say that good love is that you have become trusting each other, have few doubts about each other, and know how to score inches. Now the ecology between you is balanced, there is no blind giving and greedy taking, you know how to get along with each other just right, not to please, is natural. This is something that has been polished for a long time, which can be called tacit understanding, can be called induction, can also be called tacit, can be called effortless.
Between the two of you, it is true nature, true understanding, true mutual appreciation, forgetting all the romance of posing, and beginning to truly read the meaning of love from the other person. Finally, may all that you love and do what you want.