Written to those who once were

23 years old

Your mom asks you: Why don't you have a boyfriend yet

You say that the work has just begun, to be stable

You say that studying is important, first go to graduate school

You say, you're waiting for the right guy

25 years old

Most of the friends have settled down their feelings and talked about marriage

Your aunts and aunts and aunts and aunts have suddenly met a group of young talents who want to introduce them to you

Your mom is also in a hurry

27 years old

Open the circle of friends, friends and classmates have begun to dry the baby

You meet a person who is okay with a decent family, a good look, a good personality

It's not what you want, but it's just fine anyway

"You are 27 years old, you can't pick, your mother and your relatives say so" So they also began to talk about marriage

28 years old

You're finally getting married, too.

At the wedding you wear a snow-white wedding dress, you are the most beautiful girl on the spot

In the flickering light, you remember that in your imagination, you had also stood in this place with a person. The man, dressed in a straight suit and a neat bow tie, came to you with flowers.

Amid the cheers, sure enough, a man came.

Unfortunately, it was not the one I imagined.

In the days that followed, you became a wife.

Bid farewell to girls' generation,

Started cleaning the whole house, learning to wash, cook, cook.

Speaking of which, you haven't even done this for your parents a few times.

29 years old

You're pregnant.

He quit his job, which had gradually gained a foothold, and raised a baby at home.

As usual, he went out to work early and came home at night.

The housework at home is still yours, when the morning sickness is uncomfortable,

There was no one around.

During the pregnancy test, he accompanied you a few times, and then complained that the queue was too wasteful of time and did not go again.

Sometimes the mother-in-law will come,

Let you eat and drink a lot, all for the child to make up.

You were alone through this long month of October.

On the day of the birth, he came.

You cried out in pain and screamed.

He frowned and said: What to shout, if it hurts so much, no one else shouts.

30 years old

It was the most painful year.

The child wakes up once an hour, and they say that the milk powder is not nutritious.

Make sure you stick to breast milk,

So you follow the milk once an hour,

At two o'clock in the morning, the child cried again. You get confused.

Looking back, the husband was not in bed.

From the third day, he thought the child was too noisy and went to sleep in the guest room.

From this year on, you no longer think about skirts, food, cosmetics, but children, feeding children at night, doing housework at home during the day with children.

Every day, the shawl is distributed, and the cries of children are all around.

33 years old

The child grows up a little, and you can finally relax a little.

The child I had brought for three years never slept soundly. Having never had a good meal, standing in front of the mirror, you can't even believe that the woman in front of you with a sallow face and withered hair is yourself.

So I opened my phone and wanted to buy something for myself.

For the past three years, your order has been full of baby products.

35 years old

The child adapted to kindergarten.

You found a temporary job.

Your husband has been promoted and the time to come home is getting less and less.

40 years old

Forty years old, you really suddenly see life very openly.

He was blessed with a big belly, no handsomeness, and his purring became louder and louder when he slept.

You only take good care of your children.

45 years old

The child is in junior high school,

To the rebellious period,

The way you speak to your parents becomes yelling,

Look at this beautiful child, you can't figure it out.

The children I raised,

How did it suddenly become different?

But you don't dare to contradict him,

You stopped the husband who was going to beat up the children

Because this child is your last hope,

Your child roared louder.

47 years old

When the child reaches high school, he begins to live on campus,

You miss the child, call him, he muttered, oh, and hung up within a minute.

48 years old

The child is about to take the college entrance examination, and you are even more nervous than he is.

After the college entrance examination, you expect him to fill in a volunteer who is close to home, stable, and easy to find a job.

The child filled in a very unpopular major far from home and said you know what.

You stomp your feet in anger, but in the end you can only sigh and prepare your luggage for him.

50 years old

Your body is slowly getting worse.

The distant child called and he said he was homesick. Miss you. You can't hold back tears as soon as you hear it.

But he pretended to laugh and said, "That mother is waiting for you to come back."

Then you told the child about the neighbor's dog giving birth to a cub, said that the girl next door was married, said that the house opposite was going to be demolished, and complained as usual about his father's stink...

55 years old

The child graduated, found a job and drifted away, and the pain of work made him call you.

This time, you don't feel like he doesn't understand things anymore.

You say, Mom is at home. Homesick and come back

Later he called less and less and went home less and less.

So you, you and your husband sit on the couch, guarding the empty house. Look at each other's gray hair, waiting for the children who return home two or three times a year.

60 years old

The children are also married.

The son and daughter-in-law moved out together and had their own home.

The husband retired and went out to play cards and chess when he had nothing to do.

I don't go home very often.

The house was suddenly empty, and you didn't know what to do.

Looking back on the past 30 years, you only had children and husbands in your life.

61 years old

You start following the neighborhood to square dancing.

The home is always empty,

It seems that square dancing can make you less lonely

62 years old

The son's child was born.

They were all too busy and inexperienced.

He said Mom, help us with the baby.

Your mother-in-law didn't help you much back then.

But today,

Your son's words still make you unable to refuse.

In a word, it pulls you back to the most painful year.

The difference is that this time you are carefully feeding your child with a bottle.

70 years old

The child's children have also grown up.

You're completely old.

His hair was gray and he couldn't dance.

75 years old

You're lying in a hospital bed, surrounded by people.

Everyone was crying.

They say, you are a good wife, you are a good mother. You're thinking, maybe that wedding at the age of 28 turned me into a good person.

You have closed eyes and it's hard to breathe.

The cries around him suddenly became louder.

Before consciousness disappears, a lot of things flash before your eyes. The white-clad teenager on the high school playground, the seventeen-year-old flying skirt, and the laughter when walking around the mall holding hands with friends. Standing on stage with that person and saying I would.