"Control" is a topic that is more common and highly concerned at present, especially in family relations, many children experience this from their parents, including many companies will always let employees only experience "suffocation", why is this?
In short, the "controller" is also being "controlled", so the "control" should be transmitted, which also shows that a certain level itself is not capable of resolving the pressure, on the other hand, once a certain level dissolves its own "controlled", there is no need to conduct downwards, which is more than enough.
"Surplus" is "organic", "organic" is "lively", and "lively" is "interesting". Deadlocks up and down are like machines, a "switch" can trap people, weekends, holidays can not move. But you always know that there are people around you who can rest and travel, so would you think that's because of his financial freedom?
Wage earners are afraid of gain and loss, and high wage earners are even worse, not what wage earners think "if you have money, you can do whatever you want.". "What can you do when you have money" is just a common idea of wage earners, because high-wage earners will be more like walking on thin ice, they know that what they have now is not easy to come by, so they can't bear the "uncertainty", so the leader lets overtime, accompany customers on weekends, one step can not be wrong, and the cost of their mistakes will be higher. The essence of this worry is the result of the inability of the heart to dissolve the pressure, and those who are truly refined are really liberated.
Master Huineng of the Six Ancestors of Zen Buddhism was illiterate in a big word, and even the song that was not too famous was ghostwritten by others, but he heard that "he should live without dwelling and give birth to his heart". So how did he pass, why did he pass, why did we listen to it and why didn't we feel it?
Let's start with the question: Is the opposite of control out of control? In other words, is it necessary to use control to solve the problem of loss of control?
This is the puzzle, out of control is just a sense of loss of control, while control is behavior. People do not have a sense of loss of control will not be projected, that is to say, the sense of loss of control and loss of control will not appear alone, "out of control" is the loss of control of "sense of loss of control", "sense of loss of control" is the sense of loss of control of "out of control". Therefore, "control" is not at all a prescription for treating "out of control", but a projection of "out of control", similar to symptoms such as "Jackie Chan" and "I hope you are good", which are hidden very deeply.
Therefore, without the "sense of loss of control", there is no "control", and the reason for not "controlling" is that there is no "sense of loss of control".
For example, this sentence: "If you don't study well, you will (omit ten thousand words here)..."
This states:
1, the person who speaks has a sense of loss of control, this time can be compared to a tight thick leather band, it has the need to restore the original shape that is, relaxed down;
2. The listener has no sense of loss of control, and compares him to a thin leather band in a primitive state;
3, the thick leather band now wants to pass on the strength of their own bearing to the thin leather band, but the thin one may not be able to withstand such a force, that is to say, without waiting for the society to tear the child, he himself may first tear the child off, and the parents will pass it directly to the child without processing the psychological endurance of their own entry into society, so there are a lot of problems outside the learning itself in the school now.
It's not that children shouldn't bear this, it's just that it's not there yet, and the pressure is slowly increasing. It is not time to suffer, and it is not time to enjoy.
How should this game be broken? Then we must see through the six ancestors that are the most thorough and clean.
"Should dwell without dwelling" is understood, and "giving birth to its mind" is also understood, but it is not easy to understand how this "dwelling nothing" and "giving birth to its mind" are connected.
When the dark clouds cover the moon, that is, the moon "dwells", and as much as it covers, it will live as much as it wants, and the right that is not covered is regarded as "giving birth to its heart". We have not seen the dark clouds that can cover the moon forever, so the dark clouds themselves will drift away, which is the moon "no dwelling", when the dark clouds all drift away the whole moon will reappear, this is "born of its heart". It's as simple as that, there is only a state transformation between "having a dwelling" and "giving birth to its mind", as much as there is this, not much that, not much of this, as much as that. Zhuangzi's so-called "if you do nothing, you will become self-contained", no matter what method you think, it is a way to keep the dark clouds. The feeling comes, it will go on its own, the happiness cannot be retained, and so can the troubles. Just wanting to keep happiness is a worry, and trying to drive away the trouble is also a trouble, which is not added to it yourself.
However, the dark clouds will indeed cover the moon for a while, and whether or not you can withstand it at this time is Zhuangzi's "peace and order". The reason why we see that "we should live without dwelling and have its heart" is because we are too accustomed to using our brains and like "thinking" too much. The more you "think", the more you will surrender to past experience and reject new experience, but past experience is formed by "living".
Therefore, whether a person has grown in the end depends on how much he has bid farewell to his past self, "old stubborn" is a giant baby, and the reader should not see it for three days.
People can grow because of simplicity, the simpler the person, the lower the cost of updating, so those with apprentices like "a blank piece of paper". And a person who is simple enough to be constantly updated is a person who looks complicated, because he can be different from his previous self at any time, so he can't grasp the law. From this point of view, a person who is too complex to be updated is a simple-looking person, because he has been stereotyped early, so it is easy to get the law right. So those who play with the clever are hiding their ears and ringing bells in front of simple people, and the cleverness is exposed to being seen as clever, so where is the cleverness?
The mystery of the puzzle is always a sentence of "déjà vu swallow returns". "Yan" is no longer the one he thought he was, just his own wishful thinking. The so-called "pedestrians do not have a vendetta against the road", this nostalgia is also a road after all, even if you walk into the tiger and leopard wolf den, you can still retreat, because you still know that it is the tiger leopard wolf den. So don't be "road rage", it's not a problem of the road, it's a person. I was afraid that I was lost, and I thought that the jackal, tiger and leopard were blocking my own path, but I didn't know why I got on this road.
Charming has its own set of fanatical words, is to take frivolity as personality, or take willfulness as spontaneity, here to see, at a glance.
Because it's simple.