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In your opinion, can effort really change a person's destiny? Or so to speak, do you think that after a lifetime of hard work, you can really break through the current level?
In many cases, effort can only make people eat enough and dress warmly. But if you want to change your destiny, or break through the current level, it is useless to rely on effort alone.
A cold disciple, his family background is average, and he has lived in the countryside for a long time. In this way, he wants to put down roots in the city, which is a particularly difficult thing.
A person with a poor family education, he did not receive a formal education since he was a child, and he dropped out of school to work halfway through. Then, no matter how hard he tries, he will not be able to reverse the current situation.
Life, seemingly simple, is actually particularly complicated. Because it is mixed with many uncertain factors, you don't know if such factors will happen to you.
Take the "favorable time and place" that we often talk about, do you think that ordinary people can fully possess these three conditions?
In fact, it is very good for ordinary people to have "people", so how dare they expect to have "time and place"? You know, there are most people in this world, they are ordinary people, they can eat three meals without worry, they are very satisfied, there will not be too many ideas.
People who have lived at the "bottom" all their lives have these three shortcomings, and no matter how hard they try, it is futile.
02
People who have lived at the bottom all their lives do not have a large pattern.
To see what a person's future will become, you don't need to look at the person's emotional intelligence and IQ, but you need to look at the person's pattern.
What is "emotional intelligence"? That is nothing more than the talent and ability that man uses when he is "dealing with the world." What kind of talent and ability you have, what kind of impression you will give people, what kind of things you will do.
What is a "pattern"? That is how far you see, how deep your cognition is, and how many "heavens and earth" you can hide in your heart. If you already have a huge pattern, then you will be able to do something bigger.
But if you lack a certain pattern, then no matter how high your IQ and emotional intelligence, you can't play it better.
From a certain point of view, the "pattern" is the bottom of the lower limit of life and the infinite extension of the upper limit of life. In order to get rid of the current situation and break through the current level, it is often necessary for people to have a larger pattern.
Those who have lived at the bottom all their lives, they do not lose on emotional intelligence and IQ, but on the fact that the pattern is not big enough.
Because those who have no pattern will eventually lose the basic and opportunity to compete with others.
03
People who have lived at the bottom all their lives cannot get rid of the solidified thinking.
For changing the current situation, "Zhou Yi" has a saying that is particularly good, poor is changing, changing is general, and general is long.
You are in a more difficult situation, then you have to try to change. And as you know how to change your thoughts and thinking, your future path will become smooth, and your life and career will become long.2
Why is there a difference between people? First of all, people's origins are different, and secondly, people's thinking is different.
Naturally, the origin cannot be changed, so we can only look at the "thinking" to do things. A person's thinking is a person's guiding light.
Some people's thinking turns very fast, then they can achieve a breakthrough in a project in a short period of time, thus proving their value to others.
And some people's thinking turns very slowly, and even there is a situation of "solidification", then this person will only be eliminated by society.
The so-called "sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat." Those who cannot change the current situation, they cannot get rid of the old thinking of the past, and thus be affected by the old thinking.
04
People who have lived at the bottom all their lives have neither a background nor an opportunity.
Do you think a person's background is important or not?
Now there is such a thought, that is, being a person can not fight father and mother, which is a manifestation of no ability.
However, in the actual situation, if a person has a background and has a particularly rich father and mother, then this person's life has already won half of it.
Take some of the rich second generation, for example, they were born with cars and houses, and a lot of assets waiting for them to inherit. And ordinary people, even if they have struggled all their lives, may not be able to buy a house.
If the example of the rich second generation is too extreme, then we may wish to look at those who "run the time" halfway through.
Some people, although they were a little poor when they were young, but they encountered opportunities at some point in the future, then they can rely on opportunities to go straight up and directly break through the current level.
However, there are many ordinary people who have never encountered any opportunities in their lives. In this way, this determines the gap between people.
Life, in fact, is very realistic. If you want to be at the bottom, that person must have a background and strength. But if a person has no background, he has to have the ability to have opportunities. But if you can't even touch the opportunity, this can only be the helplessness of life.
05
Write to the end
In fact, the most people in this society are ordinary people.
A pyramid, the higher up the people, the fewer people. And the people at the bottom are often the most. If everyone could change their current destiny, the structure of the pyramid would have changed long ago.
It is precisely because very few people can change their destiny that the structure of the pyramid has remained stable.
The ancients had a saying that life was not satisfactory nine times out of ten.
Since we can't change reality, we might as well change our hearts. Perhaps, being an ordinary and ordinary person is also a good choice.
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