Today on the Internet, one after the other, I saw two popular Q&A questions, one is to ask what you want to say to yourself if you can travel back in time; the other is what you want to say to yourself if you can go back to the next ten years. The two interesting questions are nostalgia for the past and thinking about the future.
Everyone has gone through the years, and there are some regretful people and things: what they want to do but have not done, what they want to say, and those misunderstandings that they have only understood later, and the knots that have not been unraveled... Sometimes I wonder with chagrin that if I hadn't done that, if I hadn't said that, or made another choice, things would have turned out differently.
Everyone is also looking forward to the future and the future, hoping that the future is happy and beautiful.
If you were given a chance to really travel back to a certain day, which day would you like to go back to?
The film "Before the Coffee Is Cold" is a few stories about going back to the past and the present, and it is adapted from Toshikazu Kawaguchi's novel of the same name, which won the 42nd Japan Academy Awards in 2019.
At a coffee shop, there is a mysterious seat in the shop, and sitting on this seat is likely to go back to the day you want to go back. The time to go back begins with the coffee poured into the cup, if you don't drink it before the coffee gets cold, you will become a ghost and never come back, but going back to the past, still can't change any facts that have happened.
Since going back to the past cannot change the facts that have happened, what is the point of looking back at the past?
Nimiko, who regrets her separation from Goro, Mr. Fuyuki, who was forgotten by his wife Takatake, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, has always refused to see his sister, his sister Hirai, who only realized after his sister died in a car accident, and Xiaonu, who thinks his mother does not love him.
They regret not seizing the opportunity, they do not know each other's regrets, there are misunderstandings of sadness, so they want to go back to the past, hoping to have the possibility of changing the present. ~
The facts that have occurred in the past cannot be changed, and the past can no longer be traced, but we can change the state of mind of the present, change our minds, grasp the present in time, and grasp the future.
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The present is more important than the past, don't get stuck in the past. </h1>
After another few minutes of farewell, Nimiko changed her mind and finally made a brave confession and resigned to follow Goro. She took a step towards the other party first and seized the happy love. If she has been chafing at the other party for not opening her mouth first, and has been regretting that she did not leave the other party, then she can only stay in regret.
We will leave a little reluctance and regret through the years, about learning, about life, about work, and even love, but the past experience, let us know to cherish, know the preciousness of loss, and then better experience the present.
Just like Mr. Fangmu in the play, he goes back to the past to talk to his wife Takatake, who has not forgotten him, knowing that his wife feels guilty about dragging him down, and hopes that Fangmu will treat her as a wife, and the two will not become similar to the relationship between nurses and patients;
After understanding the facts, Mr. Fangmu changed his mind, since his wife Takatake had forgotten her, he would regard the future every day as a time to pursue his wife and fall in love with her again. Is this kind of life happier than spending every day in sadness and worry, past and present, how to choose? If you don't hold the present, even the future will be lost.
Tomorrow is unknown, so now is the most important. </h1>
We often think that there will be many tomorrows, and the time will be long in the future, so many people do not care about many things, until one day they are caught off guard, and the people and things that they thought would always be there will suddenly leave.
This is the case with her sister Hirai, who, because she misunderstands her sister's thoughts, avoids her sister until her sister dies in a car accident. Hirai returns to a certain moment in the past and talks to his deceased sister, it turns out that he has been misunderstanding his sister and understands her wishes.
If Hirai could give his sister a chance to listen to her, he wouldn't have left so much regret. Hirai finally chose to fulfill her sister's wish, because that was what she had been looking forward to.
If we knew that tomorrow would not come again, and that people and things would not change according to our own ideas, would we understand the meaning of the present?
Sometimes we escape, in fact, we do not let go of the past, escape their own past, can not face and accept the past of their own. If we give the past a chance to explain, we actually give ourselves a chance to reconcile with the people and things of the past. Instead of letting the entanglement and uneasiness fill the heart, it is better to face the reality and let go of the past self. Uncertain now, how can there be a solid future.
<h1>Three, convey emotions to each other</h1>
In the play, Xiaoshu has always thought that her mother did not come back to see her deceased father, and doubted her mother's love. So she didn't dare to respond to the love she got, and she didn't dare to imagine the future. But she finally has the opportunity to go back to the past, only to learn that her mother stayed in the past and became a ghost because she could not let go of her young self. Mother's love for the decimal number is not afraid of life and death, not afraid of the unknown, do not need to doubt. Her mother's love for her has traveled through the meaning of time and has always accompanied her. Xiaoshu puts her mother's love in her heart and turns it into the pursuit of herself and the power of her life.
After Nimiko takes a brave step, she discovers that Goro also likes herself; Mr. Furamaki only later confirms that his wife loves herself, and love has unimaginable magic power for everyone.
We are born to pursue beautiful and beautiful emotions, family affection, friendship, love, if there is love in the heart, speak out to family, to friends, to lovers, even if the other party knows your emotions, you must also say it, pass the emotion to him, so that the person who receives love is more certain of happiness and meaning.
<h1>The present connects the past and the future</h1>
Every past has been the present, the future has not yet come, but the future is created by the present, and only by holding the present can we hold the future.
In reality, we can't have a chance to go back to the past, but we can grasp the present and grasp the present.
Grasping the present means that if you have something you want to do, you will try to complete it; if you have unspeakable emotions, you must express them; if you have unsolved knots and regrets that you can't make up, you will try your best to change the present and do a good job in the present.
The movie "Before the Coffee Is Cold" has made some deletions and changes to the original novel, but the emotions remain unchanged, the warmth remains unchanged, but the years pass, the time in which we are changing, even if we are given a chance to travel to the past, if we do not understand the most important thing now, then returning to the past can not change anything, the best is from the past, learn to grasp the present, grasp the future.