Father and Son (XXIX)

During this time, I did not talk about the distress between me and the child on the Internet, one is that the child's current state makes me feel satisfied, I don't want to nag behind him all day about his learning, the second is that I feel that I am mediating my own mentality, gradually adjusting myself from the state of anxiety, and third, there are still a lot of words I want to say to the child, but he still does not understand, I do not want to affect his own mentality, and after the expiration of the exam, then make a comprehensive summary of his problems.

First of all, during this time, the child himself realizes the importance of learning, of course, it may also be because the midterm exam is approaching, the problem of learning does not need me to supervise in the back, basically back home after eating and resting is to start their own learning, and at the same time, the heart is not as staring at the mobile phone as before, not taking the initiative to ask us. The excuse given to me before was that I needed to use a mobile phone to check the problem, I said that I would not consider it first, and then I would not discuss it together, I really would not ask the teacher, it is not recommended to directly check the answer on the mobile phone, I think this measure is to plug a large management loophole.

I think it is still more difficult to communicate with children, sometimes when I take the initiative to ask, he will show impatience, ignore the attitude, I also feel not impatient, you do not say to me can not say, you love to say can not say, although life is short, but not urgent at this time, the problem of children's education still needs to calm down, patience, just like fishing, if you are impatient, the fish will be unhooked.

I still feel that communicating with children needs opportunities, after all, we have a generation gap, our own thinking is the thinking of adults, sometimes ahead, sometimes put interests in front, and children's thinking does not have so many interests to consider, but also has not really realized the cruelty of society and our helplessness to reality, we should not treat children as enemies or objects that need to be transformed, but the most important friends in this life.

Of course, it is always so simple, when really facing the reality, it is inevitable to be anxious and angry, every time I see the teacher announce the results of various assignments, tests, examinations, performances and other results in the group, I always stare wide-eyed to find the child's name, unfortunately, I can always pass by, and I am familiar with several classmates, this time has been at the forefront. Suddenly I remembered a sentence, "Daughters-in-law are good for others, husbands are good for others" Hey, are children also good for others?

The complaint is too rich to prevent intestinal breakage, and the wind and objects should be looked at for a long time. As long as the child works hard, I think the result is acceptable to me, after all, my child is not a smart child, then in the case of hard work, it is good to be happy.