<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > was born and raised</h1>
The autumn of 1989 was not too hot. One morning in mid-September, the sun was not so dazzling, and hundreds of birds were chirping outside the hospital. On that day, a 6-pound baby girl fell to the ground, which was supposed to be the day when the whole world celebrated the birth of a new life, but the world said that this was the beginning of a story that was sadder than sadness.
That year, she first swaddled and learned to speak; that year, she picked up her school bag and went to school; that year she did not let her eyebrows be raised, did not love red clothes and loved arms; that year, she loved something in her heart and became a big girl; that year, she became a mother and nursed her little princess; however, that year, she accidentally learned a news that she did not want to believe.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > birth commemorative coin</h1>
32 years later, a shiny birth commemorative coin is still carefully preserved, the golden font is extremely heavy, and the profound words truly record the birth of life; a broken birth certificate is still carefully preserved, the bright red seal is extremely dazzling, and the worn words are still faintly visible traces of time. What kind of mystery is this? What kind of secret is hidden in this?
She was supposed to be the second princess of the Ben family, but unexpectedly became the pearl in the palm of the family. On the third day after birth, she was sent for adoption, when the climate did not have a greenhouse effect, just after the Mid-Autumn Festival, the weather in the northeast had already turned cool, the weather was blowing coolly, the north wind was blowing, the adopter handed her over to her adoptive parents, and then all the clothes on her body had to be returned. In this way, an elderly couple went from strangers to her relatives and the most loving people in their lives. On that day, the two of them took her home wrapped in her clothes. Until many years later, when I talked about this matter, I still cried bitterly and could not let go. Whether it is because of the patriarchal thinking of the previous generation of parents, which led to the loss of their parents, or whether the economic pressure overwhelmed them and tried to let the children have a richer family to live well through foster care, all this is unknown.
Until now, every official will have his own thoughts, I have always firmly believed that tiger poison does not eat children, only cruel children, no cruel parents, but as a spectator, a third party, right and wrong, I still can't evaluate it after all. From childhood to adulthood, her adoptive parents have always been very good to her, pampered very, desperately trying to give her the best, not to mention the rich and expensive, but in general, life is still relatively rich. She has also been growing up in this harmonious spring breeze.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > the truth of life</h1>
However, fate played a joke with her at the beginning. Until one day two years ago, her mother called her to her and cried and said to her, "Child, you have grown up and become a mother, I want to tell you something, maybe you will be sad after listening to it, but my father and I love you, and now tell you that you are not trying to hurt you, but worrying that when we are gone, no one will tell you about it again." Although we can't bear it, we don't want to go into the ground with regret and guilt, don't want you to be lonely in the future, you have the right to know your own life, and how to choose to look at yourself in the future. Here is a birth commemorative coin and a birth certificate, you take it, go and look for it, find your biological parents, don't let yourself regret it later..." The adoptive parents are worried that she will not be able to stay when she grows up, afraid that she will be sad after she knows the truth, but she can't bear to deprive her of her right to know the truth, worried that after she is buried, she will feel lonely without dependence, and the emotions at that time must be very entangled!
All this hit her very hard, she was stunned, she had a lot of thoughts. She wondered what kind of family she had been born into, she guessed how many siblings she had, she didn't know how to face her biological parents, she wanted to know if her biological parents had ever looked for her over the years... Under the repeated persuasion of her adoptive mother, she finally made up her mind to try to find an answer, let a process begin to have a process, let a process have a result, even if it is just to know the result.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="04" > the way to find a home</h1>
So, she began a long road to find a home. At first she tried to check the forums, and then she learned to post online herself. Searching for a home is a difficult and bitter process, although enthusiastic netizens and volunteers are trying to find, but it is more than two years, and the content on the post seems to sink into the sea. Two straight lines in the vast sea of people that should have intersected seemed to be parallel all the time.
On July 27, 2021, Yonghui Studio saw such a post on the Baby Home Forum when combing through the clues of finding relatives on a daily basis, and a girl who called herself Ms. He posted a baby home search post on the Baby Home website, and she was Ms. He in the above article. The post mentions that the birth certificate has the name of the biological father and mother. Yonghui Studio has verified several times and has not found any qualified personnel, but it always feels that it is close to the answer. Therefore, Yonghui Studio contacted Ms. He to ask for a photo of the birth certificate, re-interpreted the scrawled handwriting, and combined with the county and city unit that issued the birth certificate (Lipe County Maternal and Child Health Care Institute in Siping City), to find out the situation of the suspected parents. Through the search, the name of the biological father can basically exclude homophones by age, and can only be restarted by the name of the biological mother. When the name of the biological mother in Lishu County was checked, it was found that one of the persons of the right age was similar to the information of the person being sought, but when the information of this person was verified, it could not be confirmed that she was the biological mother being sought. In this case, Yonghui Studio contacted Jia Baofeng, a police officer in Yanji City, Jilin Province, hoping to further verify the person's family relationship through local data in Jilin Province.
Through Jia Baofeng's verification, it was confirmed that the woman was Ms. He's biological mother, and through big data analysis and comparison, the identity of her biological father was also confirmed, and the reason why the name of the biological father was wrong was because Ms. He mistook one of the "li" on the birth certificate as "yuan", resulting in the inability to find the suspected biological father. Next, Jia Baofeng tried to completely confirm the blood relationship between the two sides through DNA identification results. Blood collection requires the consent of both sides, and Ms. He, who is working in a military hospital in Liaoyang City, Liaoning Province, is willing to cooperate with the public security organs to collect blood, and she uses the equipment to collect blood by herself and then mails the blood sample back to the Yanji City Public Security Bureau after non-pollution treatment. However, the child's blood sample arrived, and it was difficult to extract the blood sample of the suspected parent. When Jia Baofeng dialed his biological father's phone number, his heart was half cold, and when asked if he had any children to adopt, the other side denied it, and hurriedly hung up the phone, and when he called again, the phone was silent, and then hung up. Call again, answer the phone and say that the typing is wrong, don't call again. Although the dialed out phone was like a basin of cold water, it did not stop Jia Baofeng from continuing to verify the matter, and through repeated phone calls and text messages, the couple finally agreed to take blood and vaguely admitted the fact of sending the child. With the joint efforts of the baby homecoming volunteers and the Lishu County Public Security Bureau, the blood samples of Yan Lihua and his wife were collected and sent to the Jilin Provincial Public Security Department, and the comrades of the Yanbian Prefecture Public Security Bureau determined that the blood samples were sent to the provincial department and rushed to Changchun overnight, and the blood samples were brought back to Yanji to step up the comparison, and finally determined that the husband and wife were Ms. He's biological parents.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="05" > sadness in grief</h1>
The search for relatives has come to an end, although there is no recognition link, but the road to let love go home is still continuing. The biological parents want to recognize their relatives in private, and Ms. He is resistant to recognizing relatives, she said, looking for a home is more to find an answer, so that the adoptive parents have no regrets. She didn't know how to face her biological parents, maybe she couldn't understand the reason for being sent for adoption, maybe she heard that when she was sent to be adopted, she didn't even leave a palm-sized cloth in the cold wind, maybe she felt that all her family affection was in the adoptive parents' house, and the search for relatives was just to give an explanation to her adoptive parents!
The process is a bit bumpy, and the ending is not perfect, but this is a story that is sadder than sadness on countless searches for relatives. Maybe one day, they'll recognize each other.