I thought that people's hearts were cold, but it turned out that we took the pain too seriously.
"You made a big mistake, but you didn't commit a crime", this is a line from Manchester by the Sea, the protagonist of the movie, who lost three children in an accidental fire, and he has been living in self-blame.
And what happened to Lin Shengbin recently is similar to the protagonist of the movie, but what we see is a different scene.
In one of the "Small Miscellaneous Feelings" in the "Lu Xun Miscellaneous Essays", it was written:
"Downstairs a man was dying of illness, and the family next door was singing a gramophone, and the opposite was a child. There were two people upstairs laughing wildly; and there was the sound of cards being played. There were women crying on boats in the river about her dead mother.
The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy. ”
Film I was never able to reconcile with myself
The hero of the film, Li, once had a beautiful wife and three lovely children, that day he turned on the stove and went out to buy wine, and when he came back, he only saw the raging fire, and the tearing of his wife's heart and lungs, and the three children were buried in the fire.
Under the investigation of the police, it was determined that it was an accident, and Lee blamed himself very much, because he forgot to close the door of the stove .
After that, his wife divorced him and left the peaceful town of Manchester, where he wanted to atone for his sins and spend time with his children, but he never got his wish.
Facing the places he has been with his children every day, his inner pain has nowhere to release, so he leaves here and goes to a strange city to find a tired and dirty job, as if this is the only way to numb his nerves and make himself forget everything for a while.
Lee's grief is never shown in the film, the man never howls and cries, and the only time he overreacts is when he is at the police station, he pulls out the policeman's gun and points it at his head.
He was just very decadent, and faced with countless opportunities to change the trajectory of his life, he turned down, even the temptations of women.
At the end of the film, Lee and his ex-wife meet on the street, and his ex-wife hopes to have lunch with him, after all, after the fire that year, he said a lot of excessive things to Lee.
I think there must have been a tsunami in his heart at that moment, but he stood quietly and didn't let anyone know.
He just kept shaking his head, trembling, unable to utter a complete sentence.
This is a sadder story than sadness.
Lee chose never to forgive himself and not allow himself to start a new life.
In the face of sudden death, those who love them, can not show their sadness and sadness, because it is too unreal .
Maybe when you go home to eat, you will subconsciously call out the name of your loved ones, but it is quiet; or you will eat a meal and feel that the taste is not right; or even accidentally turn over an old object, you will have inexplicable heartache and inexplicable crying.
The pain will continue, or time may be relieved, but it will gather at some point.
Reality The ruthlessness behind the obsessive lover
Of course, we don't want the living people to be immersed in grief forever, to face reality, to always come out, but some people are really hard to accept.
The recent Lin Shengbin incident can be said to have caused netizens to suffer a lot, he and the male protagonist in the film are so similar, an unexpected fire, several living lives.
It's just that Lin Shengbin is more outstanding than the male protagonist, because he is performing sadness while quickly collecting money for himself.
Even more ridiculous than sad is that his performance is so good that it blinds the eyes of many people and makes our hearts ache along with it.
We will not accuse Lin Shengbin of coming out of his wounds, marrying and having children, but just performing sadness on the Internet, while using the dead in this tragedy to seek benefits for himself and make us angry.
How did Lin Shengbin, who tattooed his wife and daughter on his back, forget this pain and sleep with other women in the middle of the night?
Therefore, netizens will continue to go deep and expose the news, what has this man done in the past, his every move he has made, what is it for, and who have we given our sincerity and pain?
Since the news broke that he married his wife and had a daughter, the turn of public opinion made Lin Shengbin afraid, but he should always be silent, otherwise every time he spoke, it would only make him more unbearable.
All the explanations become disguises, and all the words only sting people's good hearts even more.
Since you originally chose to borrow the power of the vast number of netizens and make your image glorious, please accept the criticism of netizens now, and the public opinion that can send him to the altar will of course pull him down.
In fact, each of us is an ordinary person, ordinary days are not bad, I have always wondered, if Lin Shengbin accepted a huge amount of compensation at that time, started his new life, and did not appear in front of the public, what would happen to him now?
Will there be a woman named Xiao Le who will come into his life, give him a child named Warm, and then the family will go to vaccinate the child quietly and without distraction?
Once man's desires are beyond the scope of his own ability, desire will be like a wild horse that is out of control, unable to control.
Don't you know what kind of place he will take you, a cliff full of flowers, to keep your heart?