There's something to say

When I was a child, every New Year's Day, adults always told children thousands of instructions, and the fifth year could not speak indiscriminately, lest children who did not understand the world make mistakes, say some unlucky words, and make a year obscure. It is said that some children mistakenly say that "hair paper horses" are "hair coils", and there is no distinction between gods and ghosts, which makes adults laugh bitterly, so they have to say "fairy tales without scruples" in a row.

Children are not more troublesome, it is difficult to know the depth of speech, childish words are unavoidable, and there are extenuating feelings; if adults are open-minded and have no sense of proportion, it is difficult to forgive.

Recently, Bao Yinan, a teacher at East China University of Political Science and Law, made a big speech: "Since the state emphasizes rejuvenating the country through science and education, it must attach importance to the livelihood of teachers in colleges and universities, as well as the problems of life." Teachers in colleges and universities should be given special treatment, such as allowing polygamy and lifetime subsidies." Those who say this, if they close the door and block the window, drink and brag with their own family members or confidants, it is not a big problem. If you open the skylight and say something bright, in front of the public, so that you are talking, it is a big suspicion of being kicked by a donkey.

If you have something to say, where to go, which wood to cut, be sure to distinguish the occasion of the speech.

Public spaces are different from intimate spaces. Private space is a place to talk about "feelings", you can talk casually, emotionally, so as not to affect the harmony; public occasions are a place to be reasonable and explain the law, and you must be rational when speaking, you can't be too willful, you can't just try to be quick with your tongue for a while, and ignore reason and law. Words and deeds must be responsible, responsible, and disregard social influence, and must not offend the public anger.

Have something to say, have a sense of the bottom line.

What to say, when to speak carefully, so that you know what to do. Freedom of expression has boundaries, and the legal bottom line should not be touched. Be careful in words and deeds, and must not harm the interests of the country, society and others, and must not insult the personal dignity of others. Looking back on recent years, some brick families and teaching beasts have attracted people's attention and have not put the door on their lips, such as Beijing Chongqing traffic congestion is because housing prices are not high enough and other, insulting the public's intelligence and crushing the legal bottom line, which is really hateful. Of course, there is a sense of the bottom line, and at the same time, you can't spoil your own personality, you can't be arrogant and domineering, you can't nod your head to the top, you are full of servility, and you can do your best to lick and flatter.

If you have something to say, you should be concerned about the acceptance of the person you are talking to, especially when giving advice to others.

Some people have a straight temper and like others to be straight to him and hate to bend over backwards, while some people are thin-skinned, and when they give advice to them, they must talk about skills, euphemisms, and pay attention to a "roundabout tactic", so that they are more receptive. Another example is the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting along, in fact, there is no major event between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, chicken and garlic is the norm, conflict is mostly due to the lack of smooth language communication, the same sentence, and the mother-in-law said, the mother-in-law is not strange, to the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law may be annoyed, this is a difference in acceptance.

If you have something to say, you must pay attention to the consistency of words and deeds.

Some people say well and do less; some people do well and have bad mouths; and some people are both capable and good at speaking. We oppose the false style of only speaking and not practicing, the giants of language, the dwarfs of action, empty talk about misleading the country, and the work of hard work to rejuvenate the country; those who work hard and are not good at talking, which is admirable, but although they have the ability of a thousand miles, they are beautiful and difficult to see, and life is inevitably full of regrets; and the third situation is to say that doing complement each other, and words and deeds are perfectly unified, which is the perfect realm of speaking and doing things.