Recently, I have been watching some healing movies, one of which is called "The Behavior Guide for Ordinary People", which is about the process of gradually "generalizing" the heroine who does not fit in with the community to receive psychological guidance and gradually "normalize" by achieving seven goals (house, work, family, social, hobbies, family life, and happiness).
In the process, the heroine meets an equally weird fat boy and an "ordinary person" who meets the standard almost perfectly. The fat boy accompanies her to rent a house to find a job, to go to the amusement park to participate in social networking and have fun; ordinary people greet her with a perfect image at the end of the heroine's gradual normalization, as if he is her reward or gift.
In the end, the girl reached her goal and became an ordinary person with seven slams, while the fat boy remained weird in place. However, the girl saw that the seven goals that appeared in front of the mirror were all completed, but she was not happy, and her heart was stuffed with the fat boy who was difficult to fit in, but she was not the "ordinary person" who seemed to be a winner in life. The girl suddenly understood that whether it was a house, work, family, social, hobbies, family life or happiness, it was not as important as the favorite you.
The example of love is too cheesy, but it is also the most appropriate. People will meet many people in this life, some people appear early to make you miss half a life, some people have just arrived but you are turned away, similarities, differences, no matter how many factors are not as good as your inner thoughts. It's just, do you really know what you want?
In fact, life inside and outside the play is like this, how many people are crazy to pursue a certain goal, but in the process of gradually approaching, they have lost themselves, and the goal they are about to obtain is obviously within reach, but they have forgotten where to start. Maybe you pace a little slower, a little slower, to listen to the call of everything around you, to feel your heartbeat, and you will find that the perfect or ordinary life you are looking for is all around you.