Chapter Forty-One: Enjoy the devotion of love

Everyone will have their own childhood, youth, the long journey of adulthood, and the experience of each stage records all the marks of subjectivity and objectivity, sensibility and rationality, thinking direction and behavioral norms of a person's vivid life.

Such a target contains a true record of each person and the survival process, and writes about everyone's good and evil, beauty and ugliness, good and bad!

What I didn't expect from this discussion with the two tutors was that in the undergraduate and graduate schools, the two tutors jointly initiated and agreed by the president and the dean of graduate students, and a moral character education awareness month was held throughout the campus.

With the theme of advocating ideological and moral education, cultivate and establish a correct world outlook on life, and adopt different forms of propaganda. Imagine in thinking, discuss in writing, give in behavior, and use in learning.

Such activities make all teachers and students feel that in today's society, it is not only educational but also effective and operable for students who are about to step out of school and enter the melting pot of society.

The school organizes speeches and debates every Saturday, and cross-discusses and debates between the same sex and the opposite sex, between grades and grades, between lecturers and tutors and college leaders, and between students and lecturers.

The most wonderful thing was that John and I, Anping and his mentor were in a group of four, and the president, the dean of graduate school, and the dean of academic affairs and the dean of the school office, and the four-person debate, which pushed the atmosphere of the whole debate to a climax!

The school leaders confronted the questions, and I responded positively with the four of Them; sharp questions and incisive answers; logical questions and philosophical replies; clear arguments and sufficient arguments; and a moral authenticity, character-sculpting behavior, and faith and belief in inheriting morality and morality spread between the lips and teeth!

The whole debate ended with sincere and heartfelt applause from the whole school. Lu Bo and Secretary Bao and Staff Sergeant Zhu were invited to attend the hearing, and when I walked to Lu Bo and them at the end, I was surrounded by Lu Bo and a few of them hugging each other tightly and surrounded by flowers.

The headmaster said excitedly, "Great! It's really wonderful! Zou Shanshan, you are really amazing! Your thinking, your behavior, and your appeal have actually driven all the teachers and students throughout the campus, and such an educational activity is a good medicine for anyone, a good book, a baptism, a purification! ”

At this time, Mentor John also came over to congratulate me and said, "Zou Shanshan, you are awesome! You are definitely a student of my ability and academic qualifications once in a thousand years, and the look, state, and views that flow between your lips and teeth when you speak are very philosophical and intriguing! ”

At this time, John's mentor learned the tone and state of my speech, and learned a passage of my debate: Never envy others, because behind every aura is accompanied by the bitterness of growth! People must learn to forget, let the boat of life always easily travel in the long river of life and society, and let the focus of life always stop at today's scale.

Life can not be too much, that will make your life boat in debt, forgetting is not only to forget the bad things, but also to forget the good things. Forgetting is an instinct of man, the embodiment of the Creator's own will.

Since God has endowed us with this instinct, we human beings should make full use of it to serve us, forgetting the good will make us unhappy when we are excited, and forgetting the bad will make us not discouraged when we are frustrated. John shrugged and said, "Zou Shanshan, I am fascinated by your appearance, I am intoxicated by your state!" I am proud to have Chinese students like you! ”

Anping's mentor came over, walked up to me and looked at me puzzled and said, "Classmate Zou Shanshan, I saluted and said: When I arrived, everyone around me was amused by me, and Anping's mentor actually shook my shoulder with a little force, and then touched my forehead with the back of his hand and asked me: Zou Shanshan, how can you be so calm?" The applause given to you by the teachers and students, even we are touched by the excitement, how can you be so quiet and calm? ”

I said to Anping's mentor, "I'm excited and happy, even more flattered!" I pointed my finger to my heart and then to my face and said: It's just that my happiness is here in my heart, not on my face! I sincerely thank all the teachers and students for their love! Really, I was impressed! But I can only thank you for your support, and I can't accept your compliments! ”

Seeing the ignorant looks of the people around me, I smiled and said, "Because the support belongs to me, and the praise belongs to you." Support is your love for me, praise is the embodiment of your noble character and personality charm. Your support is my strength to move forward, and your praise is a treasure that I want to cherish! ”

Whenever such scenes and moments, I will think of the words that my father once warned me at the first time. Dad said: Everything has two sides, and your immediate success is achieved in a specific environment, is the result of your own customization, and does not meet the approval standards of everyone. At this time, the applause, you have to listen to it as yes, the drumming sound of your continuing progress, is the clarion call that encourages you to work hard!

People's desires are cultivated and inflated, as long as they are rationally handled, they will be calm and free. It will not lead to your future addiction due to the illusion of temporary success. For me, no matter how many successes you see, it is the end and achievement of a thing.

So at this time, my calm state is quietly immersed in your support and encouragement for me.

Openness is a feeling. It is silent and invisible, as long as everyone themselves are identified in the depths of their hearts, thousands of lives have thousands of lives, thousands of roads have tens of millions of people, and each of us is really looking for our own peace and truth, looking for an open sky.

Frankness will make you believe in your hard work in the face of success, and have a clear optimism about the harvest. Openness will make you full of your life, will make you face frustration, and always maintain an optimistic attitude. Even falling into the abyss will make you live tenaciously and sing triumphant praises all the way up.

Life has been arranged for our joys and sorrows, many things, many people we can not predict, can not change, can not be demanding, many people we can not understand, many things we can not decide, many joys and sorrows, sorrows and joys make us all confused, many happiness and pain we do not want to accept, do not dare to accept, the only thing we can do is to improve our own code of conduct, dedicate our true love and true love.

We are an extremely ordinary little grass among all sentient beings, but we do not regret it, because we are frank.

When we succeed, we should cherish our efforts; when we fail, we should release our bitterness; when we are tolerant, we will have our own breadth; when we give, we will enjoy the dedication of love.

Frankness will make you happy as scheduled, and frankness will make you enjoy the meaning and value of life itself.

So we just need to do our best to do what we should do, and carefully complete the compulsory courses that accompany you at every stage of your life. Once again, I thank you for your support and encouragement for me, thank you for all that you have done for me, and I will always pray for you and your loved ones!

At this time, the venue is already full of joy! Lu Bo and I walked outside, throwing the accepted flowers into the air...

To congratulate me and to cheer everyone up, I propose to have a drink at the hotel. During the meal, I only saw Secretary Bao ask me: "Shanshan, how do I see that you eat garlic moss and eat the white parts on it?" How old is that part? ”

Before I could speak, Lu Bo said to Secretary Bao very seriously, "You don't know this, do you?" This is one of Shanshan's excellent qualities, when have you ever seen Shanshan eat a good food? Don't say with you, even if it's just me and my aunt at home, Shanshan is the same way of eating.

This is the result of Shanshan's self-study with good family education and character education. This is the words that Shanshan's mother warned Shanshan: It is not how good Shanshan is, but that such a family must shape such a product.

Just like just at the venue, all of us were very excited, joyful mood words and expressions, but Shanshan's calmness and calmness surprised the teachers and students. Shanshan's frankness comes from the strict tutoring and acquired knowledge structure and the self-norms and cultivation in the usual days, and in the days with Shanshan, I learned a lot of principles of being a person and my own behavior norms, and her calmness has been infecting me.

Whenever I see Shanshan's faint smile, I will forget all the troubles and unhappiness, such a smile, let people have no desire, no luxury, no desire to enjoy it. ”

Secretary Bao looked at Lu Bo again and said, "Through listening to Shanshan's speech several times and through the contact of some things, Shanshan's sincerity and simplicity have made me finally understand why Lu Bobo has followed you all the way from Binjiang to the South China Sea, and will pay for you so willingly."

I have asked Lubo more than once: Why are you like this, why are you waiting like this, why can you be left without complaints and regrets? Among the four of us, I have also talked about the topic of the two of you many times, I don't know if my description is accurate, I feel that you two are like a pair of best partners who care for each other, take care of each other, work together, and fight side by side. ”

We all looked at Secretary Bao without speaking, and after a while Secretary Bao asked me: "Shanshan, do you agree with my description?" I said: I toasted you with a glass of wine first, and I said to Secretary Bao: To tell the truth, you made me really impressed today, I didn't expect that your literary skills would be so deep, I didn't expect that your language organization ability would be so strong, and I didn't expect you to say it so well and so appropriately, and you described it very accurately.

I asked myself: Lubo's days make me steady, make me full, make me happy, make me happy! With Lubo, Lubo's words and deeds allow me to do everything I want to do, say everything I want to say; no scruples, all relief; Lubo's concern makes me happy, Lubo's pampering makes me warm, Lubo's tolerance makes me relaxed, Lubo's like makes me happy, Lubo's love makes me warm, Lubo's companionship makes me real, Lubo's persistence makes me move, And Lubo's persistence gives me strength.

In fact, I am also very grateful to Secretary Bao and your husband and wife for their trust in me, you can personally say your recognition of your love for me, one has love and the other accepts, which is for me, a dancer from a song and dance troupe, such saying and trust is the highest respect and the best affirmation of my personality.

I am a person who lives in responsibility, strict tutoring makes me live in dignity from childhood to adulthood, so far I have never done anything inconsistent with my identity, I am very concerned about the evaluation of people around me, I am a person who can neither fall out of favor nor lose faith, that is more cruel than killing me!

So I'm sensitive to people and things. Since I was a child, I remember that my father warned me of such a sentence: No matter who is on any occasion, you must not embarrass any one because of your appearance, and you have no right or qualification to let the people around you feel unhappy and helpless because of your appearance.

To do this, one must have a quick and sharp mind and mind. Be aware of everyone's speech and demeanor, look; talk less and listen more, and deal with humility; people must be smart, and even try to be shrewd, but they cannot learn to be treacherous.

Sharp thinking and witty insight will allow you to catch the true inner dynamics of everyone around you in the first place through words and deeds, and draw your whereabouts and stays according to your own judgment.

Leave behind what you should be talking about and adjusting your own role at this time, and leave to design a way for yourself to pave the way to keep your departure in a natural state.

If you have good observation, then no matter when, whenever and wherever you appear in any kind of environment, you and the people around you will make you and the people around you relaxed and natural because of your appearance.

Absolutely not treacherous, that is, to control everyone, because of the treachery caused by the quick success or harm to the innocent! In today's society, some people can be handed over with their hearts, and some people can never be handed over with their hearts. 】

Therefore, we can only make ourselves and others encounter less embarrassing situations as much as possible through our own judgment, and stay away from the groups and chains of things that hurt. You must adhere to principles in your life, not to fall below the bottom line, and even more not to cross the high-pressure line, so that you will be free from some unnecessary troubles and sorrows, and away from selfish villains, evil people and extremely greedy people.

[Maybe before he is punished, you have already been hurt!] 】

In particular, not to be emotional, not only will it make you tired, sad and laborious, but also serious will even lead you to fall into the emotional vortex of doom and death. This is what I said: "Man must have feelings and righteousness, and he must be serious and righteous; but he must not be sentimental and disorderly." 】

Or use willow's family personnel structure to illustrate, we can tell us very clearly, not willow with kindness and tolerance, can maintain the durability of their love and the long-term stability of family life, the members of this family belong to the type I said, is the person you can never give with your heart.

Willow's boyfriend is also unwilling to return to his home, but he can't cherish Willow and live a peaceful life. No one wants to be unhappy, and no one wants to trouble himself, but his selfish desires and greed determine the direction of his worldview and behavior norms in life. Even if Willow was kind to him, it would not help, because his greed could not make him settle down, and his chaos could not make him love. [Kindness in the wrong place is the foolish heart that harms others and harms oneself!] 】

Therefore, the person who can be taught by the heart is the luck given to you by the heavens; the person who cannot be handed over with the heart is your personal judgment error. Just like between me and Lu Bo, there is one thing that he himself knows very well, and it is also the spiritual strength that has supported him and me to this day for so many years.

That is: no matter how much Lu Bo loves me, I Zou Shanshan will never take advantage of his Lu Bo's feelings, and I will not gain inches because of this pampering. On the contrary, I will cherish Lu Bo's pampering for me more and more because of the deepening of his pampering for me, and this pampering makes us both very happy.

However, the premise is that I am lucky enough to meet Lubo, and he can be willing to pay for me. This is my luck, the luck and care that God has given me! Imagine if Lu bo met a girl who was a different type of girl? If the girl takes advantage of Lubo's character, Lubo will be a victim not only in terms of feelings, but in all aspects.

As the old saying goes: "Don't do things, tired and useless."] The giver must be clear that the standard of how much and less you give, good and bad, is not yours, it is always the receiving party.

A popular saying in the eighties was: "I was deceived? In the nineties it became ," why were you deceived? This is a qualitative change in people's ability to identify, think, and distinguish people and things, and people's ideology has changed.

This enables people to look at problems rationally and dialectically. Always remember the saying that devotion is a blessing: you will never have loss or complaints. What I want to say is that the boundaries of "pampering" between people must be well grasped, and the "pampering" between husband and wife and children must not evolve into "pampering", so that this is the eternal law that you and both parties and parents must follow throughout your life.

When you start to fall in love, you will be spoiled later, when you are a child, you will spoil your child, evolve to the point of later spoiling, and then complain about the other party's change of heart, or when the child is disobedient, it will make you beg for food and regret it! ”

At this time, Lu Bo put his arm around me and gently shook my shoulder and said, "We are the most obedient little meows in the world!" It is as if there is a mind controller in our heads, which allows us to make Miss Shanshan feel at ease, at any time and in all occasions, anytime, anywhere, with a sense of proportion and calm response. I Lu Bo will fight for Zou Shanshan for the rest of my life! ”

At this point I also improvised in my chair, gave a standard military salute to my closest comrades-in-arms and shouted: Yes!