Each of us has its own principles for doing things, and this kind of communication attitude and principles are beyond reproach, but a person walking in society, doing things is still a little flexible, that is, flexibility is good, and the same is true for communication. We should interact with each other according to people, and maintain flexibility while adhering to certain principles. The following principles of communication are available for reference:
<h1>First, let go of your value</h1>
Value is a major obstacle to communication, but also a reason for making enemies, you must not think that you are a doctor, do not go to increase a handyman every day, in the "elasticity of making friends" this matter, this self-proclaimed value will make it impossible to make sincere friends!
<h1>Second, it is either an opponent or a friend</h1>
Some people pursue a principle, "either a friend or an opponent", if so, the enemy will continue to increase, the friend will continue to decrease, and finally isolate themselves; a principle should be changed, "not the enemy, or the friend", so that the number of friends will be more and more, and the enemies will be less and less!
<h1>Third, there is no eternal enemy, and it is difficult to have eternal friends</h1>
Everything in the world is in a state of change, the enemy will become a friend, and the friend will become the enemy, which is a social reality. When a friend becomes your enemy for some reason, you don't have to sigh too sadly, because one day he may become your friend again! With this mindset, you can make friends with a normal heart!
<h1>Fourth, I don't want to be friends with all my colleagues</h1>
Hu Weidong, general manager of Beijing Digital Bank Yingcai Enterprise Management Consulting Co., Ltd., said that the first thing for people in the workplace to understand is that the purpose of going to the company is not to make friends, but to do a good job. Therefore, for interpersonal relationships at work, we should look at them rationally. For different types of people, don't be bothered by not being friends, as long as you maintain a normal working relationship, otherwise you can either change each other or twist yourself. Also understand that not everyone can be friends, and you can't be friends with everyone.
<h1>Fifth, the core of interest communication is to maintain a win-win situation</h1>
Han Sanqi, a famous psychologist, said that the relationship between colleagues is mainly based on interests, and when two people clash, they must hinder each other's interests. The key point of interest communication is to maintain a win-win situation. If either party loses significant interests in the conflict, subsequent conflicts become more serious. Only by achieving a win-win situation in mutual compromise can we live in harmony. Don't feel superior everywhere because of your friendship with your superiors, so that in addition to being the target of public criticism, jealousy and disdain, you are more likely to be opposed everywhere; don't take care of a subordinate everywhere because of your friendship.
<h1>Sixth, there are no unattainable colleagues in the world</h1>
If you don't like a person, or don't speculate with him, but this person is not necessarily a "villain", they may also become gentlemen who help you, if you refuse, you will feel sorry in the future. You may say that a person who does not speculate and does not look good, he still has to pretend to "cope", so that people can do things too hard. Yes, there is a little bit of you that makes you feel guilty, but a person has to have a little bit of that kind of effort, and also don't make people feel like you're "dealing with" them. The only way to do this is to open your heart and take the initiative to accept others.
<h1>Seventh, too worried about friends influencing decision-making</h1>
Ma Siyu, general manager of Beijing Bamboo Horse Management Consulting Company, said that too much concern about the feelings of friends will affect your decisions, because making a tendentious decision to protect friends will cause dissatisfaction among other employees, increase the difficulty of their work, and even greatly reduce their prestige. In addition, if your friends in the company are of the opposite sex, try to avoid too much contact in the workplace, even if it is a hearty smile and an exchange of eyes. Otherwise, it may be rumored to be an office romance, which many bosses are most afraid of subordinates. If this kind of love affair is completely fictitious, because the rumors have affected the development of themselves and their friends in the company, wouldn't it be wronged?
<h1>Don't skimp on your support</h1>
Bian Bingbin, president of Kerui Career Consultants, believes that if the "comrade-in-arms" is your boss: First, do not shirk responsibility. Reflect the problems encountered in the work in a timely manner, but we must never shirk our responsibilities after the incident occurs. Second, learn to think in empathy. From the perspective of the boss and boss, think about what you want your employees to do if you are him. That way you can execute well. If the "comrades-in-arms" are colleagues of the same level: First, support each other. When you have a problem and want to get support, you can support others. Second, keep your distance. Don't treat colleagues as friends, public and private. Third, we will never spread rumors. Rumors satisfy people's voyeuristic psychology, and everywhere they go, they will be dirty.
<h1>Nine, meet and laugh at everything</h1>
If someone else has offended you for something, or if you have offended someone else, both parties are indeed a little unhappy in their hearts, but there is absolutely no need to take revenge; if you feel it is necessary, you should take the initiative to resolve the deadlock. As the saying goes, don't fight, don't know each other, with this friendship, maybe you will become good friends, or the relationship will not be so rigid, at least you have one less potential enemy. A lot of people just can't do this because they just can't pull down their faces! In fact, as long as you put down your own shelf and take an active attitude, your temperament will win the respect of the other party, because you gave him face first. If he still pretends to be high-profile, it is his fault! However, to resolve the deadlock, we must find a suitable occasion and timing, that is, to have an excuse!
If you have achieved the above rules of flexible dating, you don't have to worry about not making friends, and you don't have to worry about your own path. However, this law of elasticity is not something that can be done at a glance, but must be slowly honed and cultivated.