"You may not be able to change your height and body shape, but you can change your attitude. Each of us has the strength to cultivate and maintain the positive attitude that we use for ourselves, improve the quality of our lives, and accomplish our goals in life. Attitude is a manifestation of life's ideals, not a reflection of existing achievements. Changing your attitude can change your life. ”
Today, I saw a variety show "Friends Please Listen Well", a girl proposed that she chose to engage in the current Portuguese-related work because of her professional and academic qualifications, but found that she could not develop in her current work, so she thought hard for a long time and considered whether to change careers.
The girl's confusion in "Friends Please Listen Well"
Coincidentally, later I actually saw a question on the Wukong Q&A: I have been an assistant police officer for two years, and my monthly salary is only more than three thousand, should I continue to work?
The reasons for this are roughly as follows:
Bian Bingbin, chief career consultant of a company, pointed out that for most people, the confusion about the future and dissatisfaction with today stem from their inability to use scientific tools to make a wise and rational judgment on the problem of their own career choice, and they cannot objectively measure and grasp the future opportunities from the perspective of the career market and the employment requirements of enterprises in related industries, as well as the feasibility of predicting their future direction from the trend of industry development, so the interpersonal relationships of employment, the distress of the corporate environment, and the short-sightedness of career returns. Often make it difficult to extricate yourself from the vicious circle between the two points of unsatisfactory rice bowl and difficult to find a good rice bowl.
Unwilling to have two points and a flat line, but full of fear of the indefinite number of the future, they are in a dilemma.
But man has no far-sighted worries, but he must have far-sighted worries. If you only think about your life in front of you, maybe in the near future, when you need to take on the responsibilities and pressures you should bear, you will only be helpless, so it is good to have this idea, after all, Ma Yun has also asked this question.
Ma interviews Schwarzenegger
There was a man who also encountered this problem more than two thousand years ago, and he was Li Si, the first minister of China.
When he was a civil servant in his hometown of Shangcai County, Ben lived a well-off life with a happy family and happiness and health. But it may be that God did not let him go, when he went to the toilet, he found the rats in the toilet: "Unclean food, close to people and dogs, counting panic", and then associated with the rats in the granary under his jurisdiction: "Eat millet, live under the big house, do not see the worries of people and dogs."
After some further experimentation, he came to a conclusion: "The sage of man is not like a rat, but in his own ears!" ”
The rat lives in the house, and the man chooses the place. So he resolutely resigned from the position of civil servant, who was envied by everyone.
There are so many records in history, as if Li Si did not have the slightest inner struggle at that time, his heart was like a full moon bow, and he looked as decisive as a cloud arrow. However, looking at his life in the next few years, he will find out what he gave up and how much he lost.
So if you want to change careers, the first thing you have to do is to learn to give up.
The law of conservation of energy: Some forms of energy decrease, there must be other forms of energy increase. So a person's life will definitely be lost at the same time as gaining.
Here insert a concept , opportunity cost : generally refers to the biggest loss of everything after making a choice , and the opportunity cost changes with the cost paid. When Lees made his choice, his opportunity cost was seven years of happiness and income and the cost of studying. What is your opportunity cost? The best quantification of energy.
The famous actor and politician Arnold Schwarzenegger once asked a reporter' question: "Why are you in the film and television industry now in the sun, but you choose to abandon art and politics", his answer is: "You stand on this mountain, if you want to climb the opposite mountain, what do you need to do in the first step?" Just go down the hill first."
The girl in the show, because she was unwilling to give up the Portuguese that she had spent four years learning, considered that if she changed careers, not only would her past efforts be wasted, but she also needed to consider her future life, so she could not make up her mind and fell into a dilemma.
Dilemma
Second, identify what you are really interested in and set clear goals for them
Napoleon once said: "A soldier who does not want to be a general is not a good soldier".
This sentence can be understood as follows: If the soldier only thinks about the soldier's affairs, his mind may stay at the soldier's level forever, and he will only obey the orders and will not be able to grow. And if the soldier has the goal of becoming a general, he will gradually align himself with the general ideologically and formulate an inverted plan.
Third, learn about new areas through various channels
After looking at the ideological alignment, the next step needs to be implemented into action, after the above-mentioned Student Li Si resigned, he did not have ambitions to find the next boss, but waded through mountains and rivers, and went through countless hardships to come to the city of Lanling at that time to worship Xun Qing as a teacher, and studied under Xun Qing for seven years.
Without a long period of preparation and study, it is difficult for you to enter another field, and even if you squeeze in, you are just an outsider.
Just "garlic" squeezed in, but also only "orange" outsiders
Fourth, strengthen your faith and don't be afraid of failure
Schwarzenegger answered Ma's question
Arnold Schwarzenegger was asked in the pitch for the new film Collateral Damage: "What would you do if you lost everything?" He said: "Only when people are forced into the corner of having nothing, will they reach their potential to do what they could not or did not dare to do before." ”
In "Those Things of the Ming Dynasty", the narrative of how famous generals are refined, this point is also quite important: "When you lose several times at the hands of the same person, you will be afraid of this person, and the so-called phobia comes from this, even if you have outstanding military talent, you cannot overcome your weakness, you still cannot become a famous general." ”
Not everyone can be lucky to become a famous general or general, even if they pay a lot of effort, opportunity and luck will only favor a few people, so if you do not have a certain degree of certainty and strength, do not try to change careers or jump jobs, and do not have to regret or be embarrassed about it.
Fifth, correct your mindset
No matter which field you choose to work in, I think the first thing to change is the mentality.
You may not know the day when you find yourself completing 80% of a task or project, and the bonus and promotion opportunity have nothing to do with you. At that time, will you feel indignant in your heart, feel that you have been wronged by heaven, negative emotions have knocked down all reason, and even more in the future work, will you regret your efforts and choices?
So peace of mind, really can do it is really not simple.
Positive or negative
Sixth, work hard, do it with your heart, and find your own fun in the field you are currently in
When you have the right mentality, the next step is to work steadily, not only to do your own part, but also to do as much work as possible that is not within your responsibilities.
Zhang Yiming, the founder of Douyin, mentioned in a speech: "When I work, I don't distinguish between what I should do and what I should not do. I never set boundaries in my work", as a result, he was constantly trained in his work, grew up rapidly, and became the supervisor of managing a team of forty or fifty people in two years after graduation.
Kung Fu is not in place, and talents are equally wasted.
Instead of hesitating, it is better to choose a path with firm confidence and then go forward, just like the couplet that Pu Songling once wrote to himself:
Those who have lofty ideals, things will be accomplished, the cauldron will sink the boat, and the hundred and two Qin Guans will eventually belong to Chu;
Bitter people, the sky does not bear, lying down to taste the guts, three thousand Yue Jia can swallow Wu.
Don't make any excuses for yourself, because everything is ready only to owe the good things of the East Wind, and there is no shortage of you.