Ms. Chen, a 36-year-old running enthusiast from Hainan, said that she joined the local running group at the recommendation of a friend, with the purpose of running to lose weight and improve her physical fitness.
I never thought that running would make people so happy, and I could forget the worries of the day and the pressure of work in the happy dopamine.
I thought it was a very positive good thing, but I told us that it was because I participated in the night run of the running group every day that I almost broke up my family.
Because recently, she found that she always went for a night run after work, but the conflict with her husband became bigger and bigger.
That day, when Ms. Chen went home after work to change into a set of running equipment and was about to go out, she was ruthlessly abused by her husband: You wear colorful clothes every day to run, and the children don't care, and you don't do housework, are you so interesting?
As soon as the words fell, Ms. Chen replied unconvinced, what's wrong with me running every day? Is it wrong for me to lose weight and exercise? And if I wake up early every morning to make breakfast for you and take the kids to school, isn't that considered housework?
In the end, Ms. Chen was so angry that she was not in the mood to run, so she simply went back to the room and closed the door......
In fact, we have seen a lot of family situations like Ms. Chen, when two people do not have the same interests as like-minded, once the other party is not accommodating, it will naturally lead to conflicts.
Just like the purpose of Ms. Chen's quarrel is nothing more than to feel that her husband does not understand her, and her husband feels that his wife does not accompany him and his children when she goes for a night run, this invisible contradiction will be intensified after a long time.
In fact, as long as the two parties communicate with each other well, there will be no quarrels, just like a certain running friend said: a good relationship between husband and wife must be timely communication and mutual tolerance!
Of course, many netizens have initiated a comment dispute on this matter:
Some netizens said: "It's clear that my wife doesn't love her, otherwise how could I wear colorful clothes every day to run at night, without considering my husband's feelings at all." ”
Some netizens said: "It's because my husband is too stingy, in fact, I can take my children to go for a run with my wife, sometimes I don't necessarily have to run with her, just go out together and wait for her at the start and finish line." ”
However, some netizens said: "It's normal for my husband to be angry, after all, the current running circle is so messy, not to mention going out for a night run, it's understandable to be a little worried about getting angry." ”
Everyone has their own different opinions, but in general, I think from my personal point of view, for this kind of contradiction in the running family situation, the husband and wife must do a good job of communicating the following points to avoid the escalation of the conflict.
1. There is no need to run every day for running, you must arrange a reasonable time to come out to accompany your family;
2. Don't "hook up" in the running lap, and keep an appropriate distance from runners of the opposite sex;
3. Communicate more with your lover, talk more about your hobbies and some things about running a group, and encourage your lover to do the same sports with yourself;
4. Go out for a run and report more, for example, what time will you come back, etc.
In short, it is more tolerant and communicative for two people, after all, going out for a run is a good thing in itself, not only exercising but also enriching life.
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