What really affects a person's career development is personality.
People with a positive personality who show a positive pattern of behavior and maintain an upward attitude towards work.
On the contrary, people with a negative personality tend to fall into meaningless confusion and internal friction.
Or because of looking ahead and missing the opportunity for promotion; Or because he is too good at talking, he is often inched by his colleagues.
At the end of the day, personality not only determines job performance, but also affects a person's mindset.
The reason why many people become more and more uncomfortable the more they work, is not because of the environment, but precisely because of their personality.
As shared on The Reader:
"The biggest obstacle in a person's work is not ability, but mental strength.
The real workplace is not an amusement park, but a testing ground.
Take work as a practice, cultivate your nature when you encounter things along the way, and cultivate your mind when you meet people, so that you can not only achieve things, but also achieve yourself. ”
There are too many worries, and I let distracting thoughts stumble
Musk once said:
"When you feel like you can't do it, there's only one thing you can do – do it crazy and don't think about it.
Because once you think about it, psychological cues will put a lot of pressure on you. ”
In the workplace, what really stumbles us is often not the work itself, but various concerns.
The latter is like a swamp, and the more you struggle in it, the deeper you sink in.
Writer Li Xiaoyi once missed the opportunity to advance his career because he thought too much.
At the age of 24, she was working as a journalist in a familiar city.
At an industry conference, a headhunter of a well-known company invited her to be the secretary to the general manager.
But before the interview, Li Xiaoyi denied herself from beginning to end.
She is worried about her height disadvantage, but also worried that her foreign language is not up to standard, afraid that her personality and work are not suitable, and she is worried because of the wrong major......
After thinking about it, Li Xiaoyi didn't even participate in the interview.
After learning that Li Xiaoyi gave up the opportunity, the headhunter said helplessly:
"Before others deny you, please don't deny yourself, okay?
There's no chance you're going to be invited. ”
Five years later, the company has risen to become a leading company at an astonishing rate.
And the headhunter who dug Li Xiaoyi has also become one of the best people in the field.
At that time, Li Xiaoyi regretted not being at the beginning.
is also in the face of challenges, and the writer Fan Haitao's choice is very wise.
Over 30 years old, Fan Haitao's career as a journalist is on a steady rise, and various opportunities are coming.
She has always been eager to grow up, and she really wants to study abroad.
Although Fan Haitao was also shaken by the excessive pressure of his old age to prepare for the exam.
But in the end, she still chose to abandon distracting thoughts and chase her dreams with actions:
She wakes up early during the day to take English classes, becomes a journalist at noon to continue working, and continues to improve her writing skills at night.
In the end, with extreme perseverance and action, Fan Haitao got his wish and got the admission letter of his favorite university.
Improving the execution of things is actually improving the likelihood of success.
Charlie · Munger said it well:
"Think simple in everything and act in earnest."
Companionship with concerns does not create any value;
Failure to move forward will only leave you in a quagmire forever.
Rather than letting distracting thoughts cause anxiety, cut off your thoughts and act now.
You will find that people become easier and work easier.
I don't know how to refuse, and let trivial things drain my mind
In the variety show "Heartwarming Offer", a very interesting word was mentioned: refusal to business.
Meaning, subtly exercising your right to say "no" yourself.
Knowing how to say no to others appropriately is an essential skill in the workplace.
However, in reality, many people still can't let go of their feelings, even if they are unwilling in their hearts, they will wronged themselves and agree to other people's requests.
Netizen @Nina shared her story.
When she worked in her former company, she was always able to organize the bills neatly, and she was also used as a "model" by the treasurer.
A colleague came to learn from her, and Nina not only taught the steps carefully, but also sorted out the colleague's bills.
What she didn't expect was that a kind help turned out to be the beginning of her own oppression.
After realizing that Nina is a kind soft persimmon, more and more people begin to ask her for help.
At the beginning, it was just that the leader assigned her more reimbursement tasks.
Later, colleagues also asked Nina to help sort out their bills from time to time.
Nina is getting more and more overwhelmed, her time is infinitely squeezed, and she even has to work overtime to complete her own work.
At the year-end performance appraisal, she ranked first in the company.
Osamu Dazai said in "Human Disqualification":
"My misfortune lies precisely in my lack of ability to refuse."
has no boundaries, and can only exchange for the other party's inches;
A moderate amount of indifferent rejection is what makes the world gentle.
The longer you work, the more you realize that what can really win you respect is clear boundaries and insurmountable bottom lines.
Improve the rejection of business and protect your energy, so that you can get rid of trivial things and improve your skills.
Abandon the original and let the poor kill time
In the book "Cognitive Awakening", such a phenomenon was proposed:
Many people are ignorant of the rules of the world, and always repeat what they have mastered, but turn a blind eye to their own growth.
In the workplace, this state is "busy".
The busier you are, the poorer you are, the poorer you are, just like a donkey that pulls a mill, but in fact doesn't go out a step.
Dong Jiaorao in the TV series "Ordinary Road" is like this.
Jiao Rao is an ordinary girl who grew up in a town and works hard day and night in order to take root in the big city.
Seven days a week, she works overtime six days a week, either booking box lunches, booking hotels, buying air tickets, or helping leaders raise pets......
finally made an appointment with her boyfriend, and she put the computer on the hot pot table, racing against time to catch up with the schedule.
However, Dong Jiaorao's diligence did not bring any substantial profits to the company.
One day, her supervisor called her directly into the office and asked her to choose between a pay cut or a resignation.
Jiao Rao was unwilling, and endured crying to tell how much time and energy she had spent for this job.
But the director didn't listen to it at all, and revealed the cruel truth in one sentence:
"The company only looks at performance, and we don't need any low level of diligence at all."
In reality, many people have the same grievances as Jiaorao.
We do our best, but the harder we try, the harder we get, and we don't get any spiritual or material reward.
This requires everyone to reflect: Is our efforts meaningless and poor?
Psychologist Kahneman said:
"Repetitive, long, endless busyness, most people can do it if they have the right conditions.
The hard part is thinking.
Without deep thinking, diligence is meaningless. ”
If a person is always busy and does not know the reason and goal of doing things, he will waste the most precious time in endless repetition.
Jump out of the cycle of busyness, for the goal of focus, to endure the hardships that you deserve, one day, you can also be promoted and raised, and reap the sense of accomplishment of work.
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Kazuo Inamori once said:
"The truth of life is understood in hard work."
How one treats one's work is rewarded with what one reaps.
Doing things forward-looking will only consume action energy;
If you don't know how to refuse everything, you will waste time and energy in vain;
Blindly reproduce diligence and make yourself tired and worthless.
In many cases, failing to grasp the core of doing things is the culprit that causes work discomfort.
When a person can overcome his worries with actions, protect his mind with refusal, and replace repetition with creativity, there will be nothing in his work that can hinder his growth.