The Chinese have a saying that "being smart is mistaken by being smart".
Oil magnate Rockefeller also said:
"Those who pretend to be smart are fools, but those who know how to pretend to be stupid are really smart."
It is not difficult to find that those who seem to be "smart" in life are often suspicious and calculating, lack perseverance and patience, and often fall short.
And those who can really make it happen look a little "stupid".
They know how to behave wisely, and they know how to persist stupidly regardless of returns, and pay willingly.
Such people usually have the following personality traits that make it easier for them to reach heights in life that others can't reach.
Focus on the goal, not the obstacle
"There is a kind of cleverness called thinking too much."
Smart people tend to be more rational, while people who are too rational tend to think more complicatedly.
After thinking about it, I am afraid of falling into a trap, so I will be stumped by anxiety and will not be able to do anything.
When playing golf, there is an interesting phenomenon:
If a person is playing before playing, once they know that there will be a puddle before they reach the goal.
At this time, the mind is always thinking about avoiding the puddle, and as a result, the ball often falls into the puddle with a swing of the club.
In fact, it's not that the technology doesn't work, it's that the attention is on the obstacles, but it is affected.
And those who play the ball masters, they don't think about obstacles at all, and directly look at the target and go into the hole.
The more we focus on the obstacles to doing things, the more we become trapped by these things, and ultimately make it difficult for us to move forward.
Those who seem a little "silly" will not think too much about things that are not related to the goal, but will focus more on solving the core of the matter and will not be afraid to move forward because they think too much.
Just like Liu Yonghao, chairman of New Hope Group Co., Ltd.
When he was in his 20s, because his family was poor, Liu Yonghao thought about making money.
Seeing that quail sales were very popular, he took out the family's meagre savings to buy quail and raise them, knowing nothing about the prospect of farming.
The villagers laughed at him for being simply whimsical, and some even said to him:
"If you can make money, others will not make a fortune long ago, and they can wait for you."
But Liu Yonghao didn't believe it, he insisted on relying on his own ability to find a way.
So, he began to delve into farming techniques, and even thought about how to use quail manure and recycle it.
At the end of that year, Liu Yonghao raised 60,000 quails and brought out 11 professional households.
Later, he also became the number one in the world.
Looking ahead and backward in everything, only seeing problems in their eyes, but being cautious and timid, they dare not take the first step.
Those who are focused on the goal know how to ignore the obstacles in the process and can put in the energy to solve the problem and finally achieve the goal.
Willing to suffer losses, I won't care too much about interests
Some people say:
"Smart people look at long-term benefits rather than immediate and short-term benefits."
Those who know how to suffer losses can have more and more friends.
I think so.
In the book "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People", six patterns of interpersonal communication are listed, namely:
self-interest (win-win); Lose-lose (lose/lose); self-interest at the expense of others (win/lose); Stand alone (win); self-sacrifice (win/lose); Good gathering and good dispersion (no transaction).
Of these six modes of interpersonal communication, what people look forward to most is a win-win situation, that is, they both benefit.
But in real life, there is no real win-win situation, and the most beneficial way to communicate is the self-sacrificing model.
That is to say, in interpersonal interactions, if one party wants to gain benefits, it means that the other party must suffer.
The real win-win is to see life as a stage for cooperation, not as a gladiatorial arena.
They know that if they want to make a long-term profit, they must be willing to give up their immediate benefits.
Li Ka-shing is like that.
Everyone does business to make money, but Li Ka-shing is not.
Someone asked Li Ka-shing about his successful business experience, and he said:
"To learn is to teach, and to have is to give.
I'd rather lose myself than everyone. ”
That's exactly what he did when he was in business.
He also warned his son that when doing business with others, if I can get seven points of profit, or even eight points, then I can only get six points, so that I can get more and more partners.
As the old Chinese saying goes:
"It's better to be alone than to be happy."
Ordinary people will only calculate the immediate interests and calculate the personal gains and losses for the time being, but they often win the immediate and lose the long-term interests.
And those businessmen who seem a little "silly" tend to focus more on win-win.
Knowing how to sacrifice immediate interests and win reputation and popularity, the road of life can be wider and wider, especially in business and interpersonal communication.
What others are not willing to do, they are willing to do
Zeng Guofan said:
"Only by being able to endure what ordinary people can't endure can we achieve what ordinary people can't."
Those who seem to be "stupid" are willing to endure what others are unwilling to endure, and often can make achievements that ordinary people can't do.
Even if they seem to others to be stubborn or even obstinate, they themselves know the meaning of perseverance.
They know very well what they want, so they have the courage and action to fight the fire.
is like Li Yang in the TV series "If Life Deceives You".
He ran for deputy minister with his old classmates, but lost the election.
When I learned that it was because I lacked grassroots work experience, I wanted to make up for this deficiency and took the initiative to ask to go to the grassroots level.
Originally, with his qualifications, he could choose a place with a good economic environment like Shenzhen, and it was easy to make achievements, or just pretend, as others say.
But he just wants to go to the "dilapidated factory in the middle of nowhere" that others don't want to go.
There was no tidy place to live, the machines in the factory were rusty, and the factory was about to fail.
His wife called him stupid, and his colleagues said he was stupid.
But he doesn't think so, he just wants to bring this factory back to life.
He took the workers to investigate and study the current situation of the factory, study how to use the machine according to the instruction manual, go out to find cooperation in person, get up early and stay late, and put all his mind on work.
Eventually, the effort to get the plant back up and running has brought unexpected benefits that have impressed everyone.
There is a line in "Soldier Assault":
"Want and get, there are two words in the middle, that is, to do it, you can only get it if you do it."
Those who look stupid, those who have given up or are unwilling to do what others have given up or are unwilling to do, he has to do with all his strength to do it well.
They have more strength in their hearts, they are more capable of action, and they are more capable of getting things done.
When you are not sure about the return of benefits, you dare to pay
Ba Jin once said:
"The meaning of life is to give, not to receive."
Many times, people who are too shrewd are often unwilling to waste more energy when they can't see the benefits, and are willing to accept the arrangement of life, but lose the opportunity to fight for it.
People with "fool thinking" are unwilling to accept the arrangement of life, and even when they are not sure about the return of benefits, they dare to pay, but they are more likely to receive unexpected surprises.
At the age of 21, Chen Wei, the director of the China Song and Dance Troupe, created a dance drama "The Soul of the Qin Warriors" and went to the Shanghai Song and Dance Troupe to select actors.
Because of the terracotta warriors, the school recommended some tall and temperamental male dancers.
Of course, the short Huang Doudou is not recommended by the school.
However, Huang Doudou, who loves dance and the stage, was not discouraged.
Based on his understanding of the "Qin Warriors", he also created a dance, and insisted on training every day, hoping to win a chance for himself to show his dance.
One day, he thought about that history and danced to the music that was uplifting.
This scene happened to be seen by director Chen Weiya, who had just come back from a walk, Huang Doudou danced with the tall heroic momentum of the Terracotta Warriors and horses, and did not lose his aura, which cannot be found in those tall actors.
The next day, Huang Doudou was handpicked by Chen Weiya as the starring role in "The Soul of the Qin Warriors".
There is a saying:
"If you can't see hope, you have to work hard, it's like walking in the fog, you don't know where the road is, but as long as you move forward, your eyes will get brighter and brighter."
Sometimes, seemingly silly efforts trump seemingly shrewd calculations.
Those who do not care and do not ask for anything in return insist on it, but instead get more than expected.
If you pay with reservation, you can't get it; When you are not sure about the return of benefits, you can still give recklessly, but you can get the gift of life.
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Kazuo Inamori said:
"Changing your mind, changing your life is the first step."
The difference between people is in the way of thinking.
Whether you are smart or stupid is determined by everyone's cognition.
The so-called "foolish thinking" is not really stupid, but a sincere, positive attitude towards life.
Be a man who knows how to suffer losses, leave the benefits to others, and make friends better;
In doing things, it is easier to succeed if you are goal-oriented, direct and decisive, and do not look ahead.
A little more "stupid" in life, not afraid of losses, not doubtful, and courageous, often more can live a different kind of wonderful.