Today, I accidentally swiped a video about what you would do if you were always being ridiculed and hit, even attacked, and there was a huge disparity in power between you? Do you really want to go back?
How to achieve that in the face of provocation, not only not passively beaten, but also be able to achieve a perfect counterattack. Turning the other cheek is not the best solution, and the best way to retaliate is to use the following 3 psychological effects.
I saw one such story on a public account.
Lee Myung-bak, a young man who has just entered the workplace, stepped into this well-known company with enthusiasm and dreams. However, the good times did not last long, and he soon discovered that the workplace was not as calm as he imagined.
Colleague Sister Zhang, with her senior qualifications and sharp words, has become a difficult problem that Li Ming has to face. Whenever there is a project discussion, Sister Zhang always finds an opportunity to question Li Ming's work, and even satirizes in public, which makes Li Ming feel pressured.
[Festinger's Law: Static braking, control emotions]
In the face of Sister Zhang's provocation, Li Ming initially thought about fighting back directly, but after thinking about it, doing so would only escalate the conflict and would not benefit himself.
So, he began to practice Festinger's law, choosing to ignore and spectate. Whenever Sister Zhang's words came like sharp arrows, Li Ming tried to stay calm and not let his emotions be dragged away.
He understood that his own reaction was the key to the outcome of this "war". Gradually, Sister Zhang found that her provocation was like a stone sinking into the sea, and she couldn't get any response, so she was no longer so enthusiastic about it.
[Tiger Effect: Self-improvement, leaving opponents in the dust]
At the same time, Li Ming knows that in order to truly gain a firm foothold in the workplace, he must constantly improve himself. He began to use his spare time to learn new skills, participate in industry exchanges, and constantly improve his professional quality and comprehensive ability.
As time went by, Li Ming's performance in the project became better and better, winning the recognition of his leaders and colleagues. At this time, Sister Zhang can no longer look at Li Ming with the eyes of the past, and those provocations and sarcasm in the past now seem so naïve and ridiculous.
[Wild Goose Array Effect: Unite Strength and Build a Line of Defense Together]
In the process of self-improvement, Li Ming also discovered a secret: he was not the only one in the workplace who was being provoked by Sister Zhang. It turned out that Sister Zhang's strength and domineering had already made many colleagues dissatisfied.
As a result, Li Ming began to quietly unite these colleagues to enhance mutual understanding and trust through private communication and team activities. They found that everyone had common experiences and feelings, and soon a small team was formed.
With the strength of the team, they are not only able to better respond to Sister Zhang's provocation, but also support each other and make progress together in their work.
Many old irons said this:
Netizen A: Most of the time, you don't have to turn your face when you see a person unhappy, you just choose to ignore it and watch coldly, and spend more time and energy on improving yourself.
Netizen B: First reflect on yourself, if you haven't done anything wrong, then ignore him, and then quietly wait for karma.
Netizen C: For people who are right and wrong, they can only ignore and step on them, and they don't even say hello, and they are safe from this kind of right and wrong! If I can't hide from it, I'll clean it up fiercely, to the point where I'm scared when I think of it.
Netizen D: If you can't turn your face, it's not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years, you can turn your face and go back immediately, so that he knows that you are not easy to mess with.