It is the graduation and promotion season, and banquets such as the college entrance banquet and teacher appreciation banquet are being held. In some places, "no matter what the exam is, you have to hold a college banquet" has become a common rule. As a result, catering businesses around the country have also launched a variety of college banquet packages: Pingbu Qingyun Banquet, Pengcheng Wanli Banquet, Fish Leaping Dragon Gate Banquet, and Gold List Title Banquet......
According to an interview with Chinanews.com, some of the college entrance banquets are to celebrate the end of more than ten years of hard study and stand at a new starting point; Some college banquets are held for parents and relatives. Recently, in response to illegal operations and participation in banquets such as college banquets, relevant departments in many places have expressly banned and announced supervision and reporting calls.
01 After 00, the fancy whole life promotion banquet
After the college entrance examination, after the last hurdle - volunteering, this post-00 candidate began to plan his own college banquet, looking forward to drawing a successful end to this life exam.
Last summer, Ruoruo, a first-year student, held a special ceremony for herself after the college entrance examination. From identifying guests, booking hotels, to designing sessions, writing host drafts, etc., she plans by herself. In order to liven up the atmosphere, she set up a lottery session, designed the style of the lottery tickets, and prepared souvenirs for the guests.
If you design the process for your own college entrance banquet. Photo courtesy of the interviewee
When Ruoruo entered in a pure white dress, she saw the happiness on the faces of her parents, the pride on the faces of her elders and the heartfelt blessings of her friends. The uncles and aunts raised their glasses to her, "I'm so happy today, drink more". At the scene, her father's friend, an enthusiastic and outgoing uncle, came on stage and sang a song for her.
After the banquet, Ruoruo wrote this paragraph in the circle of friends: Studying is my own business, because I have to work hard to get good grades, but it seems to be a lot of people's business, because my studies affect the hot eyes of those who love me.
Different from the traditional banquet, Ruoruo's college entrance banquet does not accept gift money, but only celebrates the end of the college entrance examination and the arrival of a new stage of life. In her hometown of a city in Jiangsu and Zhejiang, holding a college entrance banquet has basically formed a custom, however, not every candidate has a school promotion banquet of his heart.
02 "I knew from my dad's circle of friends that I was going to hold a college entrance banquet"
In addition to the college entrance examination candidates who really want to hold a college entrance banquet for themselves, there are also some candidates who are "forced" to participate in their own college entrance banquet. In this regard, some candidates said that they only learned the news when they saw the invitation in the circle of friends, "I knew from my father's circle of friends that I was going to hold a college banquet."
In order not to hold a college entrance banquet, Chu Chu, who had just finished the college entrance examination, was in a negotiation with his parents. Chu Chu, who is from Suzhou, Jiangsu Province, told Chinanews that there is a local saying that the college entrance examination banquet after the college entrance examination is held together with her 20th birthday. Regardless of the score of the college entrance examination, whether you are attending an ordinary university or a prestigious school, you will hold a college entrance banquet. Before Chu Chu's college entrance examination, his parents attended several college banquets at relatives' houses, and the amount of gift money ranged from a few hundred to one or two thousand.
Holding a college banquet is a local custom, and parents think it is a "face-saving matter", but Chu Chu thinks that it is not necessary. On the one hand, she was reluctant to use her college entrance banquet as a means of collecting red envelopes from relatives, and more importantly, she was unable to decide who would attend her college entrance banquet. "Some of my relatives asked me how much I could get into, what university I would go to, and some wanted to compare myself with my own children to gain a sense of superiority. What's the need to spend a lot of money to invite a group of people I don't like to eat? ”
In Chu Chu's imagination, the college banquet should invite people who have really helped her in the course of more than ten years of study, as well as friends who care about and support her, and can not accept any gift money.
After several discussions, Chu Chu's parents finally decided not to hold a college entrance banquet for the time being. However, in order to recover the gift money, some candidates' parents held a college banquet in the name of the candidates, and at the college entrance banquet that belonged to them, these candidates changed from protagonists to supporting roles.
Some candidates told Chinanews that her college entrance examination score did not reach the undergraduate line and applied for several junior colleges. Her parents insisted on holding a college entrance banquet, however, many of her peers from relatives and friends around her had been admitted to prestigious schools, and the date of the college entrance banquet was approaching, and the thought that they would come to the college entrance banquet made her psychological burden increase day by day, "I really don't want to do it, and I feel embarrassed when I think of that scene." ”
03 It is strictly forbidden to participate in the college banquet in violation of regulations in many places
Regarding the celebration of further education, Ma Liang, a professor at the School of Public Administration of Chinese University, told Chinanews that it is normal and understandable for parents to report good news because of their children's education and invite teachers, relatives and friends. However, in many areas, there is a trend of comparison, pomp, face-saving, and even "kidnapping" relatives and friends, which has brought a heavy burden of human affection and does not meet the requirements of changing customs and customs. At the same time, not all candidates got their wishes, and the college entrance banquet also brought peer pressure and intensified the involution of education.
Ma Liang believes that candidates can choose to travel long distances and travel thousands of miles before enrollment. If necessary, you can invite your friends and family to celebrate in small groups.
Chinanews noticed that during the graduation and promotion season, the education departments and discipline inspection and supervision departments in many places issued a proposal to refuse the "promotion banquet" and "teacher appreciation banquet", strictly prohibiting illegal operation and participation in the promotion banquet and teacher appreciation banquet, and announced the supervision and reporting telephone.
For example, the official account of "Lanzhou Micro Education" issued a proposal saying that the teachers and staff of the city's education system should consciously abide by the regulations on integrity and discipline, do not participate in any form of "promotion banquet" and "teacher appreciation banquet", and do not accept gifts, cash gifts, securities, WeChat red envelopes, etc. from students' parents, so as to enhance the sense of integrity and self-discipline, restrain personal and family behavior, abide by the teacher's moral norms, and fulfill the teacher's moral commitment.
The Yingkou Municipal Commission for Discipline Inspection and Supervision issued a notice to mobilize party members, cadres and public officials, especially leading cadres, to further enhance their awareness of discipline and rules and take the lead in establishing a good family style.
According to the notice, it is strictly forbidden to take the opportunity of children's education to conduct illegal "student banquets" and "teacher appreciation banquets" in their own or other people's names, such as illegal large-scale operations, agency operations, early or postponed operations, hidden place operations, only receiving gifts without holding banquets, and "breaking the whole into parts" in batches and times; It is strictly forbidden to use the authority or influence of the position to notify the unit, the personnel of the system, the management service target, or other personnel who may affect the fair performance of official duties to participate in the "student banquet", as well as the management service object to pay the relevant fees.
(Some of the interviewees in this article have been pseudonyms)
Column Editor-in-Chief: Zhang Wu Text Editor: Cheng Pei Source of the title map: Shangguan title map
Source: Author: China News Network