Dear parents, let's talk about a warm and thorny topic today - "Don't raise children into soft persimmons". This year, who doesn't have a baby girl? But we all have a mirror in our hearts, if we want our daughters not to be bullied outside, it's not enough to be gentle, we have to be a little "sweet and thorny"!
Imagine, our little princess, wearing a princess dress, has a smile sweeter than flowers, but when something happens, she becomes a soft persimmon that can be manipulated by others? That's not going to happen! What we want to cultivate is a little rose that has both the gentleness of a marshmallow and the self-protection ability of a cactus.
First of all, she had to be taught the art of "saying no". It's not that she wants to be scathing, but to learn to express her boundaries gently and firmly in the face of unreasonable demands. For example, if a friend wants to take away her favorite doll, our girl can smile and say, "This doll is special to me, I can't give it to you, but we can play other games together, okay?" "Look, this not only protects your own rights and interests, but also loses your grace.
Furthermore, develop her self-confidence and independence. Give your daughter more opportunities to try, even if she fails, it is a wealth of growth. Let her know that her worth is not defined by others, but earned by her own hard work. In this way, she will naturally not be easily swayed by the rumors of the outside world.
Also, don't forget to teach her to recognize red flags and learn to protect herself. In these days, safety comes first, both physically and psychologically. Tell her to speak up about someone or something that makes her uncomfortable, or to ask someone she trusts for help.
The netizens below have started the hot discussion mode, and next, let's watch this heated discussion together.
Netizen Xiaojia: I am a primary school teacher, and once, a child sat directly on the ground and told me that he wanted to tell his mother that you made me sit on the ground. At that time, many teachers felt incredible when they saw it, and they were discussing what kind of parents can educate their children.
Some parents educate their children in such a way that their children often make the teacher cry at school.
Netizen Xiaoyi: My mother taught me that I can't find trouble, but if someone bullies you, you must fight back. I'm about to graduate, and I'm doing an internship in the company, and some old employees are always pointing fingers at me, and I always talk about them one by one, unlike other internship students, many of whom are excluded and choose to leave. I'm very good in all aspects of the company now. In the future, when I have children myself, I will teach like this.
This mother taught me so well, and she became a "workplace bully" as soon as she started working
Netizen Xiao C: I have listened to my parents since I was a child, and I dare not refute when I encounter something. Now that I'm older, there are very few people who can stand in my shoes and speak for me, and what I think is always refuted by others. My partner often tells me that you must learn to refute others for what you think is right, so that you dare to be yourself.
It's true! It's actually lucky to have such an object. He's right, if you keep being wronged, you'll only lose yourself.
Netizen Xiaoding: It's not a good thing to raise a daughter to be aggressive. You can teach him to express his grievances boldly and communicate in a timely manner. And teach her to be aggressive, and other children she may meet are more aggressive, which is likely to cause bad things to happen. Now that society is already very hostile, you don't know what kind of person you're talking to. Maybe some people are being pressed by life and can't breathe, just missing an outlet. There have been many examples of this.
Oh, yes! Sometimes it can be something else's fault, but be careful. Safety is paramount!
Netizen Xiaoxu: What I told my daughter is that you can start after more than three times. She was in the first grade of elementary school, and one of her classmates was always spitting on her, and her daughter dragged her classmate's hair and slammed it on the table. She told me that it is a matter of forbearance three times to score points, and I think one time is enough for spitting. Afterwards, I gave the other party a few hundred gifts and condolences, and did not criticize my daughter in the slightest.
The child has a strong sense of self-protection, and the parents only compensated the other party afterwards, and did not blame their daughter, but also agreed with the child's approach.
In addition to these netizen comments, other netizens also have their own opinions:
In short, our goal is to raise a "sweet and thorny" little rose, which has both a gentle and kind side, as well as a strong and independent heart. In this way, wherever she goes, she can confidently bloom and become the brightest star. Remember, every child is unique, and what we need to do is to guide them to be the best version of themselves, not copy and paste "soft persimmons".