Everywhere, people are mixed, and people are good at being bullied.
According to human nature, if you are looked down upon, you will feel good in your heart and meet your own expectations.
But there is no way to avoid it, when you meet people who look down on you, after all, low-quality people abound, and there are more people who are better than you.
Maybe you take the initiative to please people who look down on you in order to further expand your network, or out of the need for development. If so, it's really wrong.
If you humble yourself to the dust, you will only fuel the arrogance of the other party, and it will not do you any good.
We also have to think long-term, slowly change the mode of interaction with each other, and retain the proper decency.
During the Warring States Period, there was a wise man named Guiguzi, who cultivated the Zongheng family Su Qin and Zhang Yi and changed the overall situation of the world.
His three sentences made Zhang Yi, who was originally weak, surpass the strong Su Qin, and the latecomer came out on top and became the winner in life. To sum up, it is the way to deal with those who look down on it.
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"Know yourself from the beginning, know yourself and then know others": see yourself clearly and get along calmly.
After Su Qin and Zhang Yi finished their studies, they said goodbye to Guiguzi together.
Su Qin went directly to his hometown, had a simple reunion with his family, and then went to Qin to lobby King Qin Huiwen, hoping to be useful.
But King Huiwen said, "You are fledgling." ”
After using up the coil, Su Qin slipped home, thinking of Guiguzi's tips: "If you are disappointed in lobbying, you only need to play this book well, and you will have your own benefits." ”
It turned out that I had to study again to have a chance. Su Qin understood in seconds and read the book "Yin Fu".
After reading a hundred times, Su Qin went to Zhao and lobbied Yan, Qi and other countries, which contributed to the pattern of "uniting and verticalizing" the six countries, causing Qin to dare not send troops to bully anyone for more than ten years.
Zhang Yi went to the Wei State and was not reused, and then went to the Chu State, not only was he not reused, but he was also beaten.
Just when Zhang Yi was at a loss, Su Qin sent someone to find Zhang Yi: "Classmates, you should help each other." ”
When the old classmates met, Zhang Yi thought that they could have a good meal, but found that Su Qin had separated the meals. Su Qin himself, big fish and big meat, Zhang Yi is a green vegetable and radish.
The appearance of looking down on people made Zhang Yi angry, but Zhang Yi held back.
When parting, Su Qin said: "Help you with gold, please be convenient." ”
Faced with the humiliation of her classmates, Zhang Yi thought about it for a long time, avoided hitting the stone with an egg, and did not offend Su Qin head-on.
The poor ask the rich to do things, whether they are classmates or friends, they are not equal, and they can only blame themselves for not having the ability.
The most terrible thing about people is not that they have no ability, but that they have no self-knowledge.
Smart people, when they are looked down upon, will see themselves clearly and know their own weight, so that they will not do things rashly, let alone hit the stone with an egg.
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"If you benefit from each other, you will be close to each other, and if you lose each other, you will benefit from it; Those who lose, do harm": improve oneself in order to benefit fellowship.
Zhang Yi thought about it and decided to go to Qin. After all, if you, Su Qin, can contact the Six Kingdoms and resist the Qin State, I can let the Qin State defeat the Six Kingdoms.
Zhang Yi arrived in the Qin State, King Qin Huiwen was in a hurry, and the six countries dealt with him together, is this okay?
Zhang Yi offered a plan, which can be "broken individually". As a result, he was quickly reused by the Qin state.
When Zhang Yi stabilized his position, the Jia Sheren, who was traveling with him, revealed the mystery: "The minister is not able to know the king, and the one who knows the king is Su Xiangguo." ”
Yes, when Zhang Yi had a position, Su Qin was also impressed.
According to Su Qin's strategy: "I control the Six Kingdoms, and Zhang Yi controls the Qin State, so cooperate with each other and benefit from each other." ”
People are really not so simple in their interactions. If you are useless, people will naturally look down on you; When you get rich and have status, people will naturally favor you and sit on an equal footing with you.
As the saying goes, "Man dies for money, and birds die for food." ”
Most social interactions are friends of interest; The best social interaction is the exchange of interests.
If you help me accomplish something, I will pay you; If you do something, I'll give you a ride, not all of them.
Trying your best to improve yourself is the best response to those who look down on you.
You can also think of it this way: "All the contempt is a pressure to let yourself bottom out." ”
Read more, seek more work, accumulate contacts and wealth, your value will increase, and then go to a place with many people, and someone will applaud you when you open your mouth.
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"Plan the end of all kinds, reach the truth of people's hearts, see the change of me, and guard its door": stabilize yourself, and move with the camera.
Observing the changes in things, you will know the laws of birth, old age, sickness and death, and you will also have the ability to predict.
On any stage, it is "you sing, I will appear".
Those who look down on you will be in the wind at first, but as the times change, they will also leave the wind. At this moment, you naturally and easily occupy the outlet.
Zhang Yi was in the state of Qin and worked actively, but did not advise the king of Qin to make a big move.
Su Qin was involved in the strife of the Qi State and died.
When Zhang Yi heard the news of Su Qin's death, he was overjoyed and said: "Today is the time for me to stick out my tongue." ”
Soon, Zhang Yi, on behalf of the Qin State, lobbied the Wei State and the Chu State, forming a pattern of "six countries dependent on the Qin State", which shattered the overall situation of the world set by Su Qin.
To get revenge on those who look down on you, don't rush it, it can take years or even decades. There is always a chance to see when the other party is weak. After all, flowers are not red for a hundred days, and people are good for a thousand days.
Ups and downs are a common thing in life, and when you go down to the other person, going one step further will lead to you being on top and the other person on the bottom.
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Zhuge Liang commented: "Su and Zhang Changyu resigned, and they can't form an alliance. ”
No one in the world should look down on anyone. The east of the river is for a while, and the west of the river is for a while.
When you laugh at people, most of them are just 50 steps and 100 steps of laughter.
It doesn't matter if fate gives you a low point, you should take this opportunity and start rising.
If someone gives you an ugly face, don't be disgusted, you should know that it's because you're useless.
It is useless to please anyone, it is most useful to please yourself.
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Reference: "Chronicles of the Kingdoms of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty".