#头条创作挑战赛#
Entering middle age, people's married life is divided into two poles: one end is a warm and harmonious happy countryside, and the other end is a painful emotional abyss.
The key to this world of difference lies in the attitude and daily behavior of the partner, especially the man.
The positive state of the husband directly draws the blueprint of the wife's happiness.
Every bit of his maturity and responsibility is to add a strong touch to the common happiness of both parties.
However, when you reach half a hundred years in life, if you find that your partner is still mired in the following three difficulties, it will undoubtedly cast a heavy shadow on the happiness of the second half of your life:
These states are tantamount to bringing continuous wind and rain to married life, which should have been a safe haven, and become the biggest threat to happiness in old age.
The ability is not big, and the temper is not small
Du Yuesheng said: "The last people are incompetent and have a big temper. ”
Men pour out their anger on their relatives only when they are weak, which is especially unbearable.
is humble in front of outsiders, but when he gets along with his wife, he is reckless and commanding.
This kind of husband, like a powder keg that explodes at the touch, makes the house smoke and miasma.
The cracks in the marriage gradually appeared in the torment, and finally dissolved.
During the Northern Expedition, Liu Yan was stripped of his official position due to mistakes and repatriated to his hometown.
After returning to his hometown, he was depressed, his mood was uncertain, and he was often angry with his wife.
During the Spring Festival, Liu Yan and his wife entered the palace to celebrate his birthday.
The Queen Mother favored the Hu family and stayed in the palace for a month.
Liu Yan's family was anxious, and when the Hu family returned home, he was suspected of having a personal relationship with the king.
Liu Yan, who was frustrated in his career, was unable to appeal to the monarch, and instead pointed the finger at the Hu family.
The torture was fruitless, and Hu claimed his innocence from beginning to end.
In a fit of rage, Liu Yan gathered 500 soldiers and slapped him in the face with the soles of his shoes, causing Hu to near death.
In the end, he took a letter of resignation and drove Hu out of the house.
Hu was tenacious and immediately reported Liu Yan's domestic violence after recovering from his injury.
The case was tried publicly, and Liu Yan was finally executed and shown to the public as a warning.
How can a man spend his life with contempt and disregard?
Marriage is not a woman's "legal shackles", it is actually a safe place to be in the same boat through thick and thin.
As the old saying goes: "Husband and wife are in harmony, like the piano and the song." ”
There are good wives in the family, the family is harmonious, and the blessings are both good.
A real man is happy to be "afraid of the inside" and regards it as a blessing.
The wise man is a woman, do not exchange tolerance for humiliation, and do not lose self-dignity.
Happiness is self-inflicted, and everything is autonomous.
The key is that respect and cherishment are the true meaning of maintaining marriage.
Big things don't matter, small things are counted
Confucius has a cloud: "Fifty knows the destiny of heaven." ”
However, in the picture of reality, many men over half a hundred years old are still at the crossroads of life, and have not become a solid shelter for their families.
They can't accomplish great things, they have a heavy responsibility on their shoulders, and they are always ready to unload that responsibility.
Such a day is actually a lonely battle for his wife, and she faces the wind and rain alone and sticks to it silently.
There is such a story that is thought-provoking: a bachelor who is close to the age and is not confused, with the help of others, marries a young and beautiful woman. This seems like a good beginning, but it does not usher in a happy ending.
In just a few years, the friction between the two sides has intensified, and the sound of disputes has even passed through the door and been heard by the neighbors.
At the root of this, it is the husband's powerlessness that makes it difficult for the wife to bear.
He has no stable job, and his family depends on his wife for his livelihood, barely surviving, but privately embezzling his wife's savings and indulging in excessive pleasures.
In front of relatives and friends, he disguised himself as a generous man, and when he was shy, he asked his wife for money.
And his wife bought daily necessities, but she was frequently harshly reprimanded.
What's even more chilling is that he also tried to divert his investment in his children's education for personal use.
Finally, his wife was overwhelmed and chose to leave to pursue a new chapter of her life.
Zhang Ailing broke through the middle-aged realm in one sentence: "When you wake up from a dream, you are surrounded by people who rely on you. ”
When the pillars of the home collapse, the house also collapses. If the person at the helm of the home is not responsible, the home will be as fragile as paper paste, unable to escape the invasion of wind and rain, and eventually fall apart.
The greatest sorrow of women is that in the face of adversity and challenges, they find that their partners choose to escape and retreat, leaving themselves with a weak body to support half of the family and overcome many difficulties.
Human nature is hard to change, so don't try to change your partner and don't expect too much.
If even our parents can't change people, why should we bother with ourselves.
Let go of perseverance, even if the choice of marriage is deviated, you must be brave enough to explore a new life path that suits you.
I only know how to ask, but I don't know how to be grateful
With the passage of time, the relationship between husband and wife has quietly metamorphosed, deepening from fiery love to mellow family affection.
The daily routine of life is gradually becoming dull, and the once nothing to talk about seems to be replaced by silence.
Inadvertently, taking replaces giving, and enjoyment overshadows the glow of gratitude.
Over time, it becomes natural for one party to give everything it has, and the boundless tolerance of the other party contributes to the other's unscrupulousness.
Back in the Republic of China, the encounter and combination of the talented girl Xie Bingying and Jia Yizhen made a good story.
Despite the simplicity of the wedding, this did not diminish the emotional depth between them.
In the eyes of the outside world, Jia Yizhen is an impeccable guardian who loves Xie Bingying very much.
He expresses his love in a delicate and silent way, like guarding a child, and every detail is full of care.
When the cold wind rises, he always rushes to dress her first, worrying that she will receive a little chill;
When she is away from home, she must prepare her own food to ensure that she does not suffer from hunger.
Once, when he welcomed guests at home, he took on the responsibility of cooking alone, did not let his wife work, and only gently brought his thoughtfulness to his wife with the sentence "May she enjoy the leisurely life of his wife".
Fifty-one years of spring and autumn, thick and thin, they snuggled up to each other, and their love lasted for a long time, proving the unswerving power of true love.
Yang Lan said: "The essence of marriage goes beyond love, and contains the righteousness of treating each other with all sincerity, the tacit understanding of never abandoning, and the deeply portrayed kindness." ”
The essence of feelings is the resonance of two hearts.
Blindly paying, may not win cherished; Giving too much can lead to self-consumption.
A good marriage is a pas de deux, and both parties need to dance together to paint a gorgeous scenery.
If your partner only knows how to ask and not appreciate, perhaps letting go in moderation will make life easier again.
Love is like a treasure, and don't let it become a breeding ground for greed.
Adjustment of mentality is the key to marriage harmony and the source of open-mindedness in life.
Mo Yan once profoundly pointed out: "The displeasure of the wife is the misfortune of the family." ”
As the saying goes, a wife is a mirror of her husband's world.
If you deal with it with anger, you will only reap resentment and strife;
Treat each other with tenderness, and usher in the fullness of harmony and well-being.
In the long journey of life, possession should be cherished, and mutual support should be shown to show the true meaning of happiness.
I pray that every heart can embrace exclusive happiness, go to the future side by side with the beloved, and let the flower of happiness bloom forever.