Anyway, did you brush up on Ikuta Dou really confused to speak a few days ago?
Here's what happened, a fan left him a message in the Instagram question box: "I'm 9 months pregnant today, and I'm scared when I'm about to give birth." ”
As a result, Ikuta Douzhen replied to her: "Go and beg your husband to let you give birth painlessly." ”
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おねだり, this expression, can be translated into begging, pleading, forced, forced, begging in vain.
What context can it be used in? For example, if a child wants something, go to his parents and beg them to get it for you; Or it can be used when a woman asks (or forces) a man to do something in a coquettish tone or action.
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So such an ill-considered wording suddenly stimulated the nerves of many passers-by and fans.
In a normal, healthy marital relationship, husband and wife should be on an equal footing. Throughout the pregnancy, the wife needs to endure great changes in her body and mind, and her career development is forced to press the pause button, and at the same time, she has to face the fear of childbirth alone.
Ikuta Douzhen's starting point may not be malicious, originally he just wanted to say something to appease the fans and interact with the business. But the ignorance and vague condescension revealed between the words are the inducements for many people to complain and condemn.
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The subconscious machismo wording is the most dissatisfying, because he may not even see what his problem is.
In fact, he could have chosen not to reply, or suggested that the other party could discuss it with her husband and family to calm the other party's uneasy emotions.
However, he apologized lightly on Instagram two days after the incident, which once again caused dissatisfaction among netizens.
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"It seems that someone has been hurt by what I said. I'm sorry. Although it costs a little bit of money, I learned that one of the most important ways to ease my fears is to ease my fears. I wanted to express that she could discuss it with her family, but I couldn't put it into words. In a strange way. I'll keep an eye out for it later!
I'm really sorry to the person who asked me questions! I'll cheer you on! ”
A noisy comment section
One stone stirred up a thousand waves, and it was this remark that made netizens build 9000+ high-rise buildings on the anonymous forum of Girls Channel, which was quite lively.
Source: girlschannel.net
Netizens' opinions on this matter can basically be divided into three factions:
Some people think that fans shouldn't have told Ikuta Douzhen about such a more personal thing, and as a man, he can't experience pregnancy and childbirth, so he definitely can't give any too appropriate answers, and fans are looking for the wrong person to talk to.
It's also quite annoying for fans to send Ikuta a message of "Ikuta is afraid of having children". It might be okay to say this to a celebrity mother who has given birth, but if you say this to Ikuta, it's just hard for him to answer. No matter how he answers, there will be people who say that he doesn't know how to have children at all.
If a woman asks a man for advice or sympathy about childbirth, she is unlikely to get the answers she wants. It is an irreversible fact that only mothers and babies risk their lives and suffer. You can't ask men to understand wholeheartedly because they haven't experienced it and don't intend to do so.
I am a woman who has just given birth. I think Ikuta's remarks have a completely different focus from the perspective of women and men. The phrase "begging for a painless beating" may be seen as disrespectful to women, contrasted with the fear of a life-threatening birth. However, I believe that men who are unable to actually experience childbirth under any circumstances have a limited understanding of the anxiety, hardship, and physical changes that women experience during pregnancy. Maybe the fan thinks that his wife has experienced having a child and thinks that he will understand, so he told him this, but she may actually have found the wrong person to talk to. Ikuta was scolded a little too much.
There are also some people who think that his wording is a little careless, it is not a big deal, and he himself does not seem to be malicious, since he has apologized, then forgive him.
The wording is inappropriate, but is it necessary to scold it like this? I've already apologized, can I stop condemning him? It is certain that he should be more cautious in his speech, but he should have no malicious intent, so forgive him.
There are also some people who think that he does not respect women very much, and also takes the matter of giving birth to women too lightly.
I don't blame you for not knowing about painless childbirth, but you can't understand what you say about "begging for a husband". It is a woman and a wife who give birth to a child, so why should she ask her husband? The decision to have a painless delivery should be made by the woman herself. However, I think it's important to do some research on painless delivery, including the risks, and then share that information with your family.
Ikuta is an actor I like very much, but I'm disappointed. Do you think that as long as there is a painless birth, having a baby will be a piece of cake? It doesn't hurt, but it hurts. Whether it's a natural birth, a painless birth, or a C-section, it's not always smooth sailing. If something unexpected happens, life will be in jeopardy.
In a word, it made passers-by and fans quarrel into a pot of porridge, and also shattered some people's filters.
It is not difficult to see from this incident that there is still a long way to go for the popularity of painless childbirth in Japan.
A mother's love is not measured by pain
The focus of the controversy against netizens probably lies in the following focuses.
First of all, is it really safe to have a painless birth?
The process of childbirth can be regarded as a walk to the ghost door, and painless childbirth, as a way of delivery to reduce maternal pain, can be said to be the gospel of expectant mothers.
Painless labor, also known as labor analgesia, is a type of labor that uses anesthesia to reduce labor pain. In many countries, including Japan, painless delivery uses an anesthetic method called epidural analgesia.
Pain during childbirth is caused by uterine contractions and compression of the fetus as it passes through the birth canal, and these stimuli are transmitted to the spinal cord through pain nerves near the spine and are recognized by the brain as pain. Many of the pain-conducting nerves during childbirth are located in the spine, so they can be blocked with anesthetic drugs to reduce pain.
Source: kawaguchiladys-clinic.net
Although it is called painless delivery, it is actually not completely painless or sensationless. The tension in the abdomen during labor, the sensation of the fetus moving, and the timing of exertion are all very important during labor. If general anesthesia is used, complete numbness of the patient can lead to an inability to grasp the right timing, and delivery may become difficult. Therefore, painless delivery is performed with only local anesthesia.
Painless delivery can not only reduce the mother's pain, but more importantly, it can reduce the mother's physical exertion during childbirth, which is conducive to coping with various emergencies; Improve maternal gastrointestinal peristalsis, increase uterine blood flow, and reduce the probability of fetal hypoxia; Reduce fetal hypoxia due to maternal hyperventilation or hypoventilation; The mental and physical recovery of the mother after childbirth is also faster.
Source: nakagawa.or.jp
Safety is probably the top concern for people who choose a painless delivery.
In general, painless delivery has fewer side effects, and some people don't even react. Some people may experience temporary symptoms such as nausea, fever, headache, low blood pressure, difficulty urinating after childbirth, and leg pain, but all of them resolve on their own. There may also be relatively rare side effects, serious complications that affect maternal respiratory, circulatory and neurological function, such as advanced spinal anesthesia, acute anesthetic poisoning, acute epidural hematoma, etc.
Therefore, it is important to have an anesthesiologist with professional knowledge present to deal with it. The doctor will adjust the dosage or change the treatment plan in time according to the patient's changing situation, and the safety of painless delivery is still guaranteed. Painless delivery is not suitable for everyone, and women should listen to their doctor's advice before making a decision based on their own physical condition.
Source: okazaki.or.jp
After all, anesthetics and other drugs are needed, and some people are more worried that painless delivery may not be good for the fetus, but the dose of anesthetics is actually relatively small, and they are basically absorbed by the mother, so it will not have much impact on the fetus.
Source: takeuchiclinic.jp
Therefore, painless delivery is a relatively safe and mature way of delivery, which, together with appropriate intervention management and treatment programs, can prevent serious problems and accidents.
Secondly, the way in which mother's love is measured by the way of childbirth is also confusing, and many people do not agree with this.
In the same developed countries, the proportion of painless childbirth in Europe and the United States is as high as 70%, but the proportion of painless childbirth in Japan is very low, only 8.6%, which is inseparable from some old-fashioned concepts in Japanese society.
Source: news.ntv.co.jp
In Japan, there is a considerable number of people who believe that a mother must go through a painful childbirth process in order to develop maternal love for her child. If it doesn't hurt when you give birth, your feelings for your child won't be so deep.
This kind of behavior of defining and measuring a mother's love for her child by the way of childbirth seems too absurd.
Source: nell.life
10 months pregnant, morning sickness, edema, insomnia, heavy stomach, leg cramps, rib pain, low back pain, pubic pain, difficulty breathing, easy to get tired when walking, frequent toilet visits...... Almost every mom has experienced this. From the beginning of giving birth to a life, mother and child are a community of destiny, and the emotional connection between them is also the deepest.
It is biased to deny a mother's love for her child just because she has adopted a less painful delivery method such as a painless delivery or a caesarean section.
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Because according to this logic, if there is no pain in the childbirth process, there can be no love, then as a father, he has not experienced the pain of giving birth to a child at all, will not there be fatherly love? When the roles are reversed, such a conclusion must be difficult for fathers to accept, right?
It is also doubtful that the pain of childbirth is seen as a rite of motherhood.
In traditional Japan, patience with pain is a virtue.
In the Showa era, it was widely believed that one could only qualify as a mother if she had overcome the pain of childbirth. Because babies are born with the same suffering, mothers should also have to endure pain. If you haven't experienced the pain of childbirth, it's not really a birth.
Source: article.toysrus.co.jp
Some people impose this view on women, and the values formed by them are like invisible shackles that aggravate women's suffering for no reason after they become popular in society.
In fact, this view is not unique to Japan, and it also exists in many countries.
However, with the awakening of the public, especially women's consciousness, different voices have gradually emerged on the views of painless childbirth.
Last year, NTV conducted an independent survey of 1,054 men and women over the age of 20 about pain-free childbirth, and some of the data is worth noting:
[Topic: If you want to be a mother, it is best to experience the pain of childbirth]
Source: news.ntv.co.jp
Only 6.7% of young Japanese people in their 20s believe that women should feel the pain of childbirth when giving birth, and 62.9% believe that it is not necessary to suffer this kind of suffering.
The younger generation of Gen Z has become fully aware of the importance of loving themselves and enjoying life. In comparison, the previous generations were really patient.
[Topic: Is it in favor of women choosing painless delivery?]
Source: news.ntv.co.jp
94.3% of young people in their 20s said they were in favor of women choosing painless childbirth when giving birth. The older you get, the more opposition there becomes.
It can be seen that the concept of childbearing in Japan's new generation is gradually changing, although the progress is relatively slow, but at least a big step forward.
[Topic: Whether to choose painless delivery depends on the woman's wishes]
Source: news.ntv.co.jp
In the survey, 77.4% of women and 65.6% of men believed that women's wishes should be respected whether or not to choose a painless delivery
Since it is the mother herself who risks her life and endures pain to give birth, it makes sense to leave the decision of whether or not to choose a painless delivery in the hands of the mother.
The popularity of painless delivery is long and difficult
On the other hand, although the ideology of society is changing, the prevalence rate of painless childbirth has not increased significantly, mainly due to some objective reasons.
For healthcare facilities, the introduction of painless delivery entails a considerable cost burden. In addition to this, the shortage of anesthesiologists is also an unsolvable problem.
Painless delivery requires specialized anesthesia knowledge and high-level skills, and there may be situations that require complications to be dealt with, so it is difficult for medical institutions without anesthesiologists with specialized knowledge to provide painless delivery services, and there are relatively few institutions that can provide painless delivery.
Source: madameriri.com
The high cost of painless delivery is also a major factor affecting the penetration rate.
Source: news.ntv.co.jp
According to the survey, 60.6% of women and 48.5% of men believe that the cost of painless childbirth is too high and the burden is heavy.
In general, the cost of a normal natural delivery is about 500,000 yen, and on top of that, a painless delivery can cost an additional 100,000 to 150,000 yen.
Source: news.ntv.co.jp
As a country with a severely aging population, Japan has made a lot of efforts to encourage childbearing. Since last year, the "maternity subsidy" has been increased to 500,000 yen, which can cover most of the cost of childbirth.
However, in addition to the cost of childbirth, regular check-ups, amniocentesis, non-invasive DNA testing and deformity during pregnancy, as well as postpartum care, etc., are done in different hospitals, and the price fluctuation will be relatively large, and there may be additional expenses ranging from hundreds of thousands.
Therefore, when the medical conditions allow and the economic foundation can meet the conditions for painless delivery, there are only two people who decide whether the mother can use painless, one is the doctor, and the other is the mother herself.
First myself, then my wife and mother
Returning to the incident itself, the reason why Ikuta Douzhen ruined the popularity of passers-by is that he didn't realize that his speech was faintly a kind of machismo, and this is not a manifestation of Japanese society in microcosm?
Naturalization after marriage requires a change of surname and a husband's surname. Did you know that there is a word in Japan called "Kotobukisha"? When a woman voluntarily quits her job because of a happy event such as getting married and having a child, and goes back to become a full-time housewife, it is called "Shou Retirement Society".
In the past, most women in Japanese society would choose to become full-time housewives after marriage, while men were responsible for working hard to earn money outside the home. "Outside the male lead, the female lead inside" seems to have become a social discipline.
Source: saita-puls.com
Nowadays, although dual-income families are becoming more and more common with the awakening of women's consciousness, the phenomenon of retirement still exists.
There is no clear data on the percentage of employees who have retired due to "longevity". For reference, the 2022 Employment Trend Survey conducted by the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare showed that 13.4% of women and 8.9% of men left their jobs for personal reasons such as marriage, childbirth, or caring for family members. In terms of gender, the proportion of women is significantly higher.
Source: hataractive.jp
Popular actresses in the Japanese entertainment industry who are popular and quit the circle after getting married abound.
21-year-old Momoe Yamaguchi put down the microphone on the stage of Nippon Budokan, retired to get married, and said that he wanted to be a qualified wife.
Source: jisin.jp
After Tomoko Yamaguchi won the Best Actress Award at the Japanese Drama Academy Award for "Long Vacation", she retired to become a housewife at the peak of her career.
Source: fod.fujitv.co.jp
One of the four little flowers of the Japanese drama that year, Maki Horikita, who had an unlimited future, gave birth to a child after marriage and retired with electric shocks.
Source: hypebeast.com
When Kana Nishino was in the heat of her career, she announced that she would leave the music scene indefinitely and marry someone outside the circle.
Source: vivi.tv
Before becoming a mom, you are yourself first, then your wife and mother.
For them, giving is not a matter of course, but at the expense of their own careers, they have made trade-offs and compromises, and the family has been perfected.
Perhaps for them, a pure family life can make them happy and satisfied, in fact, it is also worth blessing.
※ The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of Nippon Street.
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