As elders, people always want to pass on their experience and wisdom to the next generation. However, there are some things that should be said with caution when communicating with grandchildren. Otherwise, it may have a negative effect on them.
In particular, the following words should be hidden in the depths of my heart rather than said to my grandchildren. Let's take a look at the specific content of these words.
The first sentence, the words of the parents who criticize the child. Parents play an important role in their children's growth and are also the sun in their children's hearts. As elders, we should respect our children's parents and avoid blaming them for their inadequacies in front of our children.
Whatever is bad about parents, they should communicate privately instead of complaining in front of their children. This behavior not only destroys the relationship between the child and the parents, but also confuses the child. In severe cases, it may also trigger negative emotions in the child. In addition, often talking about family members behind our backs will also reduce the child's good impression of us.
The second sentence is to speak ill of your in-laws. Whether it is grandparents or grandparents with grandchildren, they will complain a little about their in-laws while working hard. However, even if we are angry again, we can't denigrate the bad of our in-laws in front of our children. Not only does this exacerbate family conflicts, but it does nothing good.
On the one hand, children are very good at learning and imitating, and anything you say that is not nice can be said by the child. On the other hand, complaining can also make children feel unwelcome and very detrimental to their physical and mental health.
The third sentence is negative and pessimistic. The elderly have indeed lived a lifetime, and have seen too much of the hot and cold world, and they will have some negative and pessimistic thoughts in their hearts. However, these ideas should be known to themselves, and they are not suitable for passing on to the next generation.
In front of children, we should show optimism and a positive attitude towards life, and encourage them to face life's challenges bravely, rather than making them feel fearful and hopeless.
As the elders of the family, no matter what we think in our hearts, we should show a positive and optimistic attitude towards our grandchildren, only in this way can we give them the right guidance. Saying something negative or negative and pessimistic often can be a disaster for children.
The fourth sentence is patriarchal rhetoric. Although we have now entered the age of civilization, the erroneous idea of preference for sons over daughters still exists. This kind of thinking is extremely detrimental to the growth of the next generation. For example, it can lead to a lack of self-confidence in girls and an overly arrogant attitude in boys. Therefore, elders should respect each child and avoid expressing patriarchal views in front of them.
Therefore, when communicating with grandchildren and grandchildren, we should choose topics carefully and avoid passing on bad information. Only through positive guidance and the transmission of correct values can the next generation grow up healthily and become people with a sense of responsibility, love and responsibility.