#头条创作挑战赛#
Lu Gongshu once incisively elaborated: "If you want to be a square circle, you must follow the rules, and the work of everything will naturally be revealed." ”
The country has its laws, the family has its norms, and the first thing to do in the world is to be well versed in the rules.
In the growth process of a family or even an individual, the lack of wealth is not the most worrying thing, the real horror is the lack of guidance and restraint of rules. The challenges and dilemmas faced by families or individuals without rules can be called real disasters.
Drinking to see character
As the saying goes, "Wine is less than a thousand cups of confidants, and there are more than half a sentence of speculation", and the wine table is like a mirror, reflecting the true face of human nature. In this square inch of land, people are pushing cups and changing lamps, and the most primitive temperament is often difficult to hide.
On the occasion of the Spring Festival of a certain year, Chen Daoming and other leaders in the literary and artistic circles gathered together to share the joy of reunion. As the alcohol grew stronger, so did the mood of the crowd. In this warm atmosphere, Chen Daoming couldn't help but play the piano with his hands, and the melodious sound of the piano resonated with the affectionate interpretation of "Velvet Flower" by a female singer, which was fascinating.
During the banquet, someone took advantage of the wine to propose that the actress Miao Miao, who had played a role in "Fanghua", dance, to add more joy.
As soon as this proposal came out, everyone echoed it, however, in the midst of the applause, only Chen Daoming spoke calmly: "First of all, Miao Miao, as a professional actor, is not suitable to perform this kind of dance on this occasion; Moreover, she is wearing high heels at the moment, which is really immobile. ”
Chen Daoming's move was not incomprehensible, but he knew that the person who proposed this proposal was only a whim, so he persuaded him politely, which not only avoided the embarrassing situation for the actress, but also took care of the faces of everyone present.
Wine is character, and the interaction between wine banquets is important in moderation. The toast should be enjoyable for both the guests and the host, and the wine should be harmonious and pleasant, and must not be difficult for others, otherwise it may be regarded as a bad character.
At the wine table, respecting others and grasping the sense of proportion is the key to showing good character.
Gift giving
As the saying goes: "Sending goose feathers thousands of miles is light but carries deep friendship." This allusion reveals the deep emotional value behind the act of giving.
In 2004, under the vision of the famous director Feng Xiaogang, Wang Baoqiang became an instant hit with the movie "No Thieves in the World". At the banquet to celebrate the success, the careful Wang Baoqiang noticed that Director Feng frequently left the table to go to the bathroom, so he mustered up the courage to ask: "Director Feng, do you frequently go to the toilet due to stomach discomfort?" Feng Xiaogang responded calmly, and said with a smile that it was indeed caused by poor stomach.
In order to thank Director Feng for his cultivation, Wang Baoqiang deliberately returned to his hometown in Hebei, personally selected and carried more than 100 catties of millet and 20 catties of selected jujubes, and traveled a long distance to the door of Feng Xiaogang's mansion to express his gratitude.
Although for Director Feng, who is worth billions, this 100 catties of millet may not be a rare treasure, it is this simple and unpretentious gift that carries Wang Baoqiang's sincere and grateful heart, which is particularly precious.
The connotation of giving gifts is far more than the material itself, but also the way to convey the warmth and courtesy of the world. The real gift is not simply the value of the object, but the sincere emotion that comes from the heart.
The more emotionally intelligent people are, the more they can perceive people's hearts and send gifts to the softest place in the other person's heart. When a gift conveys the true meaning of this affection, the relationship will naturally become more intimate as a result.
Eat and see upbringing
Chekhov once profoundly pointed out: "True upbringing is not to be polite when you eat, but to be able to be quiet and tolerant when others accidentally spill the soup." ”
At the dinner table, people often take off their guards and return to their most natural and relaxed state. At this time, the details of the gestures are like a mirror, reflecting the most real and imperceptible inner qualities of the individual.
Zeng Guofan, a famous minister who held a high position as the governor of Liangjiang, often had fellow villagers seek refuge and seek opportunities to seek common causes. Among them, there is a fellow villager who said that he was born in poverty, was willing to endure hardships, and was determined to serve the dogs and horses of Zeng Guofan.
Hearing this, Zeng Guofan felt his sincerity and simplicity, so he invited him to have a meal for further investigation.
However, after that seemingly ordinary meal, Zeng Guofan made a surprising decision - he ordered someone to give him silver taels, and politely refused the countryman's request to stay.
Faced with the doubts of others, Zeng Guofan explained: Although this person claimed to have a difficult life, during the meal, he pickily removed the grain husks from the bowl one by one. This move reveals the falsehood of his words and the truth that he is actually unable to endure the hardships of life.
Through a meal, it is enough to gain insight into a person's essential temperament. Between eating, whether it is the attitude towards food or the subtle movements of using tableware, all of them show the individual's cultivation and personality pattern.
Therefore, when confronting people at the dinner table who are not well-behaved and uncultivated, it is wise to keep a proper distance as soon as possible.