Dostoevsky said: "What do people fear most? They are most afraid of taking a new step, and they are most afraid of their own new ideas. ”
When faced with life's difficulties, people are often unable to make changes.
In reality, there are only people who have not figured it out, and there is no road that cannot be taken. The key to unlocking many of life's dilemmas often lies in changing a trick.
In a sense, the more a person can make up his mind to change his or her life, the greater the chance of being able to change the status quo. Because what changes your fate is often not the opportunity you face, but the way you choose to solve the problem.
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When faced with life's difficulties, look for love
When life is in a difficult situation, it is especially easy to be full of powerlessness and become depressed. At this time, instead of escaping and spending the days in a mess, it is better to find opportunities to live a wonderful life.
In the latest list of members of the Chinese Writers Association, Wang Jibing, the "takeaway poet", is on the list.
In addition to the contrast between the two identities of "delivery man" and "poet", there is also the simple words in his poems, which quickly resonate with the general public.
"Drive out the wind from the air, drive out the knife from the wind, drive out the fire from the bones, drive out the water from the fire, there are no four seasons for people in a hurry, only one station and the next stop......" This poem that made Wang Jibing "out of the circle" - "People in a hurry", has exhausted the hardships of countless delivery workers.
But in Wang Jibing's view, the job of a delivery boy is easier than his past work of scooping sand, picking up rags, and setting up stalls for a living.
Although the body travels on the road every day, the mind can wander in poetry. No matter how tired he was every day, he never gave up writing.
For him, in the most difficult times of life, writing was the only thing that brought joy to his heart.
Balzac once said: "Misery is a stepping stone for genius, a fortune for the able, and an abyss for the weak." ”
In the face of suffering, the cowardly succumb to fate, and the brave change their fate with perseverance and courage.
Adversity is not the end, but a turning point for a better outcome.
Finding love in difficulties and sufferings can nourish our lives and hearts, and give us the strength to wade through the bitter sea of life, which will eventually make us become a different version of ourselves.
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When you are stuck in negative emotions, know how to control them
A survey showed that 75% of cervical spine pain, 80% of headaches, 99% of bloating, and 90% of fatigue are caused by negative emotions. It can be seen that long-term continuous negative emotions not only have an impact on the body, but also seriously damage mental health.
Busy life and work consume too much of our energy, and it is easy to fall into negative emotions, which makes people feel helpless and hopeless.
Teacher Xue Zhaofeng once said: "Mentality affects the output of every second. ”
In the variety show "Heartwarming Offer", at the beginning of the interview, intern Li Chen was questioned by the interviewer that there was very little law-related information in his resume and his lack of professional ability, which made his mood very low.
Affected by his emotions, Li Chen's performance after that was also extremely poor, and he didn't know where to start with the task, and he was even stuck after only writing a title. Even though he withstood the pressure and stayed up late to prepare for the battle, the results of the assessment were still ranked last.
This made Li Chen fall into self-doubt, and he couldn't help crying in front of coach Lawyer Chai.
For every newcomer entering the workplace, facing a high-pressure work environment, high expectations, limited work experience and other factors will lead to negative emotions.
Mr. Chai used his own experience to guide Li Chen to take a correct view of the setbacks in front of him, whether good or bad, and fully accept what is happening at the moment. As long as you work hard and persevere enough, you will get closer and closer to your goal.
With these words, Li Chen was no longer troubled by emotions, regained his confidence, and changed his perception of his judgment. Through unremitting efforts, his confidence and confidence in the mock court assessment and the final interview have been fully affirmed by the tutors.
Whether at work or in life, you need to know how to stop losses in time, get rid of negative emotions as soon as possible, and don't let negative energy drag down your life.
Sometimes, when you feel embattled, if you can stabilize your emotions, not be swayed by the outside world, cut off all dependencies and excuses, play your best without distractions, and have the mentality of breaking the boat, it is possible to achieve a Jedi counterattack.
Be able to deal with anything calmly and not let your emotions get out of control.
If a person can't get out of negative emotions, he is a prisoner everywhere.
There is no need to pursue perfection excessively, and there is no need to care about the eyes of others, and there is no need to lose your true self in order to meet the expectations of society.
Only by letting go of the burden can we move forward easily.
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When trapped in the past, have the courage to break through
There are two sides to everything, experience is wealth on the one hand, but it is also a burden.
Experienced people are often handy in dealing with people. If we ignore the law of development and apply experience, we will sometimes run across.
There is such a plot in the popular TV series "Flowers" some time ago.
The Walmart jeans order is Ms. Wang's first order after leaving the foreign trade company. At the same time, my uncle was also eyeing this order, relying on his influence in the industry, and tried his best to block it, hoping that Miss Wang would not be able to find a processing factory near Shanghai and withdraw from the competition.
Miss Wang was not willing to show weakness, she was reluctant to seek the near and far, and drove from Shanghai to Shenzhen to find a factory to process on her behalf. Unexpectedly, facing the Chinese New Year again, factory workers need to work overtime to complete the task on time, which leads to the processing cost of the product doubling.
People who are familiar with the foreign trade industry, according to the previous cost accounting method, the cost of processing is very high, and everyone thinks that Miss Wang's order must be lost, and they have persuaded Miss Wang to quit.
However, Ms. Wang did not look for a way out in her past experience, but with her understanding and sensitivity of the operation of the foreign trade industry, she predicted the policy changes in the foreign exchange market and proposed to settle in US dollars, so that she made money, which made her peers look at her with admiration.
The English poet Coleridge once said, "Experience is like the tail light of a ship, illuminating only the voyage that has already been sailed." ”
In reality, it is easy to be bound by past experiences, both for fear of missing out on opportunities and for fear that it will be difficult for you to break through.
In fact, in the face of any choice, do not blindly cling to what you are good at, blindly confident in past successes, but have the courage to jump out of your comfort zone, withstand pressure, meet challenges, and open up new horizons.
Only by reducing the over-reliance on experience, updating one's cognition in a timely manner, maintaining an empty cup mentality, and maintaining a keen sense of the development of things, can we move forward, harvest real growth, and transform into a new self.
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Everyone's life is always similar, and it is destined to experience all kinds of ups and downs, ups and downs.
When you are in a difficult situation, find something you are passionate about and relieve the pressure of adversity.
When faced with negative emotions, we must know how to control and withdraw from ourselves, and maintain a stable and happy mood.
When dwelling on past experiences, have the courage to step out of your comfort zone and face the uncertainty ahead.
Broaden the boundaries of cognition, be good at changing perspectives, and improve the pattern in your heart, so as to let yourself live a life of wanton freedom.
About the author: Leaning on the railing, I like to look at the distance by the railing, read other people's stories, and reflect on my own life.