I told you before that we are afraid and anxious because we have a very strong desire to control the unknown, and if you want to control your future, you will be anxious about not being able to control the future.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
There is a saying that the more you fear, the more you will come.
Many people are afraid of the betrayal of the other half, and the result is that the betrayal of the other party is really ushered in.
This statement is not based on any science, but it is also a kind of fuzzy data accumulated by society, which is also very referential.
There are so many people, in ordinary life, is a very nourishing person, there is no problem, and they can easily adjust their state, etc., once they enter an intimate relationship, the whole person begins to suffer from gains and losses, and begins to become less secure, always worried that the other party will betray him.
It's the equivalent of walking on a road with clear skies, and you're always worried about rain, so you're nervous all day long, and you run home at the slightest hint of trouble, which is very tiring and meaningless.
I'll tell you a little bit more about philosophy, and you can refer to it.
In fact, the probability of any thing happening is large or small, and the key lies in what you choose to believe.
Let's say before you go out, you check the weather forecast and make sure it's sunny today. Then you are very worried, you change a lot of software to check, and find that it shows that the sky is clear, and then you first poke out your head, look at the bright sun, and make sure that there are no dark clouds in the sky. At the same time, you also lick the air and identify the ingredients that are not wet.
Eventually, you're finally ready to go out, but you're still afraid of a sudden rainstorm, because it's hard to say what will happen in the next second.
At this time, we can basically conclude that the probability of not raining is basically close to 100%, so let's assume that it is 99%, and the remaining 1% will rain.
But now you're worried about the one percent, and you don't care about the 99 percent, so you deserve to be so scared.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
We all know that it is difficult to have 100% purity in this world, because it is difficult to ensure that there are no impurities in this process. But as long as the purity is high enough, you can use it when you need it.
In the same way, when used in the relationship between the sexes, although the human heart is floating, it can also be said that there is a probability that the other party may not love you anymore and immediately forget about you. But the probability of such a occurrence is very small, even if the other party says that they broke up, they can't immediately say that they have no feelings for you, so many people are always worried that the other party will not love them immediately, purely because of their own worries.
Thinking from the perspective of probability, it also gives you two directions:
1. Accidents happen to everything, so your attempt to control your relationship is not in line with the actual situation, and sometimes in order to calm your heart, you have to give your relationship a certain margin for error.
2. Basically, in our lives, the judgment of things depends on high probability, not small probability. If you are very anxious and internal, then you should think in a higher dimension, do not stare at the small probability and worry there, but focus on the overall situation, knowing that the high probability may be the truth of the matter.
To give a very simple example, many people are worried that their ex will have a new love after breaking up, in principle, if you have really loved, you will not find one so quickly, this is a high probability. If you understand this in your heart, you will feel a lot less anxious.
Xiaoyu said to redeem
Finally, the essence of the relationship lies in the experience, the happiness of experiencing two people together is greater than the happiness of a person's life, when you keep internal friction for this relationship, in fact, it has deviated from the essence of the relationship between the sexes, at this time you can think, this, is it really what you want?
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