In fact, the blind date corner mentions the condition of this thing, which has existed for a long time, that is, when it is recorded at first and re-watched, it is still easy to touch people's fragile nerves.
What did the male blogger hear when he went?
"Is the hukou up, and the house is not there?" Those three no products. ”
"We just don't have a house, so we ask the boys to have it."
"She's 7,000 a month, but she's a nurse and she's stable."
"Jing'an women do not marry Yangpu men"
What did the female blogger hear when she went?
"If you don't have children, you don't have to marry your husband"
"You can find it by removing the childless"
"Happy to death guys, he's not responsible"
On the one hand, male friends indignantly complain that now female friends have high requirements and a high starting point, and the other is that female friends drag the burden of high education and cannot marry out at half an age. The establishment of the blind date angle is inherently an anxiety, this is an era of anxiety, and everything you want is the other side of fear.
I have such a friend, maybe everyone around there may be such a child, she is in a small company to do design, the basic salary is not high, but it is linked to the number, that is, the more pieces you do, the more wages you can get, in fact, it is quite easy to work, in a small company, there is no performance pressure, no quantity requirements, small city life is strange and moist.
But she can't, almost 30 years old, no boyfriend, hometown in the middle of the small countryside, talked about boyfriends, not much, but more or less because of her family reasons left her, and her peers are either married, to be uneasy and reassuring to wait for the boyfriend to earn money to support the family, she is still struggling for the small city house, just to have a place to stay here.
So she can only go to pick up orders from other departments of the company, do everything, and after leaving the company after work, she starts to take on work from other places, without any fun in the process, let alone a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, and processes pictures every day, tired and numb.
There is indeed more money, but people are emaciated, followed by her original lively spirit.
We are all too anxious, everyone is chasing the optimal solution, and of course you have to work hard to fight for what you want, but if we are no longer trying to get it, but anxious for the fear of not getting it, naturally, it will only become more and more depressed.
I am also a member of the social animals, working hard for my family and life. There have also been seen retrograde by the traffic police stopped crying bicycle boys, direct emotional loss of control, tear glands bursting the embankment, is it mental disorder or arrogance? This man who has just graduated from work for a few years, on the one hand, works overtime until eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening every day, and on the other hand, his girlfriend forgets to bring the key when he comes home, urging him to go home to deliver the key, and he has to temporarily put down his work to deliver the key.
Encountering work, girlfriends at both ends of the urge is already irritable enough, did not expect to be in order to hurry retrograde, but also stopped by the traffic police. After he called to explain his situation, like a balloon that had been inflated by an air pump, he suddenly encountered a needle. He erupted, "I'm really annoyed... I'm so stressed..."
Girls who will not cry backwards, because they did not catch the takeaway brother who was badly evaluated, they are actually anxious people, this is an impetuous era, this is also an era of anxiety.
Although some idealization, as an adult is not anxious, unrealistic, everyone is carrying a family or life, how can it not be anxious?
Anxiety is too much, it is not realistic, if you have been suppressing your own full of resentment, we are like a spring, and it is easy to be crushed if you are tight all the time.
They are all too radical. Reflect in peace, moderate anxiety, find joy in life in anxiety. When you are wrapped in the torrent of life and run wildly, we should look at life itself and take the next road.
Cherish life, respect choice, and do not complain about others.
Recognizing reality, but still looking for meaning and trying to live, this is probably part of our lives.