Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
Love is actually very complicated, and people's hearts are even more unpredictable.
Sometimes, although we can feel that the other person seems to be a little different, we just can't say what has changed.
Especially a man, if he wants to leave you, he usually doesn't say it directly, but hints at you through some behavior.
For example, he used to reply to your messages in seconds, but now he waits a long time to reply, or he doesn't reply at all. In the past, he would always take the initiative to ask you out, but now he always says that he is busy and has no time.
At this point, you have to keep a snack, and he may already be hinting to you that he wants to leave.
Generally speaking, if a man wants to leave, he will give you the following "signal", don't pretend not to see it.
01
busy
When a man always uses "busy" as an excuse to avoid you, you should be alert.
He may be really busy, but if he used to always find time to spend with you, but now he always rejects you on the grounds that he is busy, it is worth pondering.
As the saying goes, "Time is like water in a sponge, as long as you are willing to squeeze it, there will always be it." ”
Time can be arranged and adjusted, and if a man really cares about you, he will find a way to make time.
Therefore, "busy" should never be an excuse for men to alienate you.
For example, a man used to find time to watch a movie with you every week, but in recent months, he has always said that he is too busy with work to even have time for a phone call.
This sudden "busyness" will make you feel uneasy. At this point, you should figure out whether the man is really busy or preparing for a breakup.
02
cold
Indifference is actually a very dangerous signal in the relationship.
If a man shows coldness or even ignorance for your every word and deed, it is most likely that he has lost interest in the relationship.
Shakespeare once said, "Love is blind, and lovers do not see the lovely silly things they do." ”
But when love fades, blindness will also follow, leaving only indifference.
For example, in the past, no matter what you said, he would listen carefully, and if he told a joke, he would laugh out loud.
But now, no matter how hard you try to make him happy, he just responds coldly, and even finds you annoying.
This kind of indifference often also represents the boredom of you in his heart.
03
change
When a man's attitude, words and deeds, or habits change significantly, it is actually a sign that he wants to leave you.
This change may be sudden or subtle, but it is worth being wary of.
Aristotle once said, "What we do day in and day out determines who we are." Therefore, the so-called excellence does not refer to behavior, but to habits. ”
If a man's habits suddenly change, it means that his heart has also changed.
It's like, your boyfriend used to always like to cook and watch movies with you. But recently, he suddenly lost interest in these, was reluctant to be with you, and even started going out alone without telling you where he was.
So behind this change, it is usually that he doesn't care so much about this relationship.
04
compare
If a man often mentions other women in front of you, or intentionally or unintentionally, he always compares you with them, it probably means that his feelings for you have wavered.
He may have started looking for a new target, or he may have become dissatisfied with you.
Albert Einstein once said, "Comparison is a thief who steals pleasure." ”
When a man starts to make "comparisons" in front of you, he may not care so much about you in his heart.
Because, a man who really cares about you will not hurt your self-esteem in this way, let alone destroy the relationship between you in this way.
05
forget
Forgetting important days, forgetting appointments with you, forgetting your feelings, this is the most obvious sign that a man wants to leave you.
Occasional forgetting, we can understand, and we don't have to worry about it. But if this happens often, it's not just a bad memory.
As the saying goes, "nobles forget things". But if a man always forgets the agreement with you, it means that your status in his heart is not as good as before.
Busy, cold, change, compare, forget, when these five words appear, it is very likely that the man wants to leave you.
In this case, it doesn't mean that the man will definitely leave, but we also have to take it seriously.
For example, try to communicate with him, understand his real thoughts and feelings, etc. Instead of letting it go, when he is really leaving, it will be too late.