Source|Ziqiao Desk Author|Ziqiao Lanlan
I saw such a question and answer on Zhihu: "What kind of marriage is the happiest?" A high praise replied: "It's not about respecting each other, and it's not about raising eyebrows." It's that every time I see him, my heart is happy, and every time I think of him, a warm current wells up in my heart. "Before marriage, I enjoyed the romantic passion under the moon before the flowers; What is more needed after marriage is a long stream of water and a husband and wife are concentric. In the book "A Good Marriage Is Fatal, A Bad Marriage Is Fatal", it is said that marriage is not only happiness, but also happiness between two people, and life and death. It is also a test, an ordeal, a disruption of familiar life and the establishment of a new model. The ups and downs on the road of life, the ups and downs of life, and no matter how strong the relationship is, it needs to be enriched in marriage. A rich marriage makes life more enjoyable and makes the relationship between husband and wife more stable and long-lasting. Do the following three things to enrich your marriage, enhance your sense of happiness, and enjoy the joy of family.
Praise the praise between lovers and husbands and wives, so that trivial life is more warm. Often praise your lover's marriage, and life is as sweet as honey. The married life of the famous writer Ba Jin and his wife Xiao Shan was once a model for those around them. As a wife, Xiao Shan never skimped on her admiration and praise for Ba Jin. She is not only Ba Jin's best helper, but also often uses words of praise to encourage Ba Jin to be strong in the face of hardship. In many difficult times, his wife's praise for Ba Jin has been the main motivation for him to keep writing. It is precisely because of the praise of his lover that Ba Jin lived a happy and sweet life in his lifetime. Later, Xiao Shan died of illness, and Ba Jin wrote in "Remembering Xiao Shan": She is a part of my life, and her ashes contain my tears and blood. It can be seen that the two have a deep relationship, and how important his wife who once praised him is in Ba Jin's heart.
A marriage full of praise leads to true happiness. Don't be stingy with praise for your lover, because only the lover is the one who accompanies you to the end. A netizen posted that after getting married, I never hesitated to praise my husband in person. Even if he washes an extra dish or reaches out to fold an extra piece of clothing, I will praise him for his dedication to his face. Every time he praises, the netizen's husband will work harder and have no complaints. It turns out that proper praise for the other half is the lubricant in life. Complimenting a loved one is also another form of expressing love. Sigmund Freud said: Man can defend against the attacks of others, but he is powerless to praise others. The deepest principle of human nature is that it needs the praise of others, and the lover in marriage needs the praise of his partner even more. In this way, the relationship between husband and wife can be as sweet as silk, and the married life will be more stable and happy.
Speaking humor: A psychological study in the United States shows that couples with the same sense of humor are more likely to fall in love and get along with each other. Speaking humorously is a skill, and most people who speak humorously in marriage have a loving relationship between husband and wife and a harmonious family atmosphere. Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu, who are known as models in the literary world, have added a lot of humor to their married life. Often use humorous speech to resolve conflicts in life. Once, two people talked about exercise. Qian Zhongshu began to give an example and said: Every time a guest comes to the house, I am the first to run to open the door. When Yang Jiang heard this, this was her husband proving to herself that he was very diligent. Then he pretended to be angry and said: Since you wrote "The Siege", I have taken care of all the housework, even if my face is smoked, I have never complained. Of course, Qian Zhongshu also understood that his wife was taking the opportunity to complain to him. He humorously told Yang Jiang that because I was in a hurry to write "The Siege" to you, I didn't have time to do housework.
This said that the small flame that Yang Jiang had just burst out extinguished, and the two happily discussed "Siege" again. In the face of housework in daily life, there will inevitably be times when husband and wife quarrel with each other. Learning to solve problems in a humorous way will be more effective in preventing family conflicts from escalating. As Stephen Hawking said, life would be a tragedy if it wasn't interesting. A boring marriage tastes the same as chewing wax. A marriage full of humor makes life more colorful. On the contrary, if you often speak on fire, directly, it can also lead to a rapid split in the marriage. reminds me of a marriage mediation show I watched before.
An ordinary couple can calmly tell their grievances at first; But when it comes to marriage issues, it is unanimously stated that the other party is too ugly to listen to and does not know how to take care of his feelings. The wife complained that her husband was not considerate enough and spoke badly.
The husband dislikes his wife for speaking harshly and not being gentle enough.
At the end of the day, neither of them will speak well.
When encountering things, talking will not turn around, causing the conflict between husband and wife to escalate.
In the end, the relationship between their husband and wife became worse and worse, and they could not feel happy in life. As the saying goes: humor is a lifebuoy in the waves of life.
Talking well to your lover and saying humorous words is wisdom and cultivation.
A marriage with humor makes the husband and wife more affectionate.
In the caring lover movie "Wu Wen Xidong", Xu Bochang has a glacier-like face to his wife Liu Shufen all the year round, and he has never taken the initiative to care about his wife. Even the toothbrush and lunch box are used separately, and they have been living a nominal married life.
Xu Bo is always amiable to all outsiders, but he does not have the slightest care and warmth for his wife. Liu Shufen, who couldn't feel her husband's care and love, finally chose to end this married life that made her depressed. walked into marriage with sweetness and expectation, but ended up disappointed and heartbroken. A marriage without love and care is like a world without fireworks, and sooner or later it will fall apart. The care of a lover is an affirmation of spending the rest of your life together and a proof of love. is like colleague Xiao Zheng, a famous "wife slave". My wife's words are "holy decrees", and I have never seen him impatient. Usually at home, Xiao Zheng always shush his wife and ask for warmth. When eating, ask what the dish tastes like, whether it fits the taste, whether the dish is hard or not; Which dish is easy to digest, you can eat more. During the dinner party at the unit, Xiao Zheng also called from time to time to ask his daughter-in-law if she was tired from work today? Wait for me to get back and give you a massage; Have you eaten well in the evening, wait until I go back and bring you something delicious. Every time others teased him, Xiao Zheng always smiled and said that husband and wife are the closest people in the world besides parents and children. Yes, two people who are not related by blood walk into this family together, and what they need is more care like relatives. In this way, the marriage can be better nourished. Xiao Zhang, who seems to be usually honest, didn't expect to live so soberly and transparently, and when it comes to marriage, it is the truth. Later, Xiao Zhang's family was also rated as a county-level model family because of the love between husband and wife and the good management of marriage.
Not only did they earn a good reputation, but the couple also became more affectionate. There will also be an emotional account between couples. Every time you care for each other a little more, you will be a little happier. Always care for your lover in your marriage and let your life be full of love. Only when husband and wife care for each other and are considerate can the relationship be kept fresh forever and the marriage will last forever.
▼ Schopenhauer said: Love is the process of marriage, and marriage is the purpose of love. From beautiful and romantic love, into the dull and tedious married life; The test on the long road of marriage is the love and understanding between husband and wife and the careful maintenance of marriage. In marriage, the attitude towards the lover determines the degree of marital happiness. A good relationship needs to be managed with heart, and a sweet marriage needs to be managed with love. A marriage of praise, humor, and care makes the relationship between husband and wife as solid as a rock and makes life full of warmth. I hope you and I can meet the person who can share the wind and rain, love each other, and share the sweetest time in this prosperous world.
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