1. Zhang Boyu regretted leaving the parent-child variety show and exposed the inside story of the estrangement of the father-son relationship
In 2014, Zhang Boyu ushered in a new chapter in his life and formed his own warm family. However, despite having a wife and lovely children, his expectations for his biological father Zhang Fengyi do not seem to have increased because of this, but rather more eager for his father's attention and affirmation.
In order to realize this wish, Zhang Boyu decided to invite his elderly stepfather Sun Haiying and mother Lu Liping to participate in a high-profile "parent-child" variety show. During the recording of the show, stepfather Sun Haiying cared for Zhang Boyu, and the deep relationship between the two moved the audience.
However, behind this seemingly harmonious atmosphere, there is a serious absence of Zhang Fengyi's role as a biological father.
With the broadcast of the show, the audience's attention naturally turned to Zhang Fengyi. They condemned the father on the Internet, accusing him of failing to fulfill his father's responsibilities and lacking love for his biological son.
In the face of such huge pressure from public opinion, Zhang Boyu finally made a shocking decision - to withdraw from the recording of the variety show halfway.
This decision undoubtedly made the breakdown of the relationship between Zhang Fengyi and his son public. The outside world has discussed this a lot, seeing it as ironclad evidence of "father and son centrifugation", indicating that the relationship between the two is gradually estranged and is about to face an irreparable situation.
So, what caused Zhang Boyu to be deeply disappointed in his father? Let's go back to the beginning of the story and find out the truth.
Second, Lu Liping's love marriage has gone through twists and turns, and her son longs for father's love
To delve into the root cause of the breakdown of the relationship between Zhang Boyu and his father Zhang Fengyi, we must start with the birth of Zhang Boyu. In 1987, Zhang Fengyi was still an unknown actor at that time, and when filming the movie "Police in the Year of the Dragon", he met Lu Liping, a hot little flower girl at that time.
Lu Liping has not only won the Golden Rooster and Hundred Flowers Best Supporting Actress awards consecutively, but her family background is far beyond Zhang Fengyi. However, these two people with a deep fate fell in love soon after they met, and quickly entered the marriage hall, and Lu Liping even became pregnant soon after marriage.
This relationship, which was supposed to be full of happiness, began to crack the moment Zhang Boyu landed. Zhang Fengyi's career is in full swing, and he has starred in the leading role of important works one after another, and the husband and wife are busy with work, and the time spent with their children is decreasing, and family conflicts also follow.
What is sad is that Zhang Fengyi fell into the whirlpool of "peach news", which made Lu Liping, who was silently waiting for her family, so distressed that she had to temporarily put down her career and take care of the children wholeheartedly.
After the divorce, Zhang Fengyi's acting career is in full swing, and his new emotional journey is also brilliant. On the occasion of the Lunar New Year in 1994, he included Huo Fan, a beautiful and humble dance teacher, in his marriage hall.
However, for Zhang Boyu's son, his father's remarriage was the beginning of his tragic life.
Zhang Boyu has been looking forward to being close to his father since he was a child, but his father, who is busy with his acting career and has a new family, cannot give him the love he deserves. What makes people sigh so far is that when his son expressed his desire to become an actor to him, Zhang Fengyi responded in such a direct and hurtful way, "Your appearance is not like me, I'm afraid it will be very difficult to be an actor."
3. The father's doubts inspired his son's determination to chase his dreams
Although his father Zhang Fengyi's words were sharp and direct, and even deeply stabbed his son Zhang Boyu's self-esteem, the young man did not give up his dream because of this. On the contrary, his father's doubts strengthened his determination to pursue a career as an actor.
Zhang Boyu was hungry to learn acting skills, and after unremitting efforts, he was finally admitted to the coveted Central Academy of Drama. During his time in school, he worked diligently and constantly sharpened himself, and finally achieved remarkable results on the eve of graduation.
Graduation is imminent, Zhang Boyu told his father with great anticipation, hoping that he can come to watch his graduation drama.
It was supposed to be a great opportunity to bridge the gap between father and son. However, Zhang Fengyi's cold words hit ruthlessly again, and every sentence pierced people's hearts like a sharp knife: "You want to be the leading actor? So what else is there to watch about this drama? In the face of his father's ridicule, Zhang Boyu's heart was full of anger and sadness, and finally gave up the last hope of reconciling with his father.
For Zhang Fengyi, perhaps his words were just casual and not malicious. However, for his son, these straightforward doubts and denials are undoubtedly a heavy blow to his self-esteem and dreams.
However, fate always favors those who are well prepared. After being hurt by his father again and again, Zhang Boyu strengthened his determination to pursue his ideals, and was not crushed by his father's doubts and blows.
Since then, Zhang Boyu has firmly pursued his dream and moved forward! He not only adheres to his self-belief, but also has achieved remarkable results in his acting career! What is particularly noteworthy is that his extraordinary performances in the "Tomb Robbery" and "Ghost Blowing the Lantern" series of films have won warm praise from the audience.
Fourth, the stepmother praised endlessly, and the biological father ignored it coldly
In-depth analysis, we find that the main reason for the breakdown of Zhang Fengyi's father-son relationship is not just Zhang Fengyi's personal conservative concept, but a more serious problem - his imbalance in handling family relationships.
After the divorce, the relationship between Zhang Fengyi and his ex-wife Lu Liping quickly cooled down and fell to the freezing point. He poured all his love and attention into his new wife, Huo Fan, and her daughter.
He takes care of his stepdaughter meticulously, buys a luxury house and gives him a famous car, and is full of happy smiles when he talks about his family.
However, in strong contrast to it, he is indifferent and neglectful of his biological son Zhang Boyu. When asked how to educate children, Zhang Fengyi said frankly, "My principle is laissez-faire."
Indeed, for his son Zhang Boyu, he has always taken an indifferent attitude and does not care.
Some people believe that the failure of Lu Liping and Zhang Fengyi's early marriage may stem from their impulsiveness and hasty decision-making when they were young. However, even so, as a biological father, Zhang Fengyi's alienation and harm to his son is undoubtedly an act that violates human morality.
Seeing that his father cared for his stepdaughter but ignored him, Zhang Boyu suffered huge psychological trauma since he was a child. He longs for his father's love, but he can only bury this desire deep in his heart and taste the true meaning of his father's love alone.
Over time, this estrangement gradually became a shackle of the mind, permanently separating father and son. Later, Zhang Boyu started a family, and although his career was successful, the relationship with his father did not really eliminate the estrangement, but gradually drifted apart.
Fifth, the art world has emerged, but the relationship between father and son has gradually drifted apart
After many hardships, Zhang Boyu finally made remarkable achievements in his acting career. In particular, it is worth mentioning that his wonderful performances in the "Tomb Robbery" and "Ghost Blowing the Lantern" series of movies have won high praise from many audiences, which can be called a debut.
However, just when the career of Zhang Boyu, the son of Qiang Qiang, was in full swing, his father-son friendship with his famous father Zhang Fengyi turned violently like a turbulent river, embarking on the road of irreparable rupture! Nowadays, many viewers have found it difficult to witness the interaction between the two, and there are few signs of them releasing their old suspicions.
The father and son, who were once close, seem to have become strangers.
remembers that back then, in order to be able to participate in that parent-child reality show, Zhang Boyu would rather resolutely give up the mid-term recording, and showed a strong independent will to his famous father Zhang Fengyi without hesitation.
It can be seen that the gap between them has gone deep into the bone marrow and cannot be easily bridged.
Even though time has passed to 2020, Zhang Fengyi suddenly said affectionately in an interview: "I love my son deeply. However, this seemingly sincere sentence is difficult to distinguish in the ears of onlookers, whether it is a true expression of feelings or a forced compromise.
For a long time, the father-son relationship between Zhang Boyu and Zhang Fengyi has been tightly bound by invisible shackles and is out of reach. The father never gave his son real support and love, and the son was extremely disappointed in his father.
Although this gap may one day melt, it will not be easy.
However, it is gratifying that Zhang Boyu was not decadent because of his father's indifference, but worked the road of acting, and finally won his own place. Perhaps, this is the gift of fate to him to make up for the lack of paternal love in his childhood.
Part 6: The Absence of a Father and the Hope for Reconciliation
Looking back on Zhang Fengyi's father's various behaviors, it is really embarrassing. As an actor, his superb acting skills and excellent works can be called flawless, and it can even be said that he is a success.
However, as a father, he left many regrets.
Regarding his son Zhang Boyu's desire to be close and seek recognition, Zhang Fengyi either turned a blind eye to it or directly hurt him. When his son bravely pursued his dreams, he often sneered and ruthlessly extinguished his enthusiasm.
In contrast, Zhang Fengyi, as a stepfather, is very caring and intimate with his stepdaughter. Buying a luxury house, giving away a luxury car, and smiling when talking about family. This completely different attitude undoubtedly brought great psychological trauma to his son Zhang Boyu.
There is no doubt that the reasons behind the breakdown of Mr. Zhang Fengyi and Ms. Lu Liping's marriage are complex. However, even so, as a father, it is undoubtedly against human nature to ignore his own flesh and blood and the harm he has suffered, which is deeply shocking!
However, the exciting thing is that although Mr. Zhang Boyu's relationship with his father is irreparable, he did not become decadent and depressed because of this, but forged ahead in his acting career and finally won his own share of glory, this kind of tenacity and perseverance to pursue his dreams is really valuable!
We can only hope for the future, hoping that with the passage of time, the estrangement between father and son can gradually dissolve and rekindle the flame of family affection in our hearts. Maybe one day, the once estranged father and son can truly understand and care for each other, and regain the family bond that was hurt.