Everyday thoughts
It is said that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a pair of natural enemies, although the society is now open-minded and open-minded, and there is no need to live with in-laws after marriage, but as long as this relationship exists, it is always impossible to avoid all kinds of contradictions.
No, a few years ago, a young couple in our hometown divorced, and the reason was the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In this family, the husband and father-in-law are working in other places, and the daughter-in-law and in-laws are staying at home.
The mother-in-law always wants to interfere in the daughter-in-law's life, and always wants the daughter-in-law to act according to her own wishes, but the daughter-in-law has a different point of view and is unwilling to follow the meaning of the mother-in-law, and the mother-in-law will be angry and even angry.
For example, the mother-in-law wakes up early in the morning, and once she wakes up, she must go to the daughter-in-law's house to clean, regardless of whether the daughter-in-law and the child are sleeping.
The more contradictions accumulate and the more they accumulate, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also got into trouble to the point of a big fight, and finally ended in divorce.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult to handle, but there are also mother-in-law and daughters-in-law who get along well, and in this regard, I agree with He Jiong's point of view: being liked by the mother-in-law is the ability of the daughter-in-law, not the obligation of the mother-in-law.
We will also see such a phenomenon in life, some daughters-in-law are especially happy with their mother-in-law, while some daughters-in-law are always not liked by their mother-in-law.
Although the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is almost inevitable, there are three kinds of daughters-in-law who will have a high status in the in-law's family, and the in-laws do not dare to be embarrassed easily. Let's take a look!
01) Mother's hardness
A hard-hearted mother's family is a woman's confidence to gain a foothold in her in-law's house.
A colleague once quarreled with her husband very fiercely, and when she was angry, her colleague's husband called her colleague's mother and told her mother-in-law: Your girl is spilling with me at home!
After receiving the call, my colleague's mother hurried over, and after listening to what happened, my colleague's mother said: Oh, I understand, you think my girl doesn't speak well, and she didn't talk about your heart, and you two quarreled because of this!
This life is not acting, everyone has a bad mood, my girl also has a bad mood, so let's do it, if you think my girl is not good, I will take it away today, no matter how bad my family conditions are, I will not lack her a bite to eat!
I have to say that my colleague's mother is really amazing, and my colleague's husband immediately became honest after saying this.
After giving birth to a baby, my colleague quit his job and devoted himself to taking care of the baby at home, taking the baby, cleaning up the house, busy chattering every day, occasionally in a bad mood, and it is normal to speak rushing.
If you meet a family member who is quiet, the result may be different.
It is not advocating that the mother's family should be particularly powerful, to bully the mother-in-law's family or go to the mother-in-law's house to make trouble, but at least when the husband and wife have a conflict, the mother's family should stand up and support their daughter.
02) Get your husband
In the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law without gunpowder, if you can get your husband, you can get half of your mother-in-law.
When you are in love, you are excited, but after you get married, you need to have intelligence, emotional intelligence, and means if you want to get the support of your husband.
A friend of mine belongs to the love brain, obeys her boyfriend's words, and lives at her boyfriend's house when she is not married, and her friend will peel crabs and shrimp for her boyfriend during dinner, and wash her boyfriend's feet at night.
Although she has paid so much, her mother-in-law often shows off outside: I am also a daughter-in-law here, and I am in a hurry to serve my son.
Although it is easy to fall in love, it is not easy to get married, and it is not easy to meet a husband who loves you, if the husband and wife have a good relationship, the husband has you in his heart, and always thinks about you, then even if the mother-in-law does not like you, it will not be too difficult for you.
After all, even if your mother-in-law doesn't like you, she won't embarrass her son, after all, there are too few people like the mother-in-law in "Peacock Flying Southeast" in real life.
Just like papi sauce, keep a bowl of soup distance with your mother-in-law, and go home for the New Year to go back to your own home, each looking for your own mother, except for the old people on both sides who met once before marriage, and basically do not interact with each other in the future.
Many people envy this mode of getting along with papi sauce and her mother-in-law, but behind this is not the love of papi sauce's husband?
If your husband cares about you and loves you, you will have the capital to talk about conditions, and you will be able to express your thoughts. Outsiders will think it's good to look at it.
But if the relationship between the husband and wife is not good, and the husband doesn't take you seriously, the in-laws will basically look down on you.
03) Self-conditioning hard
If you don't have a good mother's family, the relationship between husband and wife is average, but as long as you have the ability, your in-laws don't dare to bully you easily, not that your in-laws are afraid of you, but when you have strong ability, you have confidence in your heart.
Just like the way papi sauce and her husband get along, you don't usually have to get along with your in-laws, also because papi sauce itself has good conditions and is tough enough.
So this is a woman's confidence, even if her mother's family can't be relied on, she works hard enough and is strong enough, and she is her own backer.