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Don't neglect the people you love the most when you're working hard outside.
The most touching love story in the world is not that I love you, but that I am always there for you.
01
Every year during the Spring Festival, the migrant worker brothers, who have been busy for a year, have to start again after a short rest at home. Many couples will face the loneliness of living separately.
But this year, I heard a different topic from my hometown.
My uncle told me that many young people in the village would rather earn less money and go back to their hometowns to work, because they want to protect their wives who are left behind, otherwise their wives may become someone else's "second wife" or "village lady".
Today's countryside is less rustic and more complicated. Those traditional fine folk customs are gradually moving away from us with the trend of modern opening up.
As the saying goes, "Rabbits don't eat grass next to their nests". But now some bad rabbits eat the grass by the nest, which makes the husbands of those left-behind women very uneasy and worried all day long.
The boss left him in the company for the New Year, saying that there was a New Year's allowance and three times the salary, but he had to go home for the New Year anyway.
On the twenty-seventh day of the twelfth lunar month, he got on the train back to his hometown, with the clothes he had bought for his wife, children, and parents in his bag.
This year, he bought the most gifts for his wife, because he felt that his wife had suffered too much for the family to stay in the countryside.
The parents are old and sick and need to be cared for, the children are still young and need to be guarded, and there are 5 acres of responsible land to plant. When he arrived home, the family happily had a reunion.
However, he didn't expect that his nephew's words would make a qualitative change in the family.
That day, Hongshuishan went to his brother's house, he gave his six-year-old nephew New Year's money, and the nephew was happy to take the red envelope, and suddenly said softly to Hongshanshui: "Uncle, I'll tell you a secret, you promise not to tell anyone." ”
He said to his nephew, "Okay, promise not to tell anyone." ”
The little nephew told him that his aunt often slept with Uncle Jingshan in the village.
Flood Mountain was stunned when he heard it! Jingshan is a mason, he works as a small bag foreman in the county seat, and he is more than ten years older than him.
Now his family is a relatively wealthy family in the village, and he built a small villa behind the village and bought a car. It is said that many of the left-behind women have a leg with him.
Hongshuishan was worried that such a thing would happen to him, but he didn't expect it to come true! He believed his nephew's words, and children would not lie.
But what he couldn't figure out was that his parents should have known about it, so why didn't they tell him?
When he asked his parents, they repeatedly insisted that there was nothing to do and that they should not listen to nonsense.
When Hongshuishan said that it was his little nephew who told him, his old father said helplessly: What are you going to do?
Flood Mountain said categorically: "Divorce! ”
The old father shook his head and said, "Forget it, son! If you leave, you will have to fight for the rest of your life! You are old and young, who wants to marry you? Now that marrying a woman costs 80,000 yuan as a bride price, can you get it? Speaking of conscience, your daughter-in-law has suffered in the past few years, she has done it alone inside and out, you are not at home all year round, how many young people can survive? I advise you to go back to the county to work, so that you can go home and live every day, although the money is less, but you can take care of the family and reunite your husband and wife. ”
The flood mountain is painful and tangled, and it cannot be faced for a while. After the holiday, he still desperately embarked on the journey back to Fujian to work.
02
There is also a young man named Xinxin in the village who went home for the Spring Festival to get a divorce certificate with his wife.
During the Spring Festival last year, Xinxin did not go home and took his wife to the place where he worked for a reunion.
The little couple hasn't been together for almost a year, and the little couple is newlywed. One day, my wife went to the market to buy vegetables, and was caught by the local person who checked the pregnancy test for the floating population to do a ring pregnancy test, and was found to be pregnant!
When Xinxin received this call and asked him to go to the family planning service station to accompany his wife to have an abortion, Xinxin suddenly collapsed!
He hasn't been with his wife for a year, and his wife must have stayed at home and been "scourged" by others!
Xinxin endured his grief and accompanied his wife to have an abortion.
Three days later, without saying a word, he put his wife on the train to his hometown, and no matter how much she pleaded, he could not swallow the disgusting fly.
In front of his wife, he called his parents-in-law and told them that he was divorcing their daughter!
Later, Xinxin learned that his wife often went to the village chief's house to play mahjong, and someone told him that the village chief had "scourged" his wife. It is said that the village chief has "scourged" many left-behind women.
So, this Spring Festival, what he was waiting for was for the staff of the Civil Affairs Bureau to go to work, divorce the marriage, and then flee the village that gave him nightmares.
It is said that rabbits eat grass by the nest, and the flat mouth in the village eats the grass by the nest, which makes people stunned.
The younger brother is working outside, and he is sticky with his brother and daughter-in-law. After being discovered by his younger brother, the couple eloped.
Later, the woman divorced her husband, but she became a veritable second wife of Bianzui, and Bianzui's younger brother is still single and has to carry a child.
Such a ruin also appeared, and the young people in the village were even more terrified, either going out to work with their wives, or working in the county to protect their wives.
03
A glimpse of the whole leopard can be seen. This kind of thing does not only happen in one village, it has a certain universality in the countryside. Looking at the reports from all over the world, such things are not uncommon.
In a place where women are crowded and men are scarce, villains can also become "idols" for women. "Life News" once reported that the modern "Ximenqing" had an affair with more than ten young women and was beaten to death by the villagers.
The farmer, Du Fenghua, was able to do whatever he wanted with these women because after the men went out to work, the village slowly became a "widow's village".
The strength of the left-behind women could not withstand the impact of a villain, and some left-behind women regarded Du Fenghua, a villain who had always aimed to ravage their bodies, as a mental and physical dependence.
We can't completely blame the depravity of these left-behind women, our society should reflect and reflect, what woman doesn't want her man to be by her side and share her family?
According to a study by China Agricultural University, there are 87 million left-behind people in rural areas across the country, of whom 47 million are left-behind women.
The survey found that the left-behind women implicitly expressed their sexual repression, "They have been in a state of sexual repression for a long time, which also leads to a chain of negative emotions." "69.8 per cent of left-behind women often feel irritable, 50.6 per cent often feel anxious, and 39.0 per cent often feel depressed.
To this end, we have written a number of articles specifically for these 47 million left-behind women, encouraging and cheering for them.
Who turned these 47 million left-behind women into veritable widows?
Of course, it is a system of dual separation between urban and rural areas. So, call them "institutional widows". went to work with her husband, and the children were left unattended, for fear of ruining the children's future and future;
Discipline the children at home, serve the in-laws, and can't enjoy family fun with her husband. Long-term sexual repression makes them irritable and anxious. This is how they endure this painful life.
The heavy physical labor does not seem to be difficult to bear, but what makes it even more unbearable is the long-term sexual repression.
Especially for young women who are in the period of high sexual desire, sexual repression has become a major pain in their emotional life.
Of course, there are 47 million left-behind women who are sexually repressed, and there is another corresponding figure, and their husbands who work outside the home are also sexually repressed.
One is in the city, the other is far away in the countryside of his hometown, living the life of a cowherd and a weaver girl.
During the day, they are busy earning money, and at night, they are very lonely, bored, and can't stand the loneliness, so they go to the young lady.
The journal "Chinese Sexual Science" published the first report on migrant workers in China completed by Zhang Wenwei, deputy director of the Shaoxing Municipal Health Bureau of Zhejiang Province, in which 15.82% of the 800 people he surveyed had received sexual services from "Miss", 24.53% had extramarital sex, 23.9% of migrant workers from other places had sexual repression, and as many as 64.71% had bad emotions and alternative behaviors after sexual repression.
"You can endure any suffering, but lovesickness can't bear it."
The torment caused by sexual repression has led to another social problem - divorce. According to some data, about 80% of the divorce cases occur in the families of migrant workers or businessmen.
Migrant couples have been separated from each other for a long time, and there is a lack of ideological and sexual communication, resulting in emotional estrangement, and it is difficult to maintain the marriage over time.
The left-behind wife has become someone else's "second wife in the village" or "Miss in the country", which has become an important cause of divorce today.
Society is made up of thousands of families, and the breakdown and divorce of families today will of course bring instability to society. Therefore, some migrant workers today choose to stay in their hometowns, protect their wives and families, and prevent their mothers-in-law from becoming "village second wives" and "village ladies", in exchange for another round of migrant labor shortages in coastal areas.
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