Xu Zijun and Gao Yalin: A different "elder" relationship
Judging from Xu Zijun's description of Gao Yalin, this young Miss Xu initially had a deep trust in Mr. Gao, and regarded him as the kind of elder who could be trusted and relied on. Maybe it's the kind of person who will offer to help when you move, or send you a message when you come home late from overtime.
You know, the kind of warmth that makes you feel like there's someone who cares about you in this fast-paced, cold world. However, when Miss Xu discovers that she is just one of Mr. Gao's many suitors, this trust and reliance instantly collapses. You can imagine what a huge psychological gap this is for her, like you are waiting for the bus in the rain, the bus finally comes, and you rush up in ecstasy, only to be told that this is a custom-made luxury bus and you are not on the passenger list.
The WeChat tug-of-war at the end of the variety show
After the variety show was recorded, Gao Yalin tried to add it back to WeChat again, which is more like a realistic version of "If you pull me, I'll run". Imagine that after the recording is over, everyone returns to their own life tracks, but Mr. Gao doesn't seem to want to let go of it, and tries to open the communication channel between the two again by adding back to WeChat.
In Miss Xu's opinion, this move may be like the feeling that when you are determined to work out and eat healthy food, someone brings you a big box of donuts, even if there is still a little joy in your heart, but more firmly refused. For Ms. Xu, this is not only a protection of her own feelings, but also a rejection of Mr. Gao's pursuit behavior.
The transfer is made, what about the feelings?
Gao Yalin's behavior of showing favor to Xu Zijun and transferring money, and Xu Zijun's response, the plot development of this part is simply the embodiment of the modern version of "reward culture" in the emotional field. Mr. Gao's attempt to convey his affection to Ms. Xu by transferring money does not seem to be uncommon in today's social context.
It's like seeing your favorite anchor in the live broadcast room and can't help but order a super rocket for her, although you understand that this does not allow any substantial development between you, but at least at that moment, you feel that you have done something.
However, Miss Xu's response to this was unusually clear and resolute, and she accepted the transfer, but this did not mean that she accepted Mr. Gao's feelings, let alone that there was any improper relationship between the two. It's like you're eating at a restaurant, the waiter serves you well, you tip, but that doesn't mean you're any different.
A public apology, wash or not whitewash?
In the end, Xu Zijun's request for Gao Yalin to publicly apologize to her is undoubtedly the climax of this whole incident. This kind of open approach to private emotions is especially common in today's social media age.
It's like posting a message on Moments, "So-and-so, when will you please for that meal you owe me?" Although it looks like a joke, there is a hint of "you have to give me an explanation" behind it. For Ms. Xu, this may be a way to make Mr. Gao realize his mistakes through publicity, and at the same time, it is also a kind of protection and clarification of his reputation.
Do you have to repay the favor if you collect money?
The criticism of Xu Zijun's acceptance of the transfer is undoubtedly one of the more interesting aspects of the whole incident. It's like when you pick up a penny on the street and you're in a good mood and ready to accept it, and a moral guardian suddenly pops up next to you and tells you, "You know, you should hand over the money." In this case, you may think, "I didn't do anything wrong, so why should I be blamed like this?" The same is true for Miss Xu, who accepted the transfer, but that doesn't mean she has to take any responsibility for it that goes beyond the scope of normal interactions.
summary
In general, the "farce" between Xu Zijun and Gao Yalin is not only a private matter between two people, but also a mirror, reflecting various phenomena in contemporary social interaction. From the establishment and collapse of trust, to the public and private on social media, to the complex relationship between money and affection, this series of events has touched people's deep thinking about interpersonal relationships, emotional communication, social etiquette and other topics.
The heated discussions and various funny comments of netizens on this whole incident also made this incident not only stay on the surface of gossip and curiosity, but also become a collective reflection and discussion of the public's current social culture.