I am a native of Shanghai, 32 years old this year, I have been in love with my husband Xiao Ming for many years, and I have a son and a child after marriage. I am cheerful and optimistic, usually outgoing and like to make new friends. However, sometimes I also have some serious and stingy problems, which makes my husband Xiao Ming often helpless.
Our family of three lives with Xiao Ming's mother, who is my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law was a little prejudiced against us, and always felt that my daughter-in-law was not virtuous enough, and there were many things that were not thoughtful enough in my way of doing things. She often pointed fingers at my way of doing things, and sometimes even went so far as to correct me. Still, in order to maintain family harmony, I tried to be as patient as possible and avoid getting into too many arguments with her.
Lately, my mother-in-law has been extra picky about the way I cook. Once, she watched me chopping vegetables, and suddenly said, "Fangfang, your cutting method is too rusty, the vegetables are cut like this, and the taste must be very rough when you make it later." I was a little annoyed at the time, but I still managed to calm down and responded, "Mom, I'm used to it, so you don't have to worry about it."
One day, I was going to cook a delicious dinner for my family. While preparing the ingredients, my mother-in-law began to point fingers at the side again.
"Fangfang, you cut this green pepper too thickly, it will be very old to eat." My mother-in-law looked at the green pepper I cut and said with a frown.
I was a little displeased, but I still forced myself to explain calmly: "Mom, I just like to cut this thickness, the taste will be better."
"How can you say that, I've been cooking for so many years, how can I not understand?" The mother-in-law obviously didn't buy it and reprimanded.
I had no choice but to swallow my anger again and continue to prepare other ingredients.
When I started cooking, my mother-in-law's pickiness was endless. I first put the meat in the pot and fried it, and my mother-in-law muttered on the side: "Fangfang, what should I do if your fire is too big and the meat is stewed?"
I suppressed the anger in my heart and responded as calmly as possible: "Mom, I just like to fry meat to this extent, it will taste better."
"How could you do that? I've never done that before. "My mother-in-law obviously didn't quite believe me.
Then I started to mix the vegetables, and my mother-in-law said, "Fangfang, your technique is too heavy, and the dishes are going to be spoiled."
I finally couldn't help it, and turned back to my mother-in-law and said, "Mom, that's the way I cook, don't talk about it anymore, okay?" I know you mean well, but if you keep correcting me like this, it's hard for me to cook well. "
As soon as I finished speaking, my mother-in-law's face turned pale, obviously annoyed by my rebuttal. She glared at me angrily and didn't speak for a while. There was a moment of silence in the room.
At this moment, her husband Xiao Ming came back from work. Pushing the door in, he saw the scene of our stalemate, and he was a little confused. "What's going on? What are you arguing about?" He asked, confused.
I was about to explain, but my mother-in-law spoke first, her tone full of anger and disappointment: "Look at your daughter-in-law, I said this for her good, she is good, not only did she not listen to me, but she also replied hard!" I was so disappointed!"
After saying that, she snorted, turned around and left, and slammed the door hard. Suddenly, only Xiao Ming and I were the only two people in the room, looking at each other.
Looking at the back of my mother-in-law leaving angrily, I had mixed feelings in my heart. On the one hand, I finally don't have to be entangled by her, and I have a bad breath for myself; But on the other hand, I also feel guilty and guilty of my own unreasonableness.
Xiao Ming saw my struggle, stepped forward to comfort me, and said, "Don't blame yourself too much, Mom is just a little stubborn, and you didn't mean to hurt her." When she's gone, we'll talk to her again. "
After listening to my husband's explanation, I gradually calmed down and began to reflect on whether I had gone too far. Although my mother-in-law did a little overdone, she had good intentions and hoped that I could make better meals. Maybe I should have communicated with her in a more gentle way instead of retorting her stiffly.
Just as I was reflecting, there were footsteps at the door, and then the figure of my mother-in-law appeared at the door. She looked a little cramped, and seemed to realize that she had gone too far. She paused when she saw us, and then slowly walked in.
"Mom, why are you back again?" Xiao Ming was the first to ask.
Hearing this, I hurriedly stepped forward and said sincerely, "Mom, you don't have to be like this. I was too impulsive, you said that out of kindness, but I stiffened my attitude. I should be humble to listen to your opinion and not rest on my laurels. I will definitely correct it in the future. "
My mother-in-law looked at me and finally a smile appeared on her face. She reached out and patted me on the shoulder, and said earnestly: "The most important thing in being a person and doing things is to learn with an open mind. Only by maintaining a humble attitude at all times can we continue to improve. You and I still have a lot to learn, we must tolerate each other, understand each other, and resolve differences with love, so that the family can be harmonious. "
I nodded, my eyes moistened. My mother-in-law's words really spoke to my heart.
In this way, the three of us met frankly, apologized to each other, and finally re-established a tacit understanding. Since then, my mother-in-law no longer dictates my cooking, but makes suggestions in moderation; I also learned to listen to her with an open mind and try to correct my own shortcomings.
In this way, my mother-in-law and I re-established a tacit understanding of living in harmony. Dinner was also prepared in this congenial atmosphere. When the food was served, the mother-in-law was full of praise: "Fangfang, this meal is really delicious!" It's even better than what I made!"
"Okay, good, mom will definitely guide you carefully." The mother-in-law smiled and nodded.
In this way, we sat happily together and ate dinner as a family. From time to time, Xiao Ming would interject a funny sentence or two to liven up the atmosphere. This is the life we want, where families are happy and love each other.
After dinner, I offered to wash the dishes. The mother-in-law smiled and said, "Okay, okay, Mom won't bother you, you can wash it in your own way."
I smiled and began to wash the dishes in an orderly manner. My mother-in-law sat next to me, glancing at me from time to time, as if to make sure there was nothing to correct in the way I washed the dishes.
After washing the dishes, the three of us sat in the living room and watched TV. Xiao Ming held me in his arms, and I leaned on his shoulder, feeling the warm body fragrance on his body. My mother-in-law sat on the sidelines, looking at our happy appearance, and her face was full of kind smiles.
"Fangfang, you and Xiao Ming are really a good match." The mother-in-law suddenly said, "Mom, I'm so glad you can be so loving. "
I hurriedly said, "Mom, don't praise us." We are dear and grateful to you for your teaching. "
"Wherever you are, you are the ones who know how to repay the kindness." The mother-in-law smiled and waved her hand, "But Mom is honest, you really reassured me." Mom is also old, and she will rely on you to take care of her in the future. "
I hurriedly comforted: "Mom, don't worry." We will serve you well. "
"Well, Mom believes you will." The mother-in-law nodded, her tone revealing infinite relief.
In this way, the three of us say a word to me, and the atmosphere is harmonious and warm. I looked at the side faces of Xiao Ming and his mother-in-law, and my heart was filled with warmth. This is the life I desire, with the love of my lover and the care of my family. As long as we treat each other with love, we will be able to resolve our differences and build a harmonious family.
"Okay, okay, just mom is watching from the side." The mother-in-law nodded, a kind smile on her face.
With the witness of my mother-in-law, I completed every step in an orderly manner and finally made a delicious breakfast. When the food was served, the mother-in-law was full of praise: "Fangfang, you have done a great job!" Mom is much more relieved when she sees you doing it. "
I smiled and said, "Mom, it's all thanks to your guidance." I will definitely continue to study with an open mind in the future. "
"It's enough to have your words." The mother-in-law nodded, a look of relief on her face.
With my mother-in-law's understanding and support, I am more motivated to do housework. Before I knew it, I was getting more and more comfortable with household chores, whether it was laundry, cleaning, or other household chores. Xiao Ming often joked on the side: "Ouch, my family is Fangfang, she is simply a model of a modern housewife!"
I was amused by him and giggled and retorted, "Okay, you just want to pat my ass so that I can serve you every day, right?"
Xiao Ming will also laugh along, and his mother-in-law is watching from the sidelines, and her face is also full of love. In this way, the life of our family of three has become more and more flavorful, more harmonious and harmonious.
Family harmony is inseparable from everyone's careful management. As long as you resolve differences with love and treat each other's shortcomings with tolerance, you will definitely find a way to get along. Just like the conflict between me and my mother-in-law was finally resolved, as long as we insist on treating it with love, we will definitely find the path to happiness.
With the understanding and support of my family, I have the strength to face the challenges of life. Whenever I have any troubles, I think of Xiao Ming and my mother-in-law's faces, and then there is a warm current rippling in my heart. With this safe haven, I have endless courage and strength.
Yes, home is my last safe haven. As long as I have the understanding and support of my family, I will be able to make great strides forward on the road of life and overcome many obstacles. With the love of my family, my life is no longer lonely or bitter, but full of warmth and hope. Let me join hands with my family to embrace a better future!