Preface
In the busy city, we often hear the voice: "Young people, we should focus on our careers and find their career direction as soon as possible." ”
But when we are immersed in the struggle of the workplace, we will be reminded by another voice: "Don't forget to get married and have children, family is also very important." ”
These sounds, like two tight strings, make many young people feel at a loss.
topic
Recently, Xiang Songzuo, director of the Shenzhen Greater Bay Area Financial Research Institute, made a point of view, encouraging young people before the age of 40 to focus on career development. He believes that the period from graduating from university to the age of 40 is the most critical stage of his career. At this age, he wants young people to be able to work easily and without being dragged down by too many burdens, including emotional ties and financial pressures.
Xiang Songzuo further explained that young people do not need to worry too much about financial issues such as buying a house, because renting a house does not affect them to get married and have children. He encouraged young people to focus more on their career planning and career development, rather than carrying heavy financial burdens prematurely. He believes that only by being successful in his career can he create better living conditions for his future family.
point of view
In fact, in today's China, getting married and starting a family not only means the emotional union of two people, but also involves a series of practical considerations.
Among them, economic factors such as houses, cars, and bride prices often become "roadblocks" that hinder young people from entering the palace of marriage.
Especially in first-tier cities, high housing prices and the cost of living are prohibitive for many young people.
Renting a house to get married, live and have children may be a common phenomenon in foreign countries, but in China there are many restrictions. Due to the hukou system and the shortage of educational resources, not having a house often means that it is difficult for children to enjoy high-quality educational resources, which is undoubtedly a huge challenge for Chinese who value the future of their families.
Let's ask, how many men under the age of 30 can easily buy a house, buy a car, give a bride price, and buy three gold to get married? I'm afraid it's very few. This has also led to the widespread phenomenon of "leftover men and women".
When marriage became so heavy that many young people had to choose to give it up, someone put forward the suggestion of "marrying a foreign wife".
Indeed, in some countries, renting is a common phenomenon, and foreigners may be more open and tolerant about marriage and family.
This does not mean that this is a viable solution. Transnational marriage involves cultural differences, language communication and other issues, which require both parties to have sufficient preparation and adaptability. Even if you marry a foreign wife, the issue of children's education is still an unavoidable reality.
Netizen attitude
This netizen is taking a shortcut, he has a rich wife and a good wife, and he has a good child, and he can mix it up [laughing and crying]
Now that you are over 35 years old, you haven't mixed up a good career and are still looking for a job, that's basically a waste, don't say anything about a good career, it's good to be able to live a good life
You didn't get into the 35 exam, do you think there is still a play? Even if you go shit lucky, and the people who go in with you are all your sons, and it won't be your turn to be promoted if you have the opportunity, what are you going to do
A person's burden is not heavy, say that you go on a blind date in reality, you say that you rent a house, who will marry you?
Look at how many people are in China, 1.4 billion people, now that they are young people, if they just mix by themselves, can they succeed in their careers? Very little, many of them have to rely on their parents, and their families have basic support, so they may have a career, but many people are ordinary people!
Like me, family is the most important thing, just spend enough money, money is never a measure of happiness.
conclusion
We need to think at a deeper level about how to solve the problems of young people's marriage, love and career.
On the one hand, the government and society should strengthen support and guidance for young people, provide them with more employment opportunities and entrepreneurial space, reduce the cost of living, and let them have more time and energy to manage their own marriages and families.
On the other hand, young people themselves should also establish a correct outlook on marriage and love and career, make reasonable choices according to their actual situation, and pay attention to the happiness of their families when pursuing career success.
What do you think about this?