On May 3, a couple of newlyweds in Shangqiu, Henan Province chose to get married during the National Day holiday, the relatives of both sides gathered together, the man also held a banquet to welcome the guests from all over the world, and the groom also took the team to meet the bride early, which was originally a great joy, but why did the bride, the bride's girlfriend, and the man fight in the end? The marriage became a farce......
The cause of the incident: A good girlfriend turned into a poisonous girlfriend in seconds, and asked the bride to ask the groom for a 28,800 off-the-bus gift
Marriage is a major event in life, the groom greeted the bride, when he got off the car at the door, the bride's best friend suggested that the bride ask for 28,800 yuan to get off the car, if you don't give it, you won't get off the car, isn't this a temporary price increase? The groom and his relatives and friends felt very surprised, but in order for the wedding to be able to go on normally, randomly communicate with the bride, can you get off the car first, the gift money must be made up afterwards.
The bride also felt that relatives and friends on both sides were there, and she didn't want the scene to be too embarrassing, so she also agreed with the groom's statement and agreed to make up for it when she agreed. But at this time, the girlfriend jumped out again, saying that the money must be given now, and if she doesn't give it, she won't let the bride get off. Seeing this, the man's relatives and friends persuaded him for more than half an hour, and said all the good things, but finally disagreed.
Then a relative and friend of the man pulled the bride's girlfriend out of the car, saying that he scolded her, and the girlfriend immediately cried and complained to the bride, and then the bride in turn hugged and beat the man who scolded the girlfriend, and the man's relatives and friends were tempered, and couldn't help but push and pull the bride, and the bride immediately quit the marriage, unwilling to marry again, and finally left.
A good wedding turns into a farce, leaving relatives and friends on both sides at a loss.
Event focus: Can you give 28,800 off-board gifts?
The two parties should have already negotiated all the processes of the wedding, why would the girlfriend suggest a temporary increase of 28,800 drop-off gifts? Netizens have expressed their opinions, divided into two mainstream views:
First, some people understand the practice of girlfriends. The girlfriend is thinking about giving the man a "dismount", not because of the money, but because the man knows that the woman's family has someone to support him, and hopes that the man will be better to the woman in the future, and he wants to get off the car with 28,800 yuan, because he is married, it is also the common property of both parties, and it is also out of respect and understanding for the woman, and it is also to test how much the man loves the woman, out of goodwill.
The second is that most people don't understand the practice of girlfriends: marriage is a happy event, and all matters should be confirmed before marriage, and the woman's relatives should have the most right to speak. I don't think it's kind, but malicious, and I think my girlfriend should know that she shouldn't make such an excessive request at this time, and she should be directly responsible for the cancellation of the wedding.
Netizen's opinion: Fortunately, it was not formed, otherwise the cost may be greater
When netizens saw this, they overwhelmingly supported the man in the comment area, and they all felt that the woman, especially her best friend, was too much:
→ fire prevention, anti-theft and anti-girlfriends, not everyone wants you to live happily:
→ have already come to this point, and the temporary price increase is really unkind, disgusting:
→ clothing store owner said that the transaction rate of all shopping to seek the opinion of his girlfriend is almost zero:
→ netizens left a message that the sister-in-law instigated her daughter-in-law to divorce him every day, and she could earn another bride price:
The above comments illustrate the status and influence of girlfriends in women's minds, especially for some girls who do not have much autonomy, maybe a word or an action can deeply affect their behavior. This marriage incident is a typical representative, the woman listened to her best friend's words, causing the originally festive marriage to become a farce, and finally suffering herself and her relatives and friends.
Incident thinking: bride price, gold gift, door opening ceremony, getting off the bus ceremony, when is the bad habit?
The correct approach to the above incident should first focus on the overall situation. The man's relatives and friends are also a little radical, can not make hurtful actions, to work hard in the direction of the greatest interests, and in anger, many times the woman is more unable to listen to opinions, at this time should seek the help of the woman's elders may be more helpful to solve and deal with the problem.
At the same time, he also warned the woman that when making decisions on major matters, she must consider it carefully, be assertive, and not listen to the words of unrelated parties, whether it is good or malicious, she must distinguish between them. The temporary increase in the number of disembarkation gifts may be beyond the capacity of the man's family, and the temporary change of good things not only does not increase the authority and dignity of the woman, but also undermines the principle of good faith in marriage, and also loses grace.
Now as long as it comes to marriage, many young people are a little afraid, mainly most of the ordinary people, it is difficult to bear the expensive bride price, as little as tens of thousands of yuan, more than hundreds of thousands, so that many families are miserable; in addition, marriage also has to buy "hardware", gold rings, gold bracelets, gold necklaces, gold earrings, gold pendants, and it is a big expense, especially now the gold price is very expensive, rising every year, buying a small woman has no face, and buying a big one is very expensive.
And then there is the opening ceremony when picking up relatives, to give red envelopes, to give less do not let you enter the door, do not let you pick up relatives; and this time the car ceremony, we have also seen the relevant news in many places, as little as tens of millions, more than tens of thousands of yuan, do not give money and do not get off.
The above problems have turned the originally festive marriage into a farce, and two people who may have been happy have a rift in their emotions because of this incident, laying the groundwork for unhappiness after marriage.
We understand that the cost of raising children in many families is very high, especially the woman, who may indeed make less contribution to the original family after marriage, and it is understandable that if you want a bride price, you should pay your parents' pension money in advance, and more women's parents will also give all or part of the bride price back to the married children as the basic expenses of the family, which is more understandable.
But if the matter of marriage is turned into a means of "making a fortune", it is a big mistake, if it causes the unhappy marriage of the children, and the final payment is still for themselves and the children, it will be even more than worth the loss.
The cost of marriage, the cost of living, and the cost of raising children are important reasons for the low marriage rate and low fertility rate of young people.
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