Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and where there are rivers and lakes, there are grievances.
When you meet someone you have a grudge against, how can you take revenge effectively?
If you turn your face and don't recognize people, or tear your face at will, you will hurt yourself.
Especially when the enemy is strong and I am weak, as soon as you turn your face, the other party will immediately grab you and hit your vital force.
Always find some long-term solutions to make yourself win in the end.
During the Warring States Period, Guiguzi lived in seclusion in the countryside and brought out a group of high-ranking disciples such as Zhang Yi, Su Qin, Pang Juan, and Sun Bin, so that the general trend of the world was under his control.
His three sentences are clearly reflected in his disciple and military strategist Sun Bin, and they also let Sun Bin get out of the trough and usher in the highlight moment of his life.
The past is used for the present, and we can also know how to take revenge on a person and how to hit the villains around us.
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Prevent rape with wisdom: use ingenuity.
One day during the Warring States Period, Pang Juan heard that Wei was recruiting talents, so he immediately said goodbye to his teacher Guiguzi.
Classmate Sun Bin saw that Pang Juan was leaving, and he was reluctant to send Pang Juan to the intersection.
Sun Bin said: "Don't forget me. ”
Pang Juan said: "When you go down the mountain in the future, you will come to me." ”
After a period of time, Sun Bin learned something and went directly to Wei. After all, there is still drama when he defects to his old classmates.
At this time, Pang Juan was already a general of Wei and was very famous.
When Sun Bin arrived in the Wei Kingdom, he was treated as a guest by Pang Juan, and introduced to the King of Wei, saying: "We are classmates, and we will assist the Wei Kingdom together in the future and share the wealth." ”
King Wei asked Sun Bin to set up a formation, and Pang Juan watched from the side, dazed, not knowing what the formation was.
Sun Bin said: "This is the reversal of the Eight Gate Formation. ”
Pang Juan immediately became jealous, and then fabricated the facts, saying that Sun Bin was going to defect. In a fit of rage, King Wei ordered Sun Bin's kneecap to be cut off, and the words "fornication with foreign countries" were tattooed on his face.
Then, Pang Juan asked Sun Bin to write down the "Art of War" to avoid being lost.
Sun Bin had an epiphany that he was used by Pang Juan. But he did not turn his face immediately, but repeatedly delayed writing "The Art of War".
Sun Bin also opened the bag given by Guiguzi - "Crazy Demon".
Fight tough people and you're going to lose. If you can't fight the enemy, you can only outwit it.
The first time is to save one's life and ensure vitality.
According to the method of "preventing adultery with wisdom", that is, in the future, we must be more cautious and have a few more eyes. Don't be hurt further by the other person.
Wisdom is your shield, the foundation of your insight.
If you slowly restrain your heart and reduce the expression of your true feelings, the other party will also be afraid of you.
First, you continue to learn, to turn pain into experience, and not to allow yourself to be hurt twice.
Second, you have to look at the words and looks, look for the weak points of the other party, and see how to strike.
Third, you keep your true temperament and use feints to confuse the other party to avoid the other party's anger and the dog jumping off the wall.
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Eli makes a traitor: a good temptation.
Sun Bin was in the Wei State, becoming more and more crazy, and occasionally wrote "The Art of War".
Pang Juan saw that it still had a certain use value, so he did not take further action.
After waiting for a long time, Sun Bin was discovered by the envoys of the State of Qi and then brought to the State of Qi.
When he arrived in the State of Qi, Sun Bin was reused by King Qi Wei and Tian Ji and became a military advisor.
It just so happened that Pang Juan led his troops to attack Zhao State.
Zhao asked Qi for help, and Sun Bin advocated "encircling Wei to save Zhao".
Pang Juan was in Zhao State, fighting vigorously, and when he heard that his old nest Wei State was besieged, he immediately withdrew his troops.
Later, Sun Bin took advantage of Pang Juan's mentality of rushing for quick success and quick profit, and in the Battle of Maling, he led Pang Juan to a "dead end" and annihilated him in one fell swoop.
The poem says: "In the past, the fake books were like ghosts, but tonight the crossbow is as wonderful as a god." The intersection must be faithful, and Mo Xue Pang Juan has fallen from himself. ”
Interests are like a demon mirror, showing the ugliness and truth of human nature.
When you meet a vicious person, you should not compete with him for benefits, otherwise he will treat you as a bigger opponent and deal with you in a more powerful way.
You should be moderate and generous, give him a little benefit, and make him feel that you are "still valuable and not aggressive".
When you want to deal with the other party, use great interests to test him and let him chase interests.
It's like fishing, you give the bait and the fish takes the bait.
As the saying goes, "Man dies for money, and birds die for food." ”
People will take great pains for fame, status, merit, family background, money, feelings, etc. If you take advantage of this feature, you can let mercenary people lead you by the nose.
Talking about morality and reasoning with the person who wants to take revenge is all playing the harp to the cow. Only interests can make them lose themselves. If you are clear-headed, you can make it look good.
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Properly closed: able to advance and retreat.
Guiguzi wrote in "The Close": "Yang moves and goes, Yin stops and hides, Yang moves out, Yin hides in, Yang is far away and ends in Yin, and Yin is anti-Yang." ”
The art of shutting is based on the way of yin and yang. You can hide it, you can show it, you can follow the trend, then you can take the initiative in the situation.
At the beginning, Sun Bin didn't see Pang Juan clearly, and he showed everything, so he was very passive.
Later, Sun Bin knew how to forbear, hide his wisdom, and arrange his actions according to Pang Juan's behavior, so he could win every time.
When Pang Juan was destroyed, Sun Bin also chose to retire.
If people are not in the rivers and lakes, there will be no disturbances in the rivers and lakes.
Everything has rules for how it works. The same is true for people, flowers are not red for a hundred days.
You took revenge on your opponent today, but you are still in the rivers and lakes tomorrow, and there will be more opponents, when will you get revenge?
If you take the initiative in confrontation, you can win a game, and if you take the initiative to grasp your own advances and retreats, you can win a lifetime.
As a man, you are relaxed and orderly, and you are less likely to be hurt by others, and you can live a comfortable life.
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To take revenge on a person is not to fight savagely, nor to deliberately create a lot of trouble, but to resolve the trouble and make one's life better.
People's hearts are like deep valleys, and there is no bottom in sight. We can only look and do according to human nature, so that we can know in our hearts.
When you encounter someone you can't afford to provoke, you have to retreat and hide. When you grow and the opportunity is ripe, let's talk about it.
Learn more from Guiguzi, use wisdom to deal with barbarism, use interests to induce opponents, and use homeopathic advances and retreats to preserve your life.
People walk in the rivers and lakes, how can they not get their shoes wet, but don't be angry, you have to think in the long run.
Think about it, how can you win in the end, be pampered and not surprised, and stay unintentionally.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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