"Life in the world, ups and downs, the heart is soft and hard, harden the heart, cut off the unwillingness, give up the delusions, leave all consumption, the heart is hard, and life will be soft. —— Zhuang Yating
In the fast-paced modern life, each of us is burdened with anxiety and anxiety to a greater or lesser extent, and is pulled by various social expectations and inner desires. We crave to be understood, but we are afraid to be different, and we strive for perfection but often fall into self-doubt. How to find our place in the chaotic world, how to protect the softness of our hearts, and at the same time be resilient to face challenges has become a topic we must face.
Zhuang Yating's book "Hard Heart" provides us with a philosophy of life, teaching us how to find a balance between softness and hardness, and how to make wise choices in complex interpersonal relationships and self-growth.
Zhuang Yating, a writer and senior media person, used to be the editorial director of "Oriental Weekly" and the deputy editor-in-chief of "Jia Ren" magazine, known for her sharp and attitude style. Her works such as "Those Injured Young People", "Loving You Like Loving Sick", and "How We Got This Far" are all loved by readers.
01 Hard-hearted attitude to life
In Zhuang Yating's "Hard Heart", she shows us a unique attitude towards life, which encourages us to maintain a firm and wise decision-making ability in the face of life's twists and turns. Hard-heartedness does not mean a lack of empathy or indifference to others, but rather a commitment to self-worth and purpose. It requires us to have a deep understanding of our true desires and not be swayed by external expectations and evaluations, so as to make the most suitable choice for ourselves at critical moments.
At the heart of this attitude to life is self-awareness and self-preservation. It requires us to be resilient in the face of difficulties and challenges, and not to give up easily. This is not only a protection of personal interests, but also a kind of adherence to one's own values. Even in the face of adversity, it is the greatest respect and responsibility to insist on doing the right thing.
For example, in the process of career promotion, a middle manager did not choose to give up in the face of competition from colleagues and challenges from workplace politics, but adhered to his career plan, and finally won the opportunity for promotion by improving his business ability and team management skills. This story tells us that in the workplace, being hard-hearted means having a clear plan and a firm pursuit of one's career, and not being distracted by external interference to deviate from one's goals.
Another case is about sticking to personal principles. A young woman who encounters a conflict of ethics and interests at work chooses to stick to her principles when faced with a project that could harm the interests of consumers, even if it means putting her job at risk. Her actions show the other side of hard-heartedness, which is to stick to her values and insist on doing the right thing, even in the face of adversity.
Finally, the decision to make emotional choices is also an important aspect. A man is hesitant about a new relationship after a failed relationship, fearing to get hurt again. But he finally decided not to be haunted by the failures of the past, bravely started a new romance, and kept himself in the new relationship without blindly compromising. It is the embodiment of hard-hearted relationships in emotional relationships, a form of self-preservation that helps us avoid repeating the mistakes of the past and encourages us to be brave enough to face new possibilities.
Overall, a hard-hearted approach to life emphasizes sticking to one's personal values and goals, and making smart choices in the face of challenges. This is not only a manifestation of self-responsibility, but also allows us to stand up for our own interests and respect others at critical times. It pushes us to take ownership of our lives and live our authentic selves.
02 The wisdom of life of renunciation
In "Hard Heart", Zhuang Yating not only advocates a hard-hearted attitude to life, but also further depicts the wisdom of life for us. Abandonment, a concept of Japanese origin, has been given a new meaning by the author, which is not a simple material cut, but a philosophy of life, a process of purification of the soul.
Renunciation is first and foremost a process of self-knowledge. It requires us to understand ourselves deeply and understand what is really important to us and what we can let go. This wisdom encourages us to be able to clearly recognize what is necessary and what is an unnecessary burden when facing the people and things in life. It is the courage to choose and give up, requiring us to be brave enough to make choices when we recognize that something is no longer for us and to let go of those elements that no longer serve our current and future lives. This kind of renunciation is not an escape, but a mature decision, a pursuit of self-growth and quality of life improvement.
Letting go is an inner transformation. It is not only the sorting out of the external environment, but also the sorting out of the inner world. Through renunciation, we learn to simplify our lives and reduce unnecessary desires and obsessions, thus making room for what really matters and allowing the mind to rest and nourish.
In the abandonment of material life, an urban white-collar worker began to reflect on his dependence on material things after experiencing the pain of moving. She found that she had more than she actually needed, and that they not only took up physical space, but also consumed a lot of her time and energy. She decided to sort the items, keeping only those that were really useful and meaningful, and the rest to donate or discard. Through this process, she not only frees up physical space, but more importantly, she feels a sense of ease and freedom in her heart. This case reminds us that the true quality of life does not depend on the amount of goods we have, but on our ability to find a balance between the material and the spiritual.
The disconnection of emotional relationships is equally important. A woman who has gone through many failed relationships finds herself always stuck in unhealthy emotional patterns. She realized that she needed to be freed from the pain of her past in order to embark on a new emotional journey. She began to identify and let go of unhealthy emotional patterns through counseling and self-reflection. She learns how to reconcile with herself, how to say goodbye to the past, and opens up new possibilities for her emotional life. This case teaches us that sometimes, letting go is not about forgetting, but about getting a better start.
The disconnection of career development should not be overlooked. A man who has been in the same job for a long time feels burnout, he realizes that he needs to change, but is afraid of unknown risks. After much deliberation, he decided to give up his current job and pursue a career he was truly passionate about. Despite the uncertainty surrounding the decision, he felt more driven and passionate than ever before. This case teaches us that sometimes, the most difficult thing is not to face the unknown, but to let go of the old patterns that seem safe but no longer serve our growth.
Overall, renunciation is a kind of life wisdom that requires us to be brave enough to let go of things that no longer fit, simplify our lives, and reduce our desires to make room for what is important. Not only does this make our environment tidy, but more importantly, it nourishes our hearts and enriches our lives. Through hardening and renunciation, we can better control our lives and live our true selves.
03 The power of gentleness
In Hard Heart, Zhuang delicately portrays the power of gentleness, an often underrated but highly influential quality. She believes that meekness is not weakness or submission, but an inner strength that is able to influence others in a positive way and inspire more positive energy.
The power of gentleness is first and foremost manifested in a deep understanding and respect for others. In interpersonal interactions, through a gentle attitude, we are better able to listen to the thoughts and needs of others and build deeper connections. This power allows us to be considerate of others while maintaining our own position, and to seek consensus rather than simply giving in or giving in.
In addition, gentleness is also an attitude towards oneself. In a world full of stress and challenges, we tend to be too ourselves, and the power of gentleness teaches us how to be tolerant of ourselves and give ourselves room to grow and make mistakes. This self-tenderness helps us build a healthier self-image and build resilience within.
In real life, the power of gentleness can be a manifestation of action. It encourages us to convey warmth and kindness through small acts of kindness in our daily lives. These acts of kindness may seem insignificant, but they can bring strength and hope to others, and may even change a person's life.
For example, a single mother in the process of raising her child, despite the great pressure and challenges she faces, she always maintains gentleness and patience, guiding her child with love and understanding, rather than harshness and criticism. Her gentleness not only helps children grow up healthily, but also earns her the respect and love of children. This case illustrates that tenderness in the family is a powerful educational force that can provide a loving environment for children to grow up in and help them develop a positive outlook on life.
In the workplace, a business executive demonstrates a gentle yet firm leadership style by respecting the opinions of each team member, encouraging them to come up with innovative ideas, and providing them with the necessary support and resources. This gentle leadership style inspires creativity and cohesion in the team, enabling the team to continuously overcome challenges and achieve excellent results. This proves that gentleness at work is an effective form of leadership that brings out the best in the team and fosters collaboration and innovation in the team.
Meekness in society is likewise a powerful social force. When participating in community service, one volunteer uses tenderness and care to help those in need, whether it is the elderly or poor children, she treats them with a gentle heart. Her tenderness and care not only brought material help to these people, but more importantly, she gave them spiritual comfort and hope.
The power of gentleness is an inner strength that inspires us to convey warmth and kindness in our daily lives through understanding, respect for others, and the manifestation of our own attitude. This strength is not weakness, but a manifestation of wisdom and positive action that helps to build deep interpersonal relationships, promote social harmony, and strengthen the inner resilience of the individual. Within the framework of hard-hearted and renunciation, the power of gentleness offers a constructive way of life that enriches and gives meaning to our lives.
04 Conclusion
The book "Hard Heart", with its unique perspective and profound insights, provides us with a new attitude and philosophy of life. It teaches us that when facing the challenges of life, we must not only have a strong heart to persist and guard, but also have a soft heart to understand and tolerate. Through a balance of hard-hearted and gentle heart, we can better cope with the ups and downs of life and find our own happiness and fulfillment.
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May we all meet the 'soft-hearted God' and live our true selves with gentle strength."
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